The man knows full well that cheating on his wife is an act of infidelity that not only brings back painful memories to the other half, but also makes him feel guilty and condemned by his conscience. The actual fact that you can rationally control your own desires, encounter temptation is just masturbation, but how many people can do it.
The psychological state of the philandering man
At the root of this, an important point may be related to the complex family environment at an early age. For example, witnessing parents’ cheating and divorce, etc. People who grew up in that unloving environment are more desperate for love than the average person. They are afraid of being abandoned, afraid of a life without love, and are greedy for love.
In fact, they don’t love themselves, let alone love others, because the shadows of their childhood can make them wonder if they hold the right to be loved. Even after getting married and having a happy family, they are not satisfied and spend their days worrying that they will be abandoned by their lover, and a strong sense of loneliness eats away at their fragile hearts. So they choose to betray and choose to hurt others before they get hurt.
The object of cheating may be one person or many, in any case, they cannot stop their crazy game until they remove their uneasiness. Since it’s a game, they don’t have to break up with you, they’re just looking for solace in their hearts. If they are asked to make a choice, they may be at an impasse because really they love both and can’t decide. For women, this is indeed a cunning excuse and hard to forgive. Many know that cheating is bad, but there is no way to stop, they can’t find the reason, and painfully enjoy the love, unable to make a stop at a port in their life.
Betrayal is a problem for two people
Even when men are not unhappy with their significant others and there are no major problems between them, they will still take the bait if they are tempted. Women will aggressively ask why they want to see a different person when they are obviously happy. But for men it is very different. This is the point of conflict between men and women, women will love more and more over time, men will slowly lose love over time, in their opinion, love and sex are two different things.
In desire, excitement comes before love, excitement is what gives them vitality, as long as there is desire, no matter who it is at any time. Of course it’s not inevitable, but it’s never a coincidence. I can’t say that all men are like this, but it’s not a bad thing for women to be more vigilant, and that includes the stream of juniors. It’s right to choose to be brave for love, but be careful of hurting yourself. The man may just give you a wonderful illusion for his own desire.
Solve the problem with patience and a positive attitude, not just brutality
It’s understandable to blame and complain when things go east, but also know that because it’s not as attractive in his eyes as it used to be, he’s out there looking for excitement. So before you cry about it, think about whether you have always struggled to be an attractive woman. If there is a shining you in his heart, there is no room for anyone else.
When there is a problem, it means you are both at fault. Usually, if and when the other half is like glue, men do not have the energy to cheat, even if there is temptation, they can still use the weapons of reason to defend your love. For cheating on this thing, some men need sexual satisfaction, while some men need spiritual satisfaction. In other words, they need the comfort of the soul and desire to be respected, and if they can’t get it from you, they will run away from the harsh reality. In order to avoid this situation the first thing you have to do is not to ignore, do not ignore each other’s thoughts and feelings, love speaks axiom does not work, happiness is the need to operate need to accommodate. Many women will take a default laissez-faire attitude after finding a man cheating, which will only make the situation develop in a direction unfavorable to you. Don’t let yourself become a resentful woman, trying to solve the problem requires the two of you to work together, and you have to remember that good communication is the best option to get you going in the long run.