Why are there so many women willing to go back and forth for a philandering man?
In fact, it is because he is so gentle and considerate to everyone that every woman feels that she must be the most special one in his heart even if she is not his real girlfriend and willingly stays by his side. So your boyfriend’s virtues are common to philandering men, and not particularly outstanding.
But if you’re a smart enough woman, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with marrying a philandering man.
First, let’s consider the basic principles of relationships: you at least know that his sexual orientation is normal, and this is a matter of principle. Do not think that homosexuality problem is extremely few cases, I have a male friend who has some deviation in sexual orientation and intends to marry a random wife to cope with mom and dad and people around him. If he took deceitful means, then you can imagine how sad it would be to be his wife. I also have another male friend who married a gay girl as his wife, and he thought love could change everything. He later told me when he got divorced that he still believed that love could change everything, provided that the two people loved each other to do so.
Secondly, let’s consider the safety factor of marriage: when it comes to marriage, to get a philandering man married, you must have something special in his heart, such as you are especially tolerant of him, or he is especially dependent on you, or moreover you take up a large part of his love. The specific way you get along with each other, your letter didn’t say much, and I can’t tell exactly. But for whatever reason, since he is still married to you despite having many options, the possibility of him being tempted to leave you is rather small. The fact that he snooped on his ex-girlfriend’s blog shows that he is also a good boy who values his feelings. Every man will have old lovers in his heart, the difference is in his heart is one or several. Want to find completely do not miss the old, unless from the first love to start cultivating, or to find a widow. The former is too high an investment of time, and the latter has a higher risk factor.
Lastly, let’s think about it in terms of the number of flowers around him: if his philandering is just a matter of quantity, without real feelings, then time can totally solve it. When he is old and decrepit, thanks to the top of the beer belly, even if there are flowers and plants before and after, he can only have the heart and power. Of course, in order to speed up this process, you can take a strategic plan to persuade him to smoke more, drink more, do not exercise, etc., to completely defeat him from time to time.