Two people who have been in love for a long time inevitably feel their feelings fading, not to mention the seven-year itch that can find you after two people have been married for a long time. The way to get along as a couple is not only to tolerate each other and not want to care, but sometimes to give life the right changes to warm up the two people’s feelings.
Reasons for the seven-year itch
I. Life The arguments over trivial matters make the couple drift apart.
In a sea of people, it is a rare destiny to meet, know each other, get to know each other and hold hands, and it seems that two people can get married and have children as if they are ‘fated to love you’. However, what leads to mutual boredom is precisely the accumulation of cockamamie events.
Many times, we all feel that the deeper the love, the lonelier it is, because that forgetful love carries with it nagging, questioning and nonsense, and although the starting point is concern for the loved one, it often leads to unpleasant results.
When love ceases to be romantic and becomes a burden to each other, the couple’s emotions drift apart.
Second, the scale of tolerance is getting wider and wider, leaving couples lacking cohesion.
Before marriage, women are ‘aunts’, after marriage, men pretend to be ‘masters’, the emotional role of Transformation, so many women for a while difficult to adapt to, and even difficult to find a balance, for this reason will lament ‘really blind, on a pirate ship’, with a complaint, in the unwilling, upset, anxious, remorseful state of mind do not know how to love. So, often their own I comforted to own to pretend that they do not care, so that the scale of tolerance for the lover is getting bigger and bigger, the result will be to become more and more do not care about everything the lover does, thus making the couple lack cohesion.
Many people who have been in the siege for a long time will have this feeling: our marriage is like chicken ribs, eat is boring, throw is a pity, for this reason, the man more ‘casual’, the woman less The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Three, the impact of multiculturalism has stirred up the loyal heart of the couple.
Comparing cars, careers, and houses; lovers, second wives, and mistresses. The world’s most important thing is to be able to have a good understanding of the world, and to be able to have a good understanding of the world.
The embodiment of coal material about extramarital affairs seems to have taught no one to cherish a rare marriage, but instead has taught some people with evil intentions how to straddle the line between lover and lover. People are supposed to be a group that can think rationally and independently, but more people are happy to speak with their lower bodies.
Under the night sky, it seems everyone feels like a lonely game, stirring up marital fidelity in the face of temptation.
How do couples get rid of the marital itch?
One, give each other enough trust and free space to ignore the gossip you hear.
In life, many people like to use ‘I heard’ to deny the warmth of marriage, because more people would rather believe in the gossip of strangers than in the The reason for this is that many couples’ conflicts start with the ‘I heard’ sowing discord.
With their own suspicions and ‘heard comments’ about their lover, they make a big deal out of their lover’s phone records and text messages and chat logs.
It’s harder to be smart and harder to be confused, and for that reason, couples need to give each other enough trust and free space, because the tighter the grip on human interaction, the easier it is to lose it, and never try to argue with the gossip you hear, but ignore it.
Two, keep a good mindset and never take the success of others to squeeze the mediocrity of your loved ones.
Other people’s lives are stories, their own lives are days. For those who are richer than us, we envy can envy; for those who are poorer than us, we can pity. The most taboo thing is: don’t taunt your loved ones with the success and beauty of others.
Husbands and wives need a minimum of respect, especially in family and friends or in public, even if they don’t give high praise to their loved ones, they must at least do it without being sarcastic and prickly to them.
Three, insist on exercising, cultivating hobbies and creating a good atmosphere for couples to have sex.
Human beings are visual creatures, men and women alike, and if they do not develop the habit of exercising, they will certainly be blessed in middle age, not to mention how their lovers look at them, at least they will feel uncomfortable and the obese will carry various diseases. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Middle-aged men and women, whether in material or leisure life, do not overly dependent on their loved ones, to develop their own hobbies, not to return home from work lonely and empty cold, and not to foolishly wait for their loved ones to come home in the interval of the imagination.
How important is sex life for the development of the couple’s emotions, I’m afraid that only sexually happy couples can really appreciate, for this reason, middle-aged men should not let themselves travel room can not, middle-aged women should not allow themselves to sexually uninterested in the room.
Fourth, share household chores, treat each other’s parents equally, and educate their children in a measured manner.
Shared housework is not about doing the housework itself, but about both spouses being able to participate in the work of the home so that each can experience a sense of family presence.
The parents of each other are not the core of the new family, but they can affect the couple’s relationship by the way they treat each other, so try to be relatively equal when it comes to each other’s parents. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have the right amount of money.