As hard as it is to talk about a long distance relationship, there are couples who persevere to the end. If you are also experiencing a long distance relationship, check out other people’s tips for success. Running a relationship is exhausting enough, let alone when there are miles between the two, or a state, or an ocean. But successful long-distance relationships do exist…
1. First, there are some very important questions to figure out
to get a clearer picture of your relationship Define your relationship in some terms, just want to date occasionally? Or see each other regularly? Boyfriend and girlfriend? Or maybe it’s about to get engaged. For the guy who is alone, define if you are a celibate or not. Answering these questions is really difficult and awkward, but it will really save you the never-ending headaches and misunderstandings. For example, “Would you consider moving if we were further along in our relationship?” Or: “What would you like to get out of our relationship?” Articulating your ultimate goals and ideas will allow two people to operate together for these.
2. Unify and collaborate, defy distance
It’s important to As a poor long-distance couple, you should be doing something else together besides talking on the phone. Is it boring to be on the phone for a long time? Try some other forms of collaboration. Think about it: non-located couples never spend a lot of time on the phone, but rather find something to do together. Try doing the same and try to find something to do together while watching the same TV or movie. Looking forward to a list of items about collaborative activities?
3. No matter what, communicate every day
and as much as you can. more. Even though you can’t see each other, it’s important to establish and maintain emotional communication. It doesn’t always need to be a long and deep communication. Tell each other about your small accomplishments or setbacks and ask what to do. Email is a good thing, don’t stop using it. Don’t forget that emails and texts can cause misunderstandings between you, especially if long distance calls are straining your wallet. Write a love letter, or send a small gift online for no reason. That way, the quantity of communication will be as important as the quality. You’ll find that you even have an advantage over your non-hetero classmates: you won’t see communication as routine.
4. Discover the advantages that come with long distance
More time for Your friends and family, who don’t fight over petty chicken scratch, have more time to figure out your options when you encounter unreasonable requests from each other (long distance should be via email) or other similar situations (instead of giving your loved one a head start like you would if you were not long distance). More importantly, the distance between you allows you to maintain your individuality, something that gets lost in the daily you-and-you of couples.
5. Pursue a common hobby
even if it’s pursued separately. If a movie comes out that you’re both interested in, then go see it individually and exchange afterthoughts on the phone. Read a book at the same time and daydream together while on the phone. Make your watches show the same number every moment, make your alarms go off at the same time, think of each other at the same time at a certain point in the day, and experience the sweetness of the other person thinking of you at the same moment. Use your creativity to bring you closer to each other.
6. Forget about the evil idea of total control over each other
Life is equal. No one can or should be controlled by another. Since you have decided to choose this long distance relationship, you have to accept the fact that it is not necessarily related to long distance. If one partner doesn’t feel comfortable with the other, or has someone better in mind, then your relationship is over if you’re 3,000 feet apart, or two blocks away, or sleeping in the same bed with your wedding picture on the wall. On the contrary, as long as your relationship continues, then trust each other completely.