Maybe the pressure of life has led to a huge increase in the number of leftover men and women today, and in this materialistic society, people are becoming more and more materialistic, and the road to finding a partner has become extremely difficult. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
One, I love my freedom
The reason behind: she is busy with work, working out, seeing exhibitions, going to concerts, meeting friends, and taking vacations. But she doesn’t have 1 minute to herself. Where in her schedule is there time for a man? In fact, she makes her life so full precisely so that she leaves no room for men to have a place in her life.
Where does this extreme desire for self-control and fear of losing control come from? Most likely, her parents liked to dictate orders, always judging her, always criticizing, always looking at her with a critical eye. If she couldn’t say “no” to this kind of scrutiny when she was a little girl, then she couldn’t face men when she grew up. So she chose to close herself off and not leave any gaps.
II. I don’t want to go through the pain again
The reason behind. She has lost some man, she left him or he abandoned her, she is addicted to the pain caused by love and can’t extricate herself. She can’t get out of an unreal relationship. Or, she always had a dream man: a father, a brother or a friend. In short, she didn’t know how to overcome it.
As a victim of a past relationship, she is unable to take charge of her life or start a new one. She is trapped within an illusory relationship and rejects new relationships in order to continue living in her illusory world. She is single, but she is not alone in her heart, she just can’t start a new relationship.
Three, I can’t touch my other half
Behind the reason: She’s right. s right. She hadn’t met the right person. Because she was not willing to take the risk, she had told herself she would lose before she went into battle. She refuses to face the danger that feelings may bring. Her rejection of relationships is a blindfold for her lack of confidence.
And, if she is persuaded to start a relationship, she is quick to admit, “I’m a loser no matter what!” What kind of a mother does such a self-depreciating woman have? Does her mother say more frequently that the only way you can find a man is to lose weight, stop cutting your hair, be more feminine, and go to more social gatherings? Or did she start two-thirds of her sentences with “My poor daughter”? In order to get out of the pain of self-contempt, the woman who is at the mercy of fate may move from “I am a loser” to “men are losers”. Well, that’s exactly what Mom always says!
IV. I’m waiting for the perfect guy
Reason behind. The romantic is not yet grown up and still thinks she’s a superhero who gets whatever she wants. She may come across as smart, capable and sober in many areas. But when it comes to relationships, she’s “blind”! She is waiting for her Prince Charming at the tip of the ivory tower. Her fears are hidden behind romance and pure love. But her life is a challenge to mediocrity.
Unfortunately, she will keep waiting, because if she doesn’t take that step, no one will walk towards her. Especially if she doesn’t accept the reality that Prince Charming was never a real person, and that people make mistakes, just as she herself did.
V. I run into life’s losers
Reason’s Behind the scenes: the bad thing is, she’s telling the truth. What’s worse is that she thinks the other person will only love her if she is of use. She is often attracted to men with scars and will try to heal his wounds. But this is a gender relationship based on pain. While she loves the other man, she feels that he loves her too. But the man is a vampire: by the time she gives all she has, he too leaves, leaving her behind.
And she, on the other hand, will painfully say to herself, “I did so much for him and he ……” She holds on to love Such a view is usually influenced by the parents. Her mother must have often said: “I don’t understand why you are still single! You are perfectly capable of making men happy!” And it has nothing to do with love.
Six, I don’t like sex
The reason behind it: she likes her job, surrounded by friends, in short, she knows how to manage relationships, provided of course that no sex is involved. It’s not love she’s afraid of, it’s sex. Many women fail to recognize this. In the past, she was able to face this fear in the arms of her partner, no matter what.
Now that celibacy is accepted by everyone, she simply takes this form to avoid sex. As time goes by, her fear of sex will deepen. At the very least, the “sexualized” society of today does not allow her to feel at ease. In addition, she fears that her inability to enjoy sex traps her in a “dysfunctional” state.