[Guide]Jokes are jokes, but emotional experts also point out that the way you break up will affect whether both sides can get out of the shadows and continue to pursue new love, so it’s important to give love a “good end.
The “cheapest way to break up”
Some people look back on their breakups with their ex-boyfriends, and they still have palpitations. The two of them got along for half a year, and they found that they had no common language, and every date was like a heavy burden, so they wanted to break up.
She was a kind and gentle girl who felt there was nothing wrong with the other side, and because of the introducer, she was reluctant to say the word “break up” face-to-face, but just said “let’s think about whether we’re right for each other” at the end of a silent date.
She was reluctant to say the word “break up” face-to-face, but after a silent date, she said, “Let’s think about whether we’re right for each other.
She thought that was a pretty clear breakup, and she didn’t hear from him again for weeks on end. Soon after, she met her subsequent boyfriend and the relationship progressed very quickly.
On Valentine’s Day evening this year, she asked her boyfriend to meet her in the lobby of her office to wait for her to get off work, and to her surprise, when she came downstairs, she found two men standing in front of her at the same time, holding roses in their hands! The former boyfriend couldn’t believe she was entering a new relationship so quickly and repeatedly said, “Give me another chance,” while the current boyfriend thought she was broken up with her ex and lacked sincerity.
This time, she told her ex that “we’re done” and then explained the situation to her current boyfriend. The company’s newest product is a new product, a new product that will be released in the next few years.
Besides this awkwardness, netizens have offered a variety of nasty breakup lines. “We were in love for almost six years, working in separate cities after graduation, seeing each other once a week. I remember a month before we broke up, he even told me: let’s get married in a year.
Then the company laid off, I was laid off, but calling and texting him for comfort, I couldn’t find anyone. Then finally one day the phone got through and he was impatient, then he didn’t talk and didn’t hang up and let me listen. On the other end of the line, he was shopping for groceries with a girl and discussing whether he wanted to eat barbecued ribs, and I hung up.
The next day, I received a text message from him with just a few words: I know you’re a smart guy, I’m sorry ……”
It’s not uncommon to find boyfriends as extreme as this. “His girlfriend and him together in a few years, for him to abort twice, each time because the man said in order to work or temporarily do not want children; to the end of the girlfriend became a habitual abortion, can no longer carry a child, the man broke up with her, the reason is: can not carry a child!”
While there are subtle breakups like Xiaoye’s, there are also very straightforward but equally unpopular breakups, such as “directly inviting your girlfriend who hasn’t broken up yet to his wedding ……” and ” She told him: I’m going out with my ex tomorrow for the holidays, so I’m going out with you ……”
New technology has given rise to new breakup “cheap tricks. In the days when messaging systems weren’t so advanced, people had to announce their breakups face-to-face, or at least over the phone. But with the advent of new technology, breakups have evolved with the times, with texting, emailing, personal space, social networking sites, twitter ……
The most famous case of “texting to get dumped” is that of the famous singer The most famous case of “texting to get dumped” is the famous singer and former husband Kevin (twitter), who reportedly received a text message from his wife asking for a breakup while recording a TV show. Of course, these new ways, which are convenient for the proactive, cause more harm to the passive.
This is a breakup story from the US: Julia met a doctor on a dating site. Julia thought the doctor was sincere and good-looking, so she fell in love with him for 8 months, and the doctor then proposed.
As the best day approached, Julia suddenly received an email from her fiancé with a simple name: “Please read this.” She thought it was good news, but when she saw it, she preferred she hadn’t clicked in. “The email attached an attachment saying I am not right for him, our relationship is over, please send back the engagement ring, and my items will arrive tomorrow.”
In the following days, Julia barely pretended to be happy, afraid to tell anyone that the marriage was off, and she cried at home for a month after another. Finally, the doctor sent another email with just four words, “Are you OK?”
Three years later Julia is still single, and when she thinks about the past, she can’t help but be angry: “Are you a cruel coward with any humanity left? This is no respect for someone who has loved you for two years! …… sends emails! You can’t even make sure the other person got your message!”
Another breakup story was even more unfortunate: Leslie checked her Facebook social media feed and suddenly found her status as “single. It turns out that her boyfriend has a new girlfriend, and Leslie learned that she was “dumped” entirely through the social media site.
In this turn of events, Leslie’s boyfriend first changed his Facebook profile, then changed Leslie’s, making it clear that they were no longer a couple. What’s worse, the pair’s friends knew about the breakup before Leslie did.
One Chinese netizen provided a case of the “come clean” type: the guy deliberately showed his girlfriend the other girl’s messages on his phone, letting her know about the mistress, and voluntarily admitting that the two had had an intimate affair. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
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Remote breakup is “cowardly”
The difficulty with breakups is that first, it’s important to clearly communicate the breakup to the other person, and second, to avoid hurting the other person’s self-esteem. The number of people using text messages, emails, twitter and other means to “break up remotely” is growing, but it is by no means the most popular way to break up: it clearly communicates what you want, but it undoubtedly hurts the other person – you’re just going to get rid of me? Do you think of me as a rag or something?
Irana Gershon, an associate professor at Indiana University’s School of Culture and Communication, found in interviews that “almost all respondents thought that breakups should be face-to-face, and the only person who thought otherwise was presumably the one who initiated the breakup, not the one who passively accepted it.”
Of course we have to acknowledge that the choice of how to break up has to do with how the person sees and runs the relationship. For example, if you’ve only been on two or three dates, then no more phone calls are enough to show that you want to end the relationship; but if you’ve had a long relationship with the other person, or even gotten to the stage of being engaged, it’s necessary to talk about it face-to-face when you choose to break up again, or at least call and tell the other person, which is the more responsible thing to do.
The majority of respondents and experts say that serious breakups should not be sent via text message or email, and that it’s “cowardly” to be afraid to face up to relationship issues.
Don’t think that the proactive person has the “upper hand” when it comes to hastily ending a relationship by breaking up remotely. In fact, such an active breakup often has not carefully analyzed his or her own feelings, and does not know what lessons should be learned from the past relationship, and he or she is likely to be blind when facing the next relationship – in the long run, the loss of the active person himself or herself is not small; while the passive breakup may be because of the damage to self-esteem and reflective, in the next relationship into the The passive breakup person, on the other hand, is likely to do some soul-searching and enter the next relationship more cautiously and with more focus.
The “Frontiersman” reaction to the “good end” rule
A gentleman never makes a bad comment
Regardless of what happened between you two, it’s a good thing that you’re not in a relationship. Whatever happened between you and your friends, there is no need to make a big deal out of it. The case of Nicholas Tse and Cecilia Cheung reminds us once again that the worst way to break up is to expose all the bad things about your ex – and since he is so guilty, how did you get together in the first place? This means that your aesthetic and integrity have become a problem. The company’s main goal is to make sure that the company’s customers are not too busy.
Don’t force the other person to break up first
It takes courage to initiate a breakup, and there is no shortage of people who try to make the other person the “bad guy”: practicing cold violence, not answering phone calls, not texting back, talking in a weird way, bluffing about the smallest things, spreading unfavorable comments in public. The public spreads unfavorable information about each other, hoping to stimulate each other to break up first. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing. Whatever the real situation is, this kind of trickery may indeed succeed, but it is extremely unkind.
It’s better to break up in person
Can you look each other in the eye and say the word “break up”? This may lead to a violent reaction from the other side, but it is definitely the most sincere and responsible way to break up. The star breakup of the commotion on the larger, Fengzhi love is simply more dramatic than the most exciting TV series, the baggage layer out, the two have a party, the media as a sounding board. The irony of the situation is enough to read the entertainment news headlines every day to know the current status of your partner, right?
Avoid discussing “who’s wrong”
There is no absolute right or wrong in relationships, and now that you’ve decided to break up, don’t get hung up on who’s right or wrong. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers, and to provide the best possible service to its customers. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Don’t “be friends later.”
The idea of being friends when you can’t be lovers is a nice thing to say, but it’s not easy to practice, especially if one partner is still attached to the other. The newest addition to the list is the newest addition to the list. If you have a new lover, how can you face your ex? This kind of coupling will only form a misleading, let each other think that you still have the possibility to reunite. To speed up recovery, it is recommended that both parties refrain from any further contact, including correspondence and phone calls, for a short period of time.