People with high emotional intelligence send these pictures to show you how people with high emotional intelligence talk
I hope it helps you~
People with high emotional intelligence know how to “take a turn” when they talk.
When we want to ask someone to do something, if we say something like the top half of the picture:
“Hey, finish this ……”
This kind of straightforward opening statement, as the author says, will It makes people sound less comfortable and less inclined to help.
So the authors suggest that we can take a slight “turn” and use euphemisms such as:
“Do you have time now?
This way of speaking, the other party will not only not feel emotionally rejected, but will also be sincere.
This way of speaking is not only not emotionally repulsive, but also will certainly sincerely ask what we can do to help.
In this way, we are asking for what we need and we are more likely to get help.
People with high emotional intelligence have each other in their hearts.
“High emotional intelligence is having the other person in all the words of your heart.”
The authors say that when we talk to people we don’t know very well, we can include names with each other in our speech, like in the picture:
“As XX said ……” or “
This not only gets the person’s attention, but also brings them closer together.
Particularly when we are talking to someone and the conversation doesn’t go well, leaving both parties in a confrontational state;
the authors believe that we can regulate the pace of the conversation by addressing them in this way.
For example, when the other person makes a counter-argument, we can find a point of agreement between the two of them;
and say, “Just now, as Mr./Ms. XX said, I agree with you on this point,” and then follow up with our own opinion.
Because whoever it is will be happy when their opinion is recognized by others.
So even the most insignificant points of agreement, if we add the other person’s name and agree with them;
can protect the other person’s self-esteem and prevent a conversation from ruining impressions and feelings.
People with high emotional intelligence
know how to speak in an “opinionated” tone.
The three different scenarios in this picture are not that they really happen in reality.
But the authors want us to feel the difference in how we communicate when we “ask for advice.
“Do you think it would be better to turn up the air conditioning a little bit?”
A question like the one in the picture not only makes the person feel that we are asking for their opinion, but also that they are being respected;
and they will be happy to help us.
People with high emotional intelligence know how to pay attention to each other.
How can you quickly get closer to someone you are meeting for the first time?
The authors tell us that the main reason people become close is because they have “something in common” with each other.
So if we want to get better acquainted, we need to actively focus on what we have in common with each other.
For example, if we are born in the same place as each other, we can consider that as a common point;
and start the conversation with something like, “You were born in XX, too?
In addition, the author believes that the same graduation school, the same interests, etc. can be seen as common ground;
when we use this as a topic of conversation, not only will we feel close to each other, but the atmosphere will also become lively and warm~
People with high emotional intelligence know how to use eye contact.
There is a saying that “the eyes speak as well as the mouth.”
The author also believes that if we have eye movement in a conversation, it will have the same effect as what we say.
He says that sight not only increases the intimacy of the speaker, but also conveys our current mood to the other person;
Even when we meet someone for the first time, it can make a good impression of “trustworthiness and cheerfulness.
And by making eye contact, we can show that we are interested in what the person is saying and want to talk to them further.
Not only that, but when we want to persuade someone or ask for help;
the authors also suggest that we can approach them and look them in the eye and say what we want, which has a much better chance of success.
People who are emotionally intelligent
are always saying, “I’m listening to you.