In life, many young people find it difficult to reason with the person they love. This article explains this phenomenon:
Willfulness is because there are feelings
It is not always the case that people who are in love can communicate better. Sometimes, people who love each other cannot communicate with each other. The most important thing is that you can’t be in love with a person who is in love with you. The more you love each other, the easier it is to fight. Why didn’t Xue Baochai argue with Jia Baoyu? Because she does not love him. The fact that girls quarrel with whomever they like is a great reference for men!
A person who has average feelings for another person is very polite, very courteous, very respectful of what people have that is different from you, and has a tendency to seek common ground; and the better the feelings, the more you care about the other person, the stronger the tendency to seek common ground, reaching a peak, the highest point, which is close to full-fledged seeking common ground. Knowing that the other person has feelings for him or her and that the feelings are strong, the more unreasonable and demanding and somewhat authoritarian it becomes.
This situation, too, exists between mother and child. The mother loves her child the most, but it is the most difficult to communicate.
A good feeling is instead unreasonable. Love is intense affection. Love and reason are contradictory. Strong feelings are strongly unreasonable, which is a flaw of human nature, but the beauty of human nature is also in this unreasonableness.
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Respect the logic that’s different from yours
There’s an American book that talks about communication, and the first chapter opens with the idea that you have to establish the idea that – the person you’re communicating with, whether it’s a classmate, a colleague, a parent, a mentor, a teacher, a teacher, a teacher, a teacher, a teacher.
The first chapter of the American book on communication begins with the idea that you must establish the idea that the person you are communicating with, whether it is a classmate, a colleague, a parent, a teacher, or a relative or a negotiating partner, you must not assume that he is the same person as you. In front of the same scenario, what you see, they may not see; what they see, you may not see. He also thinks in a different logic than you do. No matter how different he is from you, you have to respect him. Learning to communicate is learning to respect a logic that is different from yours.
The American journal Contemporary Psychology has an article about domestic violence in the United States. Two people love each other, but two people are not the same: First, the man has a ghost in his heart. According to research, men have a tendency to be polyamorous. Second, the woman is more powerful mouth, gushing, the man reasoning short on less speech, no speech, or slip away. Women are partial to men on the spot to admit defeat, men can not stand it, and finally fist to dialogue. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services.
Why do women always hold on to men, because they love them? The opposite of love is not hate, but indifference, you go with someone else – just as well, I did not love you in the first place.