It’s human nature to try to win every time we get into a fight. However, once the quarrel starts, both parties will be quite irrational and will not remember why they quarreled in the first place. So as long as it’s not about solving a problem, arguing is a waste of time and energy.
When arguments escalate to the quarrel stage, we lose our empathy and try to justify ourselves. We become angry Chihuahuas, profanity-spewing sailors and cranky cavemen. Only your point of view matters and your way is the best. All other things are left behind.
But what if the fault lies with you?
So how do we know that we are at fault when we are doing our best to convince the other person?
Some people are just not good at dealing with these situations.
For many people, a sudden rise in adrenaline in the middle of an argument is a prelude to cursing, throwing plates, and slamming doors. Some will write an email cursing the other person, some will spend money on weird stuff, and others will get physical.
Know that the consequences of losing control during an argument can be terrible.
Step 1: Stop talking
Arguing is a waste of energy If the discussion makes you lose your mind, there is no way in the world for you to argue and win over each other anymore. As a result, you’ll just go to sleep on the couch, eat awful microwavable food, watch TV until late, drink beer, and slam doors like a SB ……
Actually, why bother, just don’t just open your mouth.
Quietness eases the anger and calms the conflict between you two.
Breathing is all it takes.
Step 2: Back to back
Every time my girlfriend and I argue heats up, or when I have to settle an argument, I sit back to back with her.
That’s right.
“Stand or sit and put your back against another person’s back.”
Baby, that lump on your butt feels good to the touch.
Step 3: Keep arguing
Yeah, from where you just broke off Keep arguing from where you just broke off, with just as much force. Imagine in your mind that you’re still facing the same person, as if nothing has changed, and see what incredible things happen.
After a few minutes, your argument turns into a discussion. It is also with this approach that we learn so much about ourselves and each other. It saved countless hours of energy, movement, and verbalization.
How does it work?
“Immediately argued with a more objective perspective.”
Actually, the best way to know if you’re wrong or right is to be honest and talk to yourself.
This is the time when there is no one in the room to argue with you, no one in front of you to listen to you anymore, and you have to stare into the corner of the room and ask yourself, your voice echoing around the room, and you hear your own voice shouting at yourself so you know how everyone else in the room is listening to you. It’s a great feeling to know how other people in the room are listening to you.
It’s a time when you’re more awake, more objective, and you think, “I’m still making sense!” Or “Oh, it’s still true that I was wrong.”
After you’ve said this with your back to the other person, at the end of the day you turn around and you realize that the person in front of you is thinking the same thing as you.
Step 4: Turn around again and reconcile
At this point step you have eased up a bit and feel that you will be happy and enjoy the beautiful peace of mind. The man will giggle and the woman will be amused by the man and snicker.
Either give you a slap or a pop.
Either you get a slap on the wrist before you get a slap on the wrist.
After all, everyone’s personality is different and the outcome will be different.