In the workplace, you will stand out for being polite, giving, honest and straightforward, and for excellent talent or performance. These truths, in fact, also apply in the love world. The love world, like the workplace, also needs to use excessive talent, enough patience, diligence and honesty, etc. to capture the heart of the beloved. Don’t just think that if it’s your own, you can’t get away with it, and if it doesn’t belong to you, then how to play it, you will leave. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Use your brain before you say it
At work, you definitely You will no longer enter the BOSS’s office after the boldness to point fingers with the BOSS, full of fireworks and a face of displeasure and impatience. In fact, in love is also the same, to their loved ones you also need to be patient, not because of a little something to find fault, that is purely fed up with nothing to do, and your complaints are like pouring beans seem to pour fast, but ignore your loved ones are thus hurt. Before you face a potential complaint or latent crisis in the conversation, you should ask yourself: will what I am about to say hurt someone and will the TA have a problem with me because of it? You can do this by converting those stinging words into “sugar-coated” shots, which will be twice as effective.
Viva la brevity!
Usually, when we’re feeling “angry” about something (like being asked to clean up a mess at work; or an unfair distribution of household chores), we tend to idle. ), we tend to ramble on and let other things get in the way. But it’s much easier to drop the long-winded preamble about how exhausting it is for you to do the laundry and buy the food …… and just say what you want to say: “Oh, by the way, could you bring me a PIZZA on your way home? Thanks~” etc. is more effective. So you should organize your message thoroughly, whether it’s in the workplace or in a relationship, and it’s more efficient to throw out the other elements and get right to the point.
Tips to build with “empathy”
Take a step back
We’re always at work and in We can’t let go of our pride and self-esteem when dealing with our spouse. In fact, taking a step back and admitting your mistakes is the best way to ease the relationship. At work, it’s okay to say, “Ugh, I really should have emailed the presentation to the client last night, and now it’s a disaster.” — but that’s an important detail that the whole team missed. And at home, say something extremely simple but effective: “Honey, you were right. I was wrong.” Learning to take responsibility will create a better relationship environment than taking responsibility for others.
Warm words are more helpful
There’s an old saying that goes like this. It’s not what you say that matters, it’s how you say it. This old adage applies at work as well as at home. In a heated meeting, if you are the only person speaking in the tone of a monk reading scripture, then you must be the one giving the orders. At home, let’s say you’re complaining about something in a raised tone, and it sounds to your loved one like you’re just angry and not indicating anything else of substance.
It’s better to do things low than high
Can’t you believe it? If you maintain a jaded work posture at work, you will not be left out in the corner of the office. A better career advice is to keep yourself high profile, differentiate and treat with respect, and come up with something convincing instead of subverting others. Whether you have doubts or questions in front of your loved ones or at work, you can just tell them your doubts or questions and get right to the point. Sometimes, doing things in a high profile can win you a head start instead.
Promise carefully and exceed expectations
In the workplace, it’s common to hear this advice when faced with a customer problem: avoid making a lot of promises, and promises must be manageable and ideally exceed expectations. For example, if you order take-out and it is delivered earlier than you expected, you will be in a happy mood and give the restaurant a perfect score. This same concept applies to a relationship between two people. If you give your significant other a lot of promises, you are in danger if you don’t deliver. But a small but nice promise, like, “I’ll spend my birthday with you,” is easy to make. But if you make a romantic candlelit dinner or a trip abroad, then you greatly exceed expectations, and a promise becomes a surprise!
“Three dates for the price of one”
If you have a difficult conversation at work that you urgently need to resolve, you can use the “hit a stick and give three dates The “hit a stick and give three dates” method is a smooth solution. This method can also be very good to help lovers avoid escalating the war. First, you have to cheer up the other party, that is, give a date, for example: “You cleaned the table tonight, it really made me so happy. Look at me with the kids, you’re such a big help.” Then a little stick: “It would have been nice if you had washed all the pots and pans instead of putting them all in the sink.” And then a sweet date at the end: “Actually, I just wanted to say to you that I’m touched that you did that.”
Editor’s Note: It is said that the love world is like a battlefield and the workplace is like a battlefield. According to the equivalent substitution formula, the love field = battlefield = workplace. Don’t think that these two are not related, handling skills can actually be learned to apply, and to learn from the past, as long as you use your brain, you can become the winner of life!