When you hear the word “affair”, almost all people think of men first, and if you are a couple, it naturally refers to the husband.
It is widely believed that there are many cases of men having an affair. Among literary figures or athletes, the decisive factor in some couples or lovers going their separate ways lies in the fact that the man is having an affair. In contrast, there are few examples of breakups because the woman has an affair. As is well known, the ratio of male to female affairs is 3 to 1, or 5 to 1.
So, why do men have affairs? The most important thing is that men are more likely to have an affair, especially as husbands.
Man’s physical strength is declining
First of all, from the perspective of men’s physiological characteristics, as mentioned earlier, men’s pleasure has been awakened since adolescence, and this pleasure actually shows a slow downward trend. Specifically, men suddenly begin to awaken to sexual awareness from around the age of 15, and after the age of 15, almost all men are able to experience a sense of intoxicating pleasure on their own, and with the first time they have sex with the opposite sex, the pleasure reaches its peak and the man is extremely satisfied both physically and psychologically.
In contrast to men who get pleasure for the first time, women’s first sexual experience is accompanied by a lot of uneasiness and timidity, and women hardly enjoy the pleasure even if the object is a man they like.
However, as women have more sex, the uneasiness and pain fade away, and they also gradually begin to feel sexual pleasure, eventually reaching orgasm when sexual experience builds up. Especially for married women, after pregnancy and childbirth, the pleasure in sex is further enhanced.
Once a pair of men and women were observed, the man had the most intense pleasure during the first time he had sex, and later the pleasure declined in a downward curve. In contrast, the pleasure felt by the woman at first intercourse is extremely weak, but after that it gradually intensifies, on an upward curve.
How long after the relationship does the downward curve of male pleasure and the upward curve of female pleasure cross? It varies from case to case, but it is an indisputable fact that there is always a point in time when the crossover occurs.
Men’s love depends on comparison
Another cause of men’s tendency to have affairs that is worth considering is what should be called “men’s plural tendencies in love”.
Specifically, men can love one woman and at the same time turn their attention to other women, and men can be described as amorous and unpredictable creatures.
In this respect, women are very different. If a woman is currently in love with A the man, then she will only have A the man in her eyes, and then, by some chance, fall in love with B the man, then all the previous things about A will be forgotten and all her mind will be focused on B again.
That is to say, women’s love is focused. In contrast to the “all or nothing” approach of women, men are creatures that can fall in love with multiple women at the same time.
So even if a man says to a woman in a relationship, “You are my favorite,” he is only talking about the first favorite, and there may be other second and third favorites, and that is not too much to understand.
This shows that if women’s love is called concentrated, men’s love can be called comparative.
In short, men do not focus their attention on one point, they look around constantly and are always interested in new things, so men can be said to be an animal that cannot be careless and prone to having affairs.
Of course, it’s not uncommon for men to not go out and have an affair with the women around them; on the contrary, among women, there are also watery women who constantly turn their attention to other men. But these are only exceptions, a minority. It is an indisputable fact that the majority of men, compared to women, have an affectionate tendency to love plural.
And most of the women who have red flags are also floating in mid-air because they don’t have someone they like in the true sense of the word, and many of them are surprisingly grounded if they have a man they really like.
In short, men’s tendency to pluralize in love, combined with men’s diminishing sexual pleasure as they have more sex, are two of the main characteristics of men sexually, and we can be sure that these are the very reasons why men are prone to having affairs compared to women.
Men are more likely to “return”
The above is a physical and mental analysis of why husbands have affairs, and many women reading this may feel a sincere disappointment in their husbands or men.
But even so, wives need not worry too much.
But even so, wives shouldn’t worry too much, because the reasons why men are prone to affairs, as laid out here, can also be reasons why men are prone to sobriety from affairs, and to be more specific about this, it is because they are prone to affairs that the roots of affairs are shallow, while leaving room for husbands to correct their mistakes.
The following analysis continues along these lines, as I wrote at the beginning, men have a high sex drive that is difficult to suppress and is extremely fastidious, and once it is satisfied, it immediately shows up.
And as mentioned earlier, men’s sex is a simple, emancipatory sex, sexual pleasure does not deepen with the increase of sex, rather men easily bored with the characteristics of sex, so that even if a man has an affair will not last long. Generally speaking, the husbands of the affair after a period of time, the possibility of drawing an end to quite high. Add to that the kind of ambiguity and indecisiveness in a man’s character, men don’t have the energy to love each other deeply from the heart even if they want to spare no effort in the affair.
That is to say, a creature like a husband has an aspect of being prone to affairs and not being careless, but because men are prone to seeing things differently, men’s affairs are always happening, in a state of flux, and the object of the affair will not always be focused on one woman.
To put it more simply, a husband’s affair is not as serious as it appears, and after a proper period of time, it almost always becomes calm.
In this respect, a husband’s affair is different from a wife’s affair. The company’s main goal is to provide a more efficient and effective solution to the problem. Of course in this regard it varies from person to person, not that all wives are like this, just that on the whole there does seem to be a tendency to do so.
All in all, the reason that a husband’s affair is not as serious as it seems, nor is it a serious illness, is that most of the people he has affairs with are celibate women, and if the man gets too entangled, it is a burden to the celibate woman, and many women will pull away because of it. Even if this is not the case, many celibate women are surprisingly level-headed when it comes to dating men with families, and some are even looking for the right opportunity to break up.
It’s safe to assume that a husband’s affair doesn’t usually get to a point where it’s unmanageable. Especially in the case of children, the vast majority of husbands’ affairs will become calm after a while. In this regard, husbands are surprisingly persistent in their love for their children and for their families. Through these phenomena, it is also possible to see the commonality of this gender of men, namely weakness of character and fear of loneliness and isolation.
In short, although the number of affairs may be high, husbands are ultimately prone to return to their old shells, and even if they leave home to live with other women, the rate of return to the family is still high.
Wives, on the other hand, have the opposite kind of affair, and once they leave home, it is very difficult to return. Compared to husbands, wives actually have a very low rate of returning to the family after an affair.
So there are novels like “The Father Comes Back” but not “The Mother Comes Back,” and in this regard, you can see that husbands and wives are very different in their determination to have an affair.