1 In recent years, the divorce rate in China remains high, the marital cheating has become the culprit, and the marital cheaters are mostly middle-aged men. The 3 married men tell you the answer.
Mr. Wang: 45 years old, the desire for novelty, seeking excitement outside of marriage
No matter how happy the marriage is, there will be a period of boredom, not that there are no feelings between the two people, but because of the accumulation of long-term conflicts reached the peak, need to explode, and I also took this “opportunity” to cheat.
I’ve been married for almost 20 years now, and I had a three-year history of extramarital affairs that I never told anyone about. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.
Perhaps it’s because I’ve seen other men find their soul mates when they reach middle age, and it’s a way to spice up their lives. What would that be like for me to be moved? Is it exciting? Was it full of excitement? I went with unbridled curiosity to crave for a moment of novelty. It was a solace for the soul, enchanting, deeply like that feeling, overwhelming.
It was because of the desire to be fresh and to seek excitement outside of marriage that our relationship lasted secretly for three years, and finally it was a man’s responsibility that made me choose to cut the cord.
Mr. Li: 40 years old, and his wife has nothing to say
“Three years of pain, seven years of itch”, almost all couples have to go through a stage, some people endured, all happy, happy life, while some people can not stand, greedy for fresh, cheating within the marriage, resulting in a rift in the relationship, and finally The relationship is fractured and finally separated. The latter, but I woke up early and did not end up divorced, to the point where my wife was separated.
It was the eighth year of our marriage when the conflicts between my wife and I suddenly increased and intensified, from the beginning when we had nothing to talk about to the later when we had nothing to talk about. The most likely mistake of family discord, in that period of time I always want to find a confidant, due to emotional discord and divorce Li Li became my target. Whenever I was bored, I would tell her my woes, and she was like a big sister, calming me down and enlightening me, and eventually I felt she was the one who understood me best, and I cheated on her as a matter of course.
Then after the fresh period, I suddenly realized that my behavior was absurd, and I stopped it in time for the sake of my children and my family. When a marriage has problems, you should find a way to solve them, and it would be irresponsible to choose to avoid them.
Mr. Liu: 42 years old, did not withstand the temptation
I am 42 years old, an executive in a company, and have a successful career. I have a very happy family, a virtuous and kind wife, and a lovely and understanding daughter, a happy and enviable family.
It’s almost the end of the year, and everyone is busy running for their performance, because those who perform well not only have a generous year-end bonus, but also have the opportunity to be promoted to deputy manager of the department, and no one wants to miss this opportunity, but the final decision is in my hands.
Wang Ya’e was one of the candidates who was expected to become the deputy manager of the department. Not only did she have a great sales record, but her team management skills were also quite good.
I also know that he has admired me for a long time and has made his heart known to me many times, with all kinds of temptations, but I have refused, I can not betray my family, this is my principle.
At a departmental party, I drank a lot of wine because I was happy, and ended up in a daze. At the end of the party, Wang Ya’e wanted to take me home, I did not refuse, but she took me to the hotel, and I ended up under the influence of alcohol, but I could not resist the temptation to throw my principles to the wind.
Afterwards, I said to Wang Ya’e, “Actually, you didn’t have to do that. This time, the deputy manager position is yours.”
When I was a kid, I was a kid.
For a long time after that, we kept that relationship going and she became the deputy manager of the department. After I finished drinking, she always said she’d take me home, and then I was sent to the hotel instead.
Middle-aged men are supposed to be successful in their careers, charming, and have a strong attraction to women, and if the man is otherwise unprincipled, it is hard to resist the temptation to cheat like a prairie fire, a little uncontrollable.
The man in the middle of his life, it seems that behind every cheating man, have their own difficulties, either the dullness of married life, or the couple’s feelings are not in harmony, or too much temptation around, but no matter which reason, these are not enough to be your excuse to cheat.
There is nothing more important in a marriage than being faithful to each other. You can choose not to love your wife, you can choose to divorce, but you can’t choose to choose to cheat. When you reach middle age, cheating will not solve your marital troubles. Nor will it make your life better; it will only make your marriage worse.
In fact, to put it bluntly, when people reach middle age, some men will neither divorce nor choose to cheat, relying on extra-marital relationships to seek excitement and relieve their inner loneliness, which is a selfish and irresponsible attitude.