If a man is passive and you are ambiguous with each other, yet you can’t seem to move past it. Because you like it, so you always find all kinds of excuses for him. Is that really the truth? Or are you deluded? In the end, this man just doesn’t love you that much.
Sometimes we like to find all kinds of excuses for men to cover up the truth itself, preferring to believe that he is just too busy to call you for a minute; preferring to believe that he has had a psychological shadow and does not want to step into the marriage door; preferring to believe that he is The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
How does a man who doesn’t really care that much about you, but sees you as a backup, behave? If your he has the following signs, then, women, you have to be careful. Independence and confidence are the basic roots of a woman, don’t throw away the most basic things about yourself for a man.
1. If he is passive and reserved.
“Maybe he doesn’t want to ruin our friendship” “Maybe he’s shy” “Maybe he has low self-esteem” “Maybe he just doesn’t know how to contact me” ……
Some people may advocate that it’s not the stone age anymore and girls go after the ones they see, but I’m sure the guy who really likes you won’t let you go through all the trouble to find him – because he’ll come to you.
2. If he promised you something and didn’t do it, even if it was just a phone call.
“He was really busy so he forgot” “At least he actually apologized with me” …… He is very busy, about to be inaugurated as the President of the United States, an hour of several hundred million business to talk about, busy to go crazy, a day simply can not find time to call with you, busy to really crazy ah. There are cell phones, speed dials, and even voice dials, and sometimes the pressure is not even trying to call, the phone is dialed out of your pants pocket, so why don’t you have time to call.
If you really like you, you won’t forget, and if you forget, it means he doesn’t care about your disappointment. “Busy” is a weapon of mass destruction on the relationship, is a synonym for “asshole”, asshole is busy perfunctory you the person, (sound mind) men know what is called “priorities “, and as for apologizing? Oh, there’s no time for his bullshit.
3. If he’s ambiguous.
“He’s been hurt before” “He’s got a messy life right now.” “He just got divorced, he wants to take his time” “He’s used to being free” …… These are all myths, all tricks men use to deal with girls they don’t like, if he likes you, it If he likes you, he won’t be ambiguous, he will tell the world about your ownership, he won’t meet your friends and family, saying that because it’s with you and not to fall in love with your mother, he won’t take you into his circle, saying that because it’s just a matter of two people, if he uses all these excuses to explain the ambiguity between you, then please automatically translate to “I just want to use you to spend time ” “I don’t really like you”.
4. If he doesn’t want to get too close to you.
“I’m a man, if I like you, I’ll kiss you”, although it feels awkward and cold, but think about it is also the truth, right, if you like you should be like The first thing you need to do is to have a person who likes you say “I love you very much, let me be your soulmate.” …… I guess Plato wouldn’t have said that.
5. If he betrays you.
“He was drunk” “It was just an occasional accident” “He was careless.”…… There is no excuse for betrayal. Betrayal is not something that “happens by accident”, he can’t say “Oh, I accidentally fell and happened to fall into someone else’s bed.” If you know that you’re going to break the rules of the relationship, you should just dump him and tell yourself that this kind of man is not worth having.
6. If he’s all drunk before he comes to you.
If he’s not willing to change for you, then it’s time to leave, because the long run is about sobriety.
7. If the time is right but he still doesn’t want to get married.
“Maybe I’m just not open-minded” “He’s under the shadow of his childhood family” “He’s not ready” …… Many men, women, psychologists, sociologists, anthropologists, feminists…can spout a lecture critical of the institution of marriage and tell you that marriage is backward The institution is an ancient financial contract, but I’m sorry, first you have to understand that “don’t want to get married” may only mean “don’t want to marry you”, those who say “don’t want to get married” will eventually The people who say they don’t want to get married will get married, just not to you.
8. If he keeps breaking up with you and then coming back to you to make up.
First of all, please keep your poise and stop calling and texting him, if it’s a breakup, it’s a breakup.
Don’t think you can continue to talk to him, meet him, watch movies, cook for him, buy him gifts, carve CDs, feed him fish, greet his parents and friends, and steal his voicemail to check his call history as long as he comes back to you ……
A person who really likes you won’t break up with you and toss you around, so please come to your senses, unless you want to be Miss Yo-Yo Champion.
9. If he suddenly and inexplicably disappears.
Don’t spend a tremendous amount of energy trying to solve the “missing man mystery “, no matter what kinds of evidence and excuses you find to comfort yourself. Nor do you need to be foolish enough to have to search for him to get a result. There’s nothing to be found. The only fact is that he no longer wants to be with you and doesn’t have the guts to talk to you about it. Please believe that there is no secret – he doesn’t deserve you.
10. If he’s married.
While mistresses are always despised, if you insist, there’s nothing to say. At least until he gets a divorce. If you still can’t figure it out, then it’s probably time to call the police – someone lost their brain.
You have to believe that men are very direct with the women they love. Even if he doesn’t know how to express it properly, you will receive his tension and care. This is the normal behavior of a man who loves you.