Big beauties don’t need to fret about it, they never need to do anything of their own accord, men’s eyes are already on them, all they need to learn is how to pick and choose among the many good suitors. And our luck is not so good, mediocre looks, average body, when there is a man of choice around, his eyes often do not stay on us. What can we do to have hope? Check out a few of our suggestions!
I. Be bold
I went to a friend’s birthday party and I immediately fell in love with this man who had a deep gaze and could understand my sense of humor. At the end of the party, I asked him to drive me home. In the car, I pretended not to put my hand on the one he was holding the gear knob. We were silent all the way, then I arrived home, and at my door I took the initiative to kiss him on the cheek …… He later told me that I had taken the initiative to pursue him much to his relief — he would not have dared to do so, and my gesture had given him a tremendous shock in his heart. — Ray Jay, 29, Miss Air.
Expert comment: At this point, women are as quick-eyed and unflinching as fishermen with fishing forks in their hands. The easiest way to face the hesitant man is the most effective. Some men immediately give in and secretly rejoice that you have made the decision for them. But there can be a downside, and that is when you adopt the manly approach, you can scare away other men.
Man’s take: Women who flirt like men don’t interest us because we feel like we’re talking to a man about love. We like it when women take the initiative, but in a more subtle way. A woman who orders us to lie down will scare us away. Girls, be gentle, will you?
II. Seduce him with sexiness
My secret recipe: long hair, short skirts, champagne and mesmerized eyes. I usually wear only professional clothes in the office. One night, I went to a bar with my colleagues, among whom was a man I had long desired but had not yet confessed. That night I wore a short skirt and boots, and my hair, which I usually wore neatly combed, fell down. When he asked me to dance, I sat next to his chest and let my hair sweep across his face – and I became his permanent dance partner.
Expert comment: This approach is for women who are very confident in their looks, body and bust. Men are not going to pursue women who smoke cigarettes and discuss their investments with them. Don’t believe them when they say things like temperament is more important than body, and when they see a beautiful woman they will immediately get up and leave you to face the bill.
The man’s view: Unless he’s not interested in women, no man is indifferent to the lure of sex. A woman who invites me to look at her, I will look, and if she encourages me to touch her, I will touch! But this kind of flirting requires natural and subtle skill, otherwise it can be seen as vulgar.
3. Attract him with his intellect
I’ve often been called I’m often called “too smart” because I have a master’s degree in chemistry, which is seen as a “man’s major,” but it was these molecular formulas that helped me conquer my fiancé, Xinpeng. I rarely talk about my work to others, but Xinpeng seems to be very interested in it. I liked him a lot and wanted to show him my expertise, so I patiently described to him the projects I was currently working on …… Later he told me that women with high IQs make him very much in love. –Julie, 30, chemical engineer.
Expert comment: This approach is perfect for women who are still good looking and have a particularly good IQ. Men generally believe that the beauty of an intellectual beauty is like a mellow wine – the longer they stay together, the more lasting the charm.
A man’s perspective: It’s hard for us to enjoy a conversation with women who just giggle and giggle. If we want to talk, we’d like the other person to speak constructively as well, rather than mentally begging her not to open her mouth. If she is both pretty and funny, we are willing to go anywhere with her.
Four: Attracting men with weaknesses
I’m not a silly little girl, but I know that a helpless woman can stir up a man’s instinct to protect her and his testosterone. I’ve done this experiment with a few close friends: I walk down the street with a map, and if I meet a handsome, young, well-dressed man I go up and ask for directions. Almost every time, the man told me that the place I was looking for was not far from here and he could drive me there. I thanked him very much and he was so happy that he ended up inviting me to dinner or to a bar. –Ling Lin, foreign company employee.
Expert comment: Don’t abuse the “lost little girl” trick. Men who are in a hurry will find this very annoying, not to mention being mistaken for a call girl looking for customers.
The man’s view: Very original! It’s very different from women who play it sexy and in character. Although we rarely have such a fling on the street, we will be easily seduced though, but don’t let us see her asking another man in the same way elsewhere.
V. A good hunter catches slowly
Feng is not the kind of man who easily shows interest in He is an excellent stock analyst, loves reading, watching movies and theater, and often writes theater reviews outside of work. I had a long-standing interest in him, so I approached his friends and learned about his preferences and tastes in women in various ways – he was partial to romantic lady’s clothes, so I added to my closet with this type of clothing, and I also took a refresher course in theater to develop an interest in theater. When a British theater company came to China for its first Shakespeare performance, I ordered tickets and had them sent to him by courier. …… He has been very fond of me ever since. — Dodo, 26, editor.
Expert comment: Cast a big net, prepare well, think it through, and then wait patiently for your prey to fall into it – that’s how some scheming women will engineer their flings. It should be said that this is very effective. What they need to be reminded of is that after they get these men, what will they do? Do they revert to their original faces or do they disguise themselves to the end?
A man’s take: If a woman goes to the trouble of approaching me, I’m very impressed, but I’m also a little scared that such a scheming woman will be difficult to fight.
Six, playing with personality
I am not a beauty in the traditional sense. In fact I don’t have perfect features, but all my boyfriends have complimented me on being very attractive, and I think it’s because I have a very distinguished personality and dress in a very particular way. I rarely compromise, I do what I want, and that makes me different from the average girl. –Xin Zhang, singer.
Expert comment: It’s hard for a woman with average looks and no personality to draw attention to herself. That’s why personality is the most powerful weapon for girls with average looks.
Man’s take: Lovely personality, agreed. Like not going with the flow, being strong and brave, having principles, being funny and cheerful, being intelligent …… These can make an average looking girl great and can make a man fall in love with her.