I met Nancy in April 2007, when she and I were still students, and I was in my third year of study, graduating in June of that year, and Nancy was just in her first year of study, a long road ahead.
Nancy is a tall, fair-skinned woman who is particularly eye-catching among a group of pretty-eyed female graduate students, and I admit that the first time I saw her I was attracted to her.
After a few changes, Nancy and I became friends, and for a while, Nancy was having trouble with her boyfriend and was arguing a lot. The company’s main goal is to provide a platform for the development of a new generation of companies, and to provide a platform for the development of a new generation of companies. The company’s main goal is to provide a platform for the development of a new generation of companies that will be able to meet the needs of their customers.
In the following two years, Nancy and I had no contact until 2009, when I occasionally learned about her facebook number from a classmate and left her a message on the internet, and we renewed our friendship. Through chatting, I learned that Nancy was working in her home county after graduation, which is not far from my city, a two-hour drive. I asked about her recent situation, Nancy said she and her boyfriend had broken up at the end of 2007, and is now a lonely person. To be honest, I have never put down Nancy in my heart, heard of her situation, immediately launched a pursuit offensive. The company’s main goal is to provide a platform for the development of a new generation of companies.
Because of my work, Nancy and I could only be a weekend couple, working normally during the week and only seeing each other on weekends.
Nan Xi loves to spend money, no plan, big spenders, at that time her monthly salary is more than 2,000 yuan, which is a good income in the county, but she always see the “light” month after month.
Nancy lived in a house provided by the unit and didn’t have to pay rent, so she spent all her money on clothes and electronics. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. She bought a bunch of clothes, too many to wear, and many of them were worn only once and never seen again, even before they were put on.
Whenever we meet, Nancy doesn’t bring her wallet and I pay for everything. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you want to do. Sometimes when she is in a good mood, I will also side-step to advise her to save some, unnecessary things do not buy, but she always righteously refuted, she said she earned her own money to spend, I am not qualified to lecture her.
Nancy thinks her spending is reasonable and that, as a man, if I can’t afford it, I don’t deserve to be in a relationship with her! I liked her, so I put up with it quietly. I thought that later, when I got married and had children, Nancy might understand how hard life is and would learn to live a normal life.
Nancy and I have comparable family conditions. Both parents work in factories, the difference being that my dad is in a county factory and her dad is in a city factory. The older folks are retired, and my parents moved their family to the city because of me back in 2003. At first, the family still had some savings, but in 2009 a big event happened, my dad wanted to make more money and invest in business with my uncle, which resulted in a blood loss of nearly 200,000 yuan, much of which was borrowed from others.
After the failed investment, my family was at a low point for a long time, and that’s when I met Nancy. At the time, I took love as a comfort, and with someone I liked around, maybe the pain wasn’t so bad. Despite the heavy trauma, I was confident in my abilities. I earn about 120,000 yuan a year, and usually save a little, and I can save 100,000 or 80,000 yuan at the end of the year, which is not bad for a person my age.
My personal conditions as well as my family background, Nancy’s mother has inquired clearly, she is more than satisfied with me and has confessed to me in private, she said Nancy will not live a hard life, hope I can work harder and provide her with as generous a life as possible. I nodded in agreement, but I knew in my heart that it was not easy for me either. In order to earn money, I often competed for overtime, and in order to save money, I sometimes did not even bother to take the bus.
On September 19, 2010, Nancy and I got our license, but after that we were still living apart, basically seeing each other only once every half month. The company is still the same as before, spending all of its money on clothes and snacks. The money spent on their own began to “eat” me, Nancy likes to buy books online, each time a dozen, hundreds of dollars, she sent the book to my unit, cash on delivery, all by me to pay the bill. Despite the discomfort in my heart, I still say nothing, who let me love her?
Perhaps Nancy is really spoiled, she is extremely demanding of life, must receive gifts at New Year’s Eve, cheap not, must be brand. The first time she had a sudden urge to change her phone, and under two thousand dollars not to be considered, finally, she looked at the latest model of Nokia, more than four thousand dollars. I gritted my teeth and bought it for her, and was afraid to go out on the street for two months afterwards, afraid to spend any more money.
When we got married, we had to buy a ring, and to save money, I said I didn’t want it, just for Nancy, but when she heard, “I’ll buy a bigger diamond ring, then.” That means that I must spend the money I saved on her. Wedding photos have to go to the provincial capital to shoot, I advised, for the matter of the two quarreled several times, and finally managed to get through the work, selected the city’s best studio, picked a 2500 yuan set, the results of a place, was a saleswoman, Nancy immediately changed her mind, directly replaced by a 4500 yuan luxury set. The company also chose the wedding company, originally discussed at home, 3000 yuan of the program on the line, but Nancy went to the company after a round, again “upgrade”, choose several additional items, the price also rose to nearly five thousand dollars.
On the 4th of last month, Nancy and I had our wedding. The first thing that happened was that I was asked by Nancy’s parents to take people to her house to pick up their relatives, and they have a lot of relatives in the province and the county, and these relatives are blocking the door and have to be sent with red envelopes. Nancy also asked me to take them on a trip to a nearby farmhouse after picking up the bride. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
When the wedding was over, Nancy’s mother asked me how much money was spent during the wedding and asked me to make a detailed list for the family, and she taught her daughter, “In the future, you and Zhuo Wen will be a family, and you must know the family’s financial situation, and your husband must keep you informed whenever he spends more than a hundred dollars. ” Nancy told me the original words, I was immediately annoyed, the whole wedding, their family did not contribute a penny, not a little help, how dare to ask us for a list? Besides, what kind of person is Nancy they do not know? The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the market.
Nanci said that my parents had given her an account of the wedding and spent 50,000 to 60,000 yuan before and after the wedding, but Nanci’s mother checked it at home and did not believe it, so she ordered her daughter to come and check the accounts. At that time I was not calm, directly to Nancy sent a message, “how much money you spend on what matters to your family? The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
Four days later, at Nancy’s house, we had a return banquet, and Nancy’s parents were so badly treated that they ignored my parents and didn’t even look at them. The two seniors were so angry that they couldn’t eat a single bite of food. They got up and left just as the party ended, and I couldn’t persuade them to do so.
The next week, Nancy and I were in our own homes, and no one contacted anyone else. The first time I saw the company, I was able to get to know it. I left her a message on Facebook, but she still ignored it, as if she had evaporated. I tried to send her a text message, but she finally replied, but it was all complaints.
When I said I wanted to talk about it, Nancy said there was nothing to talk about, “What did you do earlier? I had to explain, “At that time my parents were angry at your house, I was not too active ……” Now Nancy was furious, I could imagine her teeth and claws: “Why your father and mother were angry? Do you not know the reason yourselves? Have you tried to respect my family and think about our family? Originally, our family wanted the gift money, but considering your family’s situation, we waived all that we could. Is this make you think that our family is very easy to bully …… “Nancy does not relent,” your parents are not well thought out, even if you still do this to me, too chilling, so that my parents and I in front of relatives and friends embarrassed, can not hold up their heads for life. ”
During Nancy’s rant, I held my tongue and just listened silently, and finally, in good conscience, apologized to her, saying I was wrong and asking her and her family to forgive. The next day, I thought the situation had been eased, but Nancy’s attitude was still strong, and there was a head-butting. I am also a human being, I also have a temper, I could not stand it anymore, and argued with her, I said: “How much money was used for the wedding is so important?
Nancy was furious, and she was hysterical on the other end of the phone: “Divorce! I want a divorce!” The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the market. The two of us then agreed on a plan to go through the divorce process in a week’s time.
Four days had passed since this incident, and I gradually calmed down, looking at the wedding photos that had just been hung on the wall, thinking of the good things we had done with Nancy, and the discomfort in my heart was getting heavier and heavier. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. Now I am distressed, knowing that two people’s personalities and values are too different, but I still want to be with her, can’t afford it, can’t let go. What should I do? Continue or give up ……