I feel so sad that there is indeed so much of a generation gap between the post-80s and the post-90s, and I feel like I made a very big mistake marrying her. She is too capricious, too brutal, too disrespectful, too incomprehensible. I feel like I’m being driven crazy by her and I want a divorce.
I am 88 years old, graduated from junior college, and work in a factory. My wife is 92 years old, also just graduated from secondary school, not much culture, now a KTV as a waiter. We are married earlier inside the rural areas of our hometown, my wife and I met outside when shopping, because they are the same city inside the hometown, and then chatted up, and then together. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.
I think I was too impulsive at the time, but my hometown is quite conservative, not allowed to have sex before marriage, so we met those months just kissing mouth touching body and so on, are holding back from having sex, and did not live together, until the wedding to live together. The night of the wedding, I was very nervous and inexperienced, so the sex time is very short, my wife gave me a bad look. That night I found out she wasn’t a virgin, but I held back and accepted it.
I think I should be a normal man, but maybe I was nervous and inexperienced, and the few times I had sex after the wedding I only had a few minutes, which made my wife very unhappy, and then she wouldn’t have sex with me for over a week, which I felt very bad about.
Now we both came out from our hometown to continue working part-time, but rented a small room to live together. The wife wanted to rent a better room, but I thought the rent was too expensive so I didn’t rent a better one, and the furniture was also expensive, so I didn’t buy any furniture, and my wife didn’t give me a hard time about it, so I had to put up with it.
A few days ago, my wife and I argued over a little bit of chicken scratch, and halfway through the argument she actually ran straight to the street, and I was afraid that something would happen to her, so I chased her up. Chase to a big stall next to the time, my wife began to scold me again to count me, which actually scolded me sex 10 minutes are not enough to count what man, so that the stall where people have been heard laughing, I feel too humiliated. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
These days, my wife’s anger has subsided a bit, but I have a shadow in my heart, so I haven’t touched her for the past few days. This kind of day is so unbearable, I don’t know how to live with her in the future. I want to get a divorce. Do you think it’s appropriate and okay, teacher?
Reply from Prince of Contradictions:
After reading this letter, I just feel You two are just too immature. The first is that your mind is not mature enough, and the second is that the conditions for marriage are not mature enough.
First of all, the mind is not mature enough. The first thing you need to do is to get a good understanding of the concept of marriage, not to mention the 80’s and 90’s. In both of your hearts, you don’t have a proper understanding of marriage, you don’t understand what respect, trust, mutual help and tolerance are.
And the conditions for marriage are not mature enough. The conditions for marriage require a lot more than just two people’s own physiology and psychology. For example, whether the personalities of the two people can rub together, whether the financial ability of the two people can maintain, whether the future of the two people can be foreseen, all these should be considered. The first thing you need to do is to take a look at the conditions, especially your wife.
When a marriage starts out this way, it’s a lot to take in, so you need to think about it.