Men and women remarrying is a very prudent thing to do because each has experienced the pain of marital misfortune in the past. It is a good idea to say that there are certain problems on both sides of the divorce, just which is more important and which is less. The purpose of remarriage is to find a partner that you can love, grow old with and spend your life with, but it is really a bit difficult. Self-readiness is the best place to start your search.
When we are ready ourselves, we will meet the right one in the right place at the right time.
I remember reading a quote from Eileen Chang: “In the endless time, there is no early step, no late step, just a coincidence of meeting.
We need to be prepared before our search begins in order to be able to restart another relationship, another marriage, with peace of mind. The reason for this is that even if you meet someone you love, you need to get over the pain of the past before you can start again, so we need to prepare ourselves first, and when we are ready, that person will appear.
So how do you know you’re ready?
Thinking about love you feel calm and open, not feeling unfortunate, or resentful, or disgusted by anyone with an ulterior motive. 2. Noticing that you will smile from the inside, with the energy of love in your heart, feeling alive again, for example, you will observe the condition of the camellias in the pots, or you will stop to look at the shade of the trees on the street, and be able to feel the good of other people. So how do you get out of the grief of divorce and prepare yourself?
1. Thoroughly clean up the ashes of old debts
First of all, to emphasize that the prerequisite in meeting the one who brings you happiness is that you must have a real decision with your ex-husband/ex-wife, dealing with all the financial, debt, children and other issues, and both have a clear and enforceable paper treatment plan and agreement, this step is done Not good, or advise you to negotiate and then develop a new relationship.
Many people just start their next love affair after a very painful divorce, thinking that the new love will heal the old scars, and I can say that the odds are unfortunate that even if it starts well, your ex will still jump out and get in your way when you get deeper into the relationship, harassing you with all kinds of unaddressed financial, debt, child, etc. Think about your new partner and how painful your relationship is. How stable is your relationship?
2. Strongly emphasize: Don’t cheat on your ex because of your misfortune, it’s a disservice to yourself
Also, if you’re unhappy with your ex, it’s best not to step into the next relationship until you’re completely done with him. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
3. Acknowledge past hurts and take time to regain true singleness
A marriage ends and both parties are hurt. Even if you leave a bogeyman who abuses you all day and thinks leaving is a relief, you still have to admit that you are hurt too. These wounds will take some time to heal, to calm down, or call it control. A new relationship cannot be used as a painkiller, so please enjoy being single and regaining your energy, or motivation in life, while you heal. Only when you are back to being truly single again, without the entanglements of your ex, you can calmly and rationally look at the hurt inside, and then consider how to start a new relationship again. How do you know what you want in a person
You may be thinking, “How easy is this? Everyone wants someone who is good looking, financially well off, affectionate, and loyal. But the reality is that such perfect people don’t exist. What’s the point of knowing what you want? Can you get it just because you want it? If you want to be clear about what you want in a life partner, you need to take a little time to ask yourself some questions and get to know yourself first.
1. What is your own idea of what the world looks like?
Are you a sensible person, or a person who goes through the motions? Everyone sees the world differently, there is no right or wrong, but do you know the perspective you see for yourself? (In writing, it’s called worldview)
For example, a person who believes that his or her mind can create most happiness and also believes in divine power, that one can rely on the power of God and Buddha to change one’s life, so more money and time is spent on devotional prayers. However, many people consider this a waste, they think there is no God in the world and everything has to be completely on their own. Such people don’t spend their time and money on these things. They may be handsome, successful, affectionate, and faithful, but we all know that such two people simply don’t get along.
2. How do you define success?
Many people think success is about being rich, famous, or nowadays, having a house and a car, so if your definition of success is materialistic, it’s hard to find the right goal. If you find someone who is selfish, unhappy, or even physically very poorly rich and handsome, you won’t be happy either. To know the success of the average person is a sense of well-being, is to feel satisfied with their current life, good health, family happiness, home expenses can be covered, but also to save a little money, only such a family foundation, will have room to think about developing more, is called the day flourishing.
3. What is your basic guideline for being a human being?
Be honest, be fair, don’t take advantage of others, and don’t like to do whatever it takes for a little profit. Only then will you not be with someone who is willing to cheat in order to succeed, or someone who doesn’t even have time for his own family in order to succeed. The more you experience, you will gradually find that the essence of a person is much more important than his external conditions. People generally like an honest, not selfish person who thinks that family, friends, and parents are all important.
The above 3 points can be your bottom line. The world view should be consistent, that is, no belief in God or Buddha, or in yourself, can be reasonably accepted, can be rubbed together, cannot deviate much from the family happiness, the essence of being a human being, must be family-oriented. Other requirements can be changed over time, or make concessions, but these three points are absolutely no concessions, absolutely no patchwork. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
One last thing: It is because of experiencing a failed marriage that we need to look back more, or reflect on ourselves, and think about the future of our lives, confused for the first half of our lives, but happy for the second half of our lives, which needs to be run well. Love usually comes suddenly when, happy single person life, it is because this is the time when you are the most confident, the most real self.