Once a man or woman gets married, it means starting a family and learning to get along with parents on both sides. So for the new daughter-in-law, how to get along with her mother-in-law is a key issue. I often hear feedback from people around me that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, so why would the mother-in-law will be cross to the daughter-in-law and pick her nose and eyes? The actual fact is that you just need to grasp the psychological activities of your mother-in-law and then prescribe the right remedy to solve this problem is not difficult.
China has a tradition of difficult relationships between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, and it has not improved with socio-economic development, and there are still widespread cases of divorce because of the mother-in-law. As a new daughter-in-law, once you walk into your in-laws’ house, you will inevitably have a lot on your mind.
1. The mother-in-law is the daughter-in-law of many years.
The mother-in-law was also a new daughter-in-law back then, and was also up against her own mother-in-law. The previous generation of mothers-in-law were more traditionally influenced than the current mothers-in-law, and relatively speaking, as a daughter-in-law you have to stoop to the level of your mother-in-law. The newest generation of the company is the one that has been in the business for many years, and it is the only one that has been in the business for many years.
And the mother-in-law will compare her daughter-in-law’s behavior with her own back then. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
2. The mother-in-law is not ready for her son to leave the nest.
In modern society, many people study away from home as teenagers, so it is taken for granted that their parents are used to it. In fact, it’s because of being away from home at a young age and not spending much time together that parents are doubly concerned, especially as mothers.
The son is away at school, away at work, and currently at home only to satisfy himself by chattering to his neighbors and friends about his children’s accolades and so on. Suddenly within a few years, the son got married, had his own family, and belonged to another woman. The mother’s heart was hard.
Some people say, “Isn’t the family pushing for marriage? In fact, the rush to marry is just a fear of social pressure on her child, it does not mean that she is ready for her son to belong to another woman. When her son gets married and really organizes his own family, she will feel despondent when she has less time to focus on her parents. Tossing her daughter-in-law is a way to vent her frustration.
3. The mother-in-law feels that her son is all that matters.
This kind of mother-in-law is the hardest to deal with and the biggest possible situation to mess up. Chinese parents always look at their children as their own possessions, and when the child grows up and has an opinion, she doesn’t show it on the surface, but in fact this idea consistently hasn’t changed.
If the son is stronger and has his own ideas that make her feel out of control, let him be. If her son is less strong, it’s not surprising that she would act very strongly and interfere in every aspect of his life.
In addition, there is also an idea in Chinese society that filial piety is the greatest, which is a good reason for a strong mother. “The first time I saw a woman, I was able to find a wife who would pay me back.
After meeting your mother-in-law with all kinds of unhappiness, don’t get frustrated as a new daughter-in-law. A mother-in-law is a person, and a woman. It means that the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law still have a place to turn. How should a new daughter-in-law communicate to please her mother-in-law? The new daughter-in-law can put it into action after she has figured out what her mother-in-law thinks.
How can a new daughter-in-law please her mother-in-law?
1. Go shopping together
Men can’t understand why women go shopping, not only do you like shopping, your mother-in-law may also like it. Grandmother has been with the grandchildren, clothes will certainly not be too sophisticated, but also do not have time to shop. Especially after the baby is in daycare, isn’t it time to dress up the old lady too?
In the process of shopping, not only do you relax your mother-in-law, but you may also find that the two of you actually like the same style of plaid skirt and the same color of curtain tablecloth. These common languages can be a bridge to build their friendship.
2. Take your mother-in-law to eat together often
People are usually in a good mood when it comes to food, so don’t just focus on being a gourmet yourself. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Love the same cuisine, plus your mother-in-law is a passionate cook, that’s even better. The two in-laws can totally study together how the food in other people’s restaurants is made, and one way or another, there is a fellowship, how high the chances of friction cold war can be?
3. Teach your mother-in-law to go online
The online world is rich and colorful, and new things are coming out all the time, who says only young people like to go online, who says old people are slow to react, nowadays, more and more old people have become The Internet has become more and more popular among the elderly. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
It may be hard and tiring, but you’ll soon find it feels good to be relied on and trusted by her. And your mother-in-law will naturally feel grateful to you as she opens up her eyes and adds to the usual entertainment and diversions, which leaves no room for picking on your shortcomings?
We’ve all seen on TV that many mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law have a “deep-seated hatred” for each other. The fact is that it is very easy to resolve this conflict! And don’t forget, both people have a common link: the man. Sometimes it is necessary to tit-for-tat, through the middleman to lubricate a little, is also a good practice. The two families are the intersection of this man, then, the two sides of the conflict, he should help to ease the solution should be obliged to.