I didn’t get married until I was 31 and I’m doing well. I’ve been diving for many years, reading so many sisters’ tales of woe, and have been through several very painful relationships myself. Now, get along very well with the love of my life and his family. I think I still have some experience to give the sisters who are still feeling their way to learn. I’m not trying to boast about what I’ve done well, but I think we need to learn to grow from our mistakes, and never fall again and again in the pit we’ve fallen in. I hope these lessons are useful for sisters in their relationships and marriages.
1. Most of all, girls should try to make themselves better, from their ability to their looks
Taiwan’s famous advertising slogan: Serious women are the most beautiful. The company’s main goal is to provide a more efficient and effective way to improve the quality of its products. The actual fact is that the actual person who is playing with life and playing with men will eventually be played with as well.
Maybe many sisters are not very good at their jobs, and being able to clean up after themselves is a big plus.
The reality is that men are still prone to judge people by their appearance in the first place. Not all men love only the most beautiful women, and most men still have a good feeling about clean and fresh women.
2. Good men, demanding of themselves, not demanding of women
A man who gets by with his job, but demands a lot from his girlfriend, is better to stay away. Such a man has the highest chance of becoming a toxic man after marriage. The least our sisters ask for when they marry is to be respected by their own husbands, and men who think they have the right to call out to their wives are not good marriage partners.
3. Marrying someone depends most on character, personality
A similar personality, a similar outlook on life and money is the best guarantee of married life. The two people who have different personalities are not able to speak on a regular basis, even if the world is recognized as a golden girl, a natural pair, but also can not be married, after all, most of your life is to spend with him, cold and warm.
4. The man who says he is not good enough for you at the beginning, he will never be good enough for you later
For some brilliant girls, they always meet men who seem to have potential, you change yourself for him and give your all, and he says, you are too good for him, his (education, money, ability, status, looks, etc.) is not good enough for You. The example of many sisters around me proves that the man who has no self-confidence and can only be dated by your submission will not be good to you in the future, and your excellence will only make him more inferior.
5. Before committing your life, take a look at his family
It’s not about how much money his family has, it’s about whether his family is family friendly, caring and courteous. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. Every family has its shortcomings, ask your boyfriend’s attitude, a man who is foolishly loyal has limited respect for his wife in his heart.
6. A man who has a tight hand on himself and a tight hand on his girlfriend has no love.
Money is the most important thing that can tell the nature and feelings of a man. Sisters in love is not about money, but if he makes you feel wrong about money, it’s time to think about whether he’s right for you. When in a relationship, the normal consumption is supposed to meet the beginning to say clear to AA men are too calculating, but also too afraid to lose. In a future marriage, there are many places where one needs to sacrifice, and such a man will be the first to run away.
7. The man who beats people up can’t be wanted and must be broken up once he is beaten up
The man who is a philanderer and has stepped on several boats can’t be wanted and must be broken up once he is found. The old saying goes, “When you break off, you suffer from the chaos.
8. Girls in love should have their own bottom line
Never give up their dignity, insult their parents, abandon their jobs because they love him. A good relationship, marriage must be a win-win, not a one-sided sacrifice and fulfillment.
9When you meet a man you like, you must be brave enough to go after him
Unrequited love is the most hurtful and fruitless.
10Say what you have to say
What’s on your mind, say it, don’t let men guess, be able to communicate, your life will be happier. Not being able to communicate means that your happiness is not yet guaranteed. I don’t think there is a man who takes pleasure in guessing what’s on his girlfriend’s mind. It’s really a shame to lose a good man for this reason.
11. Don’t be virtuous in front of a man at the beginning
If he is comfortable with what you give but doesn’t know how to give back, he is suspected of being macho. If you relax in your heart over time and don’t do as well as before, he will be hurt and will think you cheated him or that you don’t love him anymore. It’s better to start off with a measured expression of love and give him the opportunity to show it and let him do something for you.
12. Break when you break
Everyone can make a mistake, but if you keep making mistakes, you have a problem. Many sisters have been with him for N years”, “he was my first man”, “I’ve miscarried N children for him”, “I’ve paid a lot of money for I’ve paid ……” “I’m …… years old” and put up with living with a man who doesn’t treat you well, and in the end it’s you who gets hurt. A friend of mine and I said: the world is not set in stone, it will either get better or worse, in short, there is no constant.
This statement directly motivated me to get out of a bad relationship. Because, I knew that if I were to change, that relationship would only get worse and I would get hurt more later. My bravery is the most solid foundation for me to have a good time now.
13. Love because you love, not for a nice wedding or a dream life of luxury
All happiness comes at a price, but don’t let some of it ruin your life. Young girls are easily blinded by vanity, but in a real marriage, the man who can cover you with the quilt that stirred off at night is the man worth trusting for life.
14. To cherish the man who really loves you and treats you well
A good man will treat you well in a way that is really good for you, not indulge you or bind you in the name of loving you. Such men are rare, and if you meet one, you must cherish it. Young men tend to love their girlfriends in an innocent way, he may not be mature, but his love is real, do not give up lightly. Later on, after more experience in society, you will know how valuable a true heart is.
15. Everything is in time
There are many good men in this world who are just struggling to find their other half. Not all men only love virgins, not all men care about your previous marriage, and not all men care about your age education. There are many good marriages in which men love the stupidity, naivety and rounded figure of their women, or the mole at the corner of their mouths.
What you have been hurt by, he will cherish twice, and your bravery will make him respect more. So even if you are wounded, be like Kim Sam-soon and be brave enough to love as if you had not been wounded. The world will only let go of you if you open yourself up first.
16. Don’t give your heart to a man at the beginning of his pursuit
Good men and bad men care about you at the beginning of their pursuit, picking you up and dropping you off, texting you, and taking care of you when you are sick. Don’t fall in as soon as someone is nice to you, think about it and look at it more before you make a decision. Generally, four months, enough contact, enough for you to get to know him. Online interactions don’t count, nor do longer online encounters. Real life is what counts.
You have to eat with him, hang out with him, do things together to get to know him. You know if you’re happy or not. Many times, it’s not men who are cheating us, it’s us who are cheating ourselves.
17. If you love him, accept him as he is, don’t fantasize about him changing
If he can change, of course it’s best, otherwise, just think about it, can you accept it. Every shortcoming before the marriage will be magnified after the marriage. He smokes, and you love him, try to accept it. There are too few men who quit smoking after marriage. The same goes for other flaws.
18. Men over 30 tend to have their habits and lifestyles fixed and are less likely to change completely for a woman, and he needs you to adapt to him more.
Rather, younger men are more willing to change for the woman they love. This article is entirely my personal feeling, please forgive me if it may not be correct.
Looking back, I’ve made all the mistakes since then, but fortunately I’m a “reckless woman” by nature, and I dared both to love and to leave, so I have a marriage that I’m happy with now. Love and marriage is the biggest test of a girl’s life, and the vast majority of our growth stems from it. I’ve written some clichés, but every one of them is a real and unpleasant lesson for me, and later, I will tell my daughter about them, as a mother’s blessing to her children.