There are men who ask you out, when they ask you out, where they ask you out, and whether they go their own way after the date or send you home …… It seems like there is a hidden agenda behind it all.
Recently, a Facebook post on “men’s motivation to ask you out” has been reposted repeatedly, and many bloggers sighed: “It’s a classic, so I’ll be sure to check it out on my next date.
Can small details really reveal inner secrets?
Men lament: “Motivation checklist” let us be “lurked”
“Men dating your motivation checklist”. The name is a gimmick.
On the 8th, when Xiao Yue mentioned the form in the office, several female colleagues immediately gathered around, pointing to the motivation questionnaire and gossiping about it.
Xiaolin was the first to speak as an experienced person: “It’s really important to know if you’re being asked out in advance. On a first date, if you really care, you always have to prepare properly. Calling someone on the fly is not only a questionable motive, but also a disrespectful one, and the girl doesn’t even get a chance to dress up properly.”
Lynn is more interested in the steps after the meal, whether the guy ends up taking you home, whether he texts you to say hello after the breakup, all these details are enough to show whether he’s on to you or not.
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“Details, details, or details.”
Lynn turned her hand to forward the motivation checklist to a few of her single girlfriends, “Gotta warn them to watch out.”
Before the words left her mouth, the oldest sister, who had been sitting in the corner and not moving, spoke up: “We’re all entertaining, we’ve seen it, it’s still serious?”
In her opinion, there are too many uncertainties in the form, sophisticated men to exclude, unconventional geeks not to be consulted, and men who have already read the form online are more likely to change their tricks.
“It’s impossible to guard against.” The oldest sister summed it up.
Regardless of the comments, the reality is that the “Men’s Motivations for Asking You Out” form is still being wildly reposted on Facebook, and more and more people are commenting on it.
MMs are exclaiming that it’s a great form, and they need to study it in depth so they can go out on a date and have something to go by.
The men sighed: We’re being “lurked” at.
Psychologists explain whether the table is accurate or not
The table was sent to Xu Daiyue, a national level 2 psychological counselor at Deep Blue Psychological Counseling Studio, and the most important question was asked: Is it accurate or not?
The answer was: yes, and no, it’s a little more entertaining.
“Any test form that has not been tested for reliability and validity can only be used as a reference and cannot be a rigorous scientific test.”
This table is a delight because the motivations reflected in the details are so close to real life that they resonate, but when it comes to accuracy, it’s only one of many possibilities because there are so many factors that can be easily influenced.
Taking the initial date as an example, psychologically speaking, unless the relationship is very special, it’s always more sincere to ask out in advance than on the fly, but that doesn’t exclude special circumstances. For example, a guy who has wanted to ask a girl out for a long time, but has been afraid to try, suddenly sees a post that inspires his crush, or hears a passionate love song, and his energy builds up instantly and he suddenly makes the decision to date.
In terms of attention, people will always spend more attention on the things they care more about. The first thing you need to do is to get back home and send a text message or call again to check in, and this kind of attentiveness is a reflection of his inner concern for you. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers, but it is also important to remove the interference from its own personality traits or family background.
“In summary, this lookup table can be used as a reference for communication, for dating, and it provides a way of thinking about what people can do from that perspective. However, there are many factors that influence the motivation of each behavior, and if it is very rigidly applied to each person, it will certainly produce bias, or it should be further analyzed in the context of the specific communication of the individual.” Xu Daiyue said.
The need for self-preservation behind the form
Nowadays, quirky and bizarre forms such as the “Men’s Motivation for Asking You Out Query Form “
These days, strange and quirky test forms are becoming increasingly popular online, with many people taking part for fun and many more laughing at them.
Xu Daiyue said, like the most popular “man about your motive query table”, behind the entertainment reflects a status quo is that the number of guys playing ambiguous, so that girls can not understand, and the ensuing decline in trust between people, girls need to seek more security to protect themselves, so such a query table The subconscious feeling of being able to play a self-protective role with such a form seems to have come into being.