Sometimes your own mother doesn’t get along well, let alone your mother-in-law. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
Naturally, there are different “cunning” tricks to use with different mothers-in-law.
1 Establish a “love for the house” perspective
Not “love for the house”! The husband and mother-in-law are like the little crow and the old house, you are only in love with a “little crow”, all thanks to the decades of love and care of the old house, not even a feather of his. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
With such a concept, you will be able to care for your mother-in-law from the smallest detail and have neither shadow nor aggravation in your mind to stop asking her how to heart you. The first thing you need to do is to start with you, and then the family relationship will be harmonious.
2 Separation of views and practices
A fellow college student told me how her mother-in-law was putting on small shoes, how she was divorced from her husband, how she was narrow-minded and a small citizen, but when I went to her house, I found that they were talking and laughing with each other quite harmoniously. So I couldn’t help but ask her what was going on, and she smiled and said: views are views, practices are practices. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
For example, any mother-in-law wants to be respected by her daughter-in-law, so even if you think she is still below you in cooking, you may want to ask her for advice on how to cook her best dishes; don’t forget to ask for her advice when you encounter difficulties, it’s up to you to learn and listen, but the key is to give your mother-in-law a psychological balance so she will cause less trouble later.
3 Always be on your mother-in-law’s side
This is an important unprincipled principle that is tried and true! It requires a bit of high intelligence.
The first thing you need to do is to make sure that your mother-in-law is on your side.
Any harmless issue is justified by the mother-in-law, for example, firmly supporting her nutrition program, firmly not allowing her rich mother-in-law to take diet pills, it’s not easy to be a bull, but it’s hard to be a horse’s ass. The key is to create an atmosphere of closeness and togetherness so that she feels you should be one of them.
4 Acting out some meaty scenes
It’s not that you and your husband should be overly intimate in front of your mother-in-law, but on the contrary, it’s one of the most taboo things you should do as a daughter-in-law. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
It doesn’t matter if it’s a little more fleshy or exaggerated. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. One day, your mother-in-law will pull you aside and say, “You, don’t spoil him, let him move his own hands!” The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on the equipment.
Mothers are biased, so let’s see how you can get it right.
5 “Showing love” for your husband
From time to time, you can “convey” your husband’s infinite love for his mother out of nothing. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. But men are careless to the point of always spouting off or being clumsy.
The best thing you can do at this point is to walk her through the pain, talk about how hard it was to raise her son, and walk her through the sweetness of how competitive and filial her son is. The best way is to remember how easy it is to raise a son, and to think of the sweetness of it. So instead, her old man will feel more thoughtful and cared for because of your arrival.
6 Don’t argue clearly about right and wrong
Whose family’s day is not about food and salt, food and drink? How many things are there that need to be brought to a roundtable discussion? Families are places where emotions are valued, not reason. Don’t try to reason at home. I admit that there are right and wrong family matters, but there’s really no need to make a point of it.
The mother-in-law said the sun comes out from the west, so you’re right, you know in your heart it comes out from the east on the line, there’s no need to correct her to her face and embarrass her to her face. The most important thing is that the mother-in-law does not want to lose face in front of her daughter-in-law.
7 Be subtle with your complaints
Never badmouth at both ends, as this will only isolate you.
Mothers are somewhat coddling their children, scolding them any way they want, but never allowing others to speak ill of their children.
If you’re not sure what you’re talking about, you’re not sure what you’re talking about.
If you have a problem with your husband, your mother-in-law can talk to you and tell you what’s wrong with him, just nod your head with tears in your eyes, don’t accuse him without any intention, and be careful to plant the seeds of unhappiness between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
More importantly: Never vilify her mother in front of her husband. There is a separate article on how to use your husband to best play a role between you and your mother-in-law, as the subtleties of this cannot be explained in a sentence or two.
8 Gifts that are more needed than expensive
What is a gift? It is to show whether you really observe the person next to you, the practical things that you need most in your daily life. It’s not easy to give a gift, but for your mother-in-law, a gift is a necessary lubricant between you.
A clear example of how difficult it is to serve your mother-in-law is to give a gift, which is too big for her to say you don’t know how to live your life and spend money, and too small for you to risk criticism from all sides. It depends on your ability!
People’s needs are not measured by how much money they have, so if you put your mind to it, you will be able to see what will reach your mother-in-law’s “heart”.
For example, if your mother-in-law is old but still a woman, give her a tube of lipstick that she is too embarrassed to buy for herself but wants to. When you give it to her, make sure you insist on putting it on for her, let her look in the mirror, and then rave about it.
You can secretly write down her favorite foods and surprise her from time to time. There is no need to give a gift on any special day. Thinking of your mother-in-law’s needs at all times will impress her more than anything else.
9 Show weakness
Daughters-in-law in the old days were bullied by their mothers-in-law, but now it’s different, you’re young and independent, her son can easily chase you down and your position in his mind is as high as ever, compared to your mother-in-law who sees you as a “competitor”. “. The heart is weak to be sensitive, she and you take, in fact, is she refused to show weakness. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.