In a relationship, you should know the taboos of men, otherwise when a man dumps you, you won’t even know why you were dumped.
1. Men are cowardly
“A man is afraid of commitment because he loves that woman too much. If he loves a woman deeply, it makes no difference at all whether there is a commitment or not.”
If you believe this argument, throw away your Qiong Yao romance novels at home. The majority of men are afraid of commitment, and most are just afraid of being held accountable for their commitment. And the cells that don’t want to be responsible are basically the same as male hormones, which are rooted in the male genes, the difference being that some men have more of them and some men have less of them.
2. Fear of changing your life style
“We’re fine together now, why do we need to change?”
This would be the most commonly heard reason in movies and real life, but being abused doesn’t mean it’s necessarily an excuse. The fact is that humans, like other animals, are really not very willing to change the life patterns they are used to. If you don’t understand, look around you at colleagues who complain about their jobs every day but still haven’t changed jobs.
3. Fear of changing you
Many women see marriage as a tear-jerker in their lives, and many men see it as a tear-jerker in their partner’s personality and body type. If you and your boyfriend are around married women, pay special attention to whether or not they are “teacherized”. Married friends with short tempers and swollen, out-of-shape bodies can be a big reason to be afraid of your boyfriend.
4. Freedom
Darwin once listed the reasons for not getting married: “Freedom to go wherever you like; to go to clubs and talk to people at will; not to be forced to visit friends and relatives, and not to tarry in trifles.” Modern men do not want to get married for the following reasons: free to go anywhere they like; free to go to the bar to “fart”; not forced to visit friends and relatives, do not have to delay in trivial matters. Men like to be free, as they have been for ages.
5. Choice
From “marriage is the grave of love” to “there is no reason to give up a whole forest for a tree”, many arguments against marriage are just reiterating the same concept: “there is a choice. The same concept is reiterated: “If you have a choice, you are the boss”. Although it does not mean that every man likes to have three wives and four concubines, but marriage is the same as giving up the right to choose is an indisputable fact.
6. Time
He wants to get married when you think it’s not the right time, you want to get married when he thinks the economic environment is less than ideal, picking the wrong time to “wrongtiming “
When he wants to get married, you think it’s not the right time.
7. Money
Fat Tiger’s golden line from the Tinker Bell cartoon: “What’s yours is my stuff, and what’s mine is still mine.” Even if they don’t say it out loud, many women still feel that their husbands’ income should go mostly to household expenses, but unfortunately, most men disagree.
8. It’s still money
Wedding is a major life event, and the magnitude is directly proportional to the money spent on it. But the gift, wedding reception, wedding dress, wedding photos …… all wedding-related expenses have two things in common: they’re expensive, and they’ll only be used once (or at least. At least, hopefully only once).
9. He doesn’t love you
“Do you really love me?” This is probably the most asked question between couples, and if you are sweetly asking each other directly, congratulations, you are still in love. But if you’re asking this question every day in the mirror and getting tears in the corners of your eyes, and you’ve even started asking your friends around you if they think your boyfriend loves you, then 86.42% of them really don’t love you anymore, so it’s time to find the next guy.
10. Still – money
A friend got married abroad and came back to meet her friends, and the first thing she was asked was how to arrange alimony in case of divorce according to local law.
Not to be too negative, but in Asia, where the divorce rate is high, thinking about what happens after the marriage ends is at least a way to “prepare for the best and plan for the worst”.