Distance creates beauty, mystery creates great beauty. Among the many qualities that attract men to women, such as beauty, cuteness, sensuality, tenderness, and mystery: mystery comes in first place.
The master of Japanese literature, Yasunari Kawabata, won the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1968 for his three middle-grade novels, including Snow Country. I loved Snow Country, a heartbreakingly beautiful novel in which Yasunari Kawabata portrays two young girls with very different personalities: the passionate and straightforward Komako and the mysterious and reticent Yoko, one beautiful and clean, the other beautiful and sad.
Shimura, the young dancer who is the hero of the book, is sometimes in love with Komako, and sometimes unknowingly reveals his admiration for Yoko. In fact, there are not many appearances of Yoko in the book, but always haunted Shimura, why? The reason is that Yoko embodies an unspeakable mysterious beauty, which is also the beauty of traditional Japanese culture.
At the beginning of the novel, in the snowy dusk, Shimamura takes a train to the snowy country and is bored by the window when he suddenly finds a girl’s eyes reflected in the window glass, and that is the first time he sees Yoko.
A woman’s charm lies not in beauty but in mystery in the first place. Why do most men in love like women with long, flowing hair? The long black hair is like a black veil that covers half of the woman’s face and arouses the man’s desire to explore and discover. The most important thing that many men fear is that the woman will cut off her long hair after marriage, gain weight, complain about the rambling and stop working.
In the eyes of men, women are always mysterious, strange, and always unexpected, like cats, like foxes, or else beautiful and enchanting women are called vixens.
This difference has also caused the prevalence of contradictory emotions in men towards women: on the one hand, men are afraid that his power will be seized by women, afraid that his wealth will be taken away by women, afraid that the mystery and enchantment of women is like a bottomless abyss that swallows him up, which is highlighted by the fact that most of the heroes and heroines under the ancient Chinese writers were “sexless and lustless”. “
Because danger means challenge and excitement, and you can’t get a tiger’s son without entering a tiger’s den. Two women were chased by a group of demons and were desperate when they met the goddess, who asked them to reveal their shy parts, and they did, scaring the demons away. The story has been passed down to this day, and it is clear that in both Chinese and Japanese cultures, the most mysterious parts of women are infinitely more lethal.
This is also in line with Freud’s analysis of why men can’t help but fall in love with “dangerous bad women” in his book “The Psychology of Love”.