I met a man who is not bad, but he is a bit cold, or rather, mute. This is a good idea. The most important thing is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you are doing, and that you are not just playing dumb.
A met a Mr. L on a dating site. He is not handsome, but steady and gentle is what A likes, and his financial strength should be average, with a stable job. This made A feel good and the relationship went quite well.
The rainstorm in Guangzhou always comes when it says it will, and the two of them walked together holding hands in the heavy rain …… It was really raining hard and ran to the door of a house to hide from the rain. Take out your cell phone and play a few songs that A likes, A own recordings at certain times in the past also played out without thinking, he said, you are so romantic, but in the future do not need to record, to A said on the good. The road in front of the room, the heavy rain stirred up bubbles jumping languidly, vivid and warm, really romantic …… He once again asked with some concern, “What if you don’t know how to be romantic?”
This should be a stable and steady marriage partner, but why does it give A such an unsettled feeling? The two are only an hour’s drive away, but they haven’t seen each other for two weeks, and A can’t get over it, nor can she comfort herself. Is he not enthusiastic anymore or is his enthusiasm too short-lived or does he not like me anymore? If he really likes me and just really doesn’t know how to maintain it, should A take the initiative to lead or give up decisively?
Although honest men are out of favor these days, we still recommend honest men for women who want a reliable man. The most important thing is that you have to be able to get the best out of your life.
Maybe with him, you won’t have a life of great wealth, but he will give you all he has, and you won’t drink porridge when he eats, but maybe you will eat when he drinks porridge. This kind of man, peace and stability, for a woman, may not be a kind of happiness.
An honest and loyal man usually doesn’t know anything about romance or love when he’s with you, and maybe after you do a lot of things, he’s still baffled and confused, and his reaction doesn’t make you frustrated? In addition to the traditional type of honest and loyal men, new engineering men science men technology men will also be the same reaction. If it’s really these kinds of men, it’s better to be wrong than to be spared, which comes from the shooter plate.
But there’s another problem: you have to make sure he’s really not romantic, or just too lazy to run love and play dumb.
There is a very simple truth that if you like someone, you will try to please them in every way possible. Whether or not this method is appreciated by the other party. It may be that there is no better way to please a woman in the eyes of many men who do not understand romance than to be spit out by women long ago old-fashioned plus boring, but what is the difference between this heart and those men who make romance for you?
For a birthday, he sent roses and chocolates; for a mountain climb, he confessed his love and pulled out a prepared gift – don’t think it’s corny and unimaginative, but believe me, for many men, it’s really the most romantic thing they’ve ever tried to do.
Does the guy next to you really appreciate it as much as you do that perfect day you spent together, while you were enjoying the nice, sweet atmosphere? Not necessarily. Although he cooperates well, what’s on his mind may be another matter. You are sitting in the rain with an umbrella, you are enjoying the heavy rain blisters, maybe he is thinking “pants leg all wet”; you take out the phone to play songs to him, maybe he is thinking “go back to use the speakers to play the effect much better”. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
If he doesn’t get it, it’s okay, love and romance can be cultivated. As long as there is a heart, two people gradually deep feelings, one day, he will suddenly like enlightenment to your way to surprise you. Or he has not learned and can not experience what you call romantic, but he will use their own old-fashioned way to express their feelings with you, what does it matter? Just enjoy his love.
When you’re with a man who doesn’t know how to be romantic, remember not to stress about how romantic you like it, it will make him frustrated and upset. This is not good for the relationship between two people. Learn to listen moderately, listen to what he thinks about the relationship, about you, and what he plans for the future. Talk together, communicate together, discuss together, and slowly deepen your understanding.
You need to be able to tell if he’s “unromantic” or “unmotivated”.
It’s true that you can be less demanding when it comes to romance. If he is a rudimentary 286 computer, you can’t ask him to handle graphics as elegantly and delicately as an Apple computer, he just has to love you as much as he can within the 286’s capabilities. Don’t put Apple’s requirements on him.
But not knowing how to be romantic doesn’t mean not having you on your mind. A man who never says “A loves you” can also show his love by helping you fix your computer and pushing your bike to the tire in an effort to take you to all the restaurants in the neighborhood.
And a man who doesn’t bother to put his heart and soul into love is a man who has no passion for the relationship or for you as a person. What he does and says, the starting point is himself. Or what to gain. The first thing you can do is to get together and see if this man is betting his eyes on you, and I believe that any woman will feel it.
Maybe it’s because you haven’t impressed him yet, maybe he’s only with you to get married, maybe he’s not ready, maybe he’s not even thinking about being responsible, just thinking about enjoying the convenience of having a girlfriend around… …and many other reasons. But for a man who is not ready to commit to a relationship but has already started one, doesn’t that sound awkward and strange to you as the person involved?
If a man says he “doesn’t know how to be romantic” for the purpose of just being too lazy to be in love, think twice.
With a man like this, you may reap the rewards of his affection when it comes to being sincere. But more than that, you can’t be sure if he will eventually commit, and when that happens, what do you do?
So when you meet a man who is cold or mute in his response to you, determine if he really doesn’t understand you or not? If he is just due to nature, then women, congratulations, please hold on to him as soon as possible and do not let go. If you’re looking for a new one, you’ll be able to get a new one.