There are more and more leftover women nowadays, not because these women are not good enough, but they never find the right person. What is marriage? Is marriage necessarily the place for women to be?
I. Must marriage be a woman’s home?
Marriage may have a different meaning for everyone, have you ever wondered why we want to get married? For men and women, marriage may also have a different meaning behind each. The most important thing is to have a good understanding of the situation.
Amidst all the talk about how not getting married is the abnormal thing to do, does this pop up out of nowhere? Or do you feel relieved that someone finally agrees with you?
Second, why do we go into marriage?
Although our material life is getting richer, it still lags behind the material development as far as the spiritual aspect is concerned. For example, in the case of marriage, there are many parents who urge their children to get married, worrying that they will have no one to take care of them when they grow older. But there is no denying that the mentality of not losing out to their own children is also at work. From the age of marriage, the object, the character of the grandchildren, appearance and so on are all within the comparison. Under this pressure, many people of marriageable age choose to rush into marriage in order to get rid of that shadow of greeting.
After a busy year, it’s easy to reunite with family and relax physically and mentally. But at dinner time, the topic of conversation at the table can’t help but link to the topic that parents have been increasingly worried about for their daughters in recent years, the “ultimate destiny” for women in mainstream society – marriage.
Three, parents worry about their daughters when there are leftovers
For example, the following
Many good women are left, not because of how mediocre they are, but because of being good. She’s stressed simply because we exist in precisely the same society that imagines the female situation so narrowly.
But women around the world today are still faced with different pay for the same work, lack of childcare support in the workplace, and stereotypical gender roles such as “men are in charge, women are in charge,” all of which are not conducive to women carving out a path outside of “marriage” or beyond. But at the same time, I have a sense of empathy with my parents for their own daughter’s suffering.
Fourth, can marriage be a guarantee of life?
Our parents were born in the era of the Civil Revolution, and the shocking social environment and the disparity between the rich and the poor between urban and rural areas in Hong Kong, China, gave them a deeper understanding of what it means to live and work in peace and contentment. The difference between the rich and the poor between the urban and rural areas of Hong Kong, China, gives them a deeper understanding of what it means to live and work in peace. For my parents, the most practical criteria to become their daughter’s partner is to have their own property, a stable career, and a place to shelter their daughter and future grandchildren from the elements. Because the parents also believe that this is after all a better choice for Chinese women to survive on earth in the future without too many better options. But is this life orientation the kind of life you seek when you are college educated and working for a Fortune 500 foreign company?
V. Marriage = “articles are good for you, wives are good for others”?
I believe this story is not unfamiliar to you and me: he and his wife were originally childhood friends, also educated people, often in love with text books for communication, but then there were children at home, he was out for the mouth Mercedes, no asahi again He wanted to leave his wife and son and start a new life. If there is a person of the opposite sex who can talk to him about literature and dreams and evoke his youthful memories, what will follow?
Six, “off the pace”? Women are easily disliked
And I feel sorry for his wife. How much of an opportunity cost does a highly educated Chinese woman have to give up to become a “cooking woman” who can take care of and raise children for a man to an age similar to mine? What does it mean when his wife doesn’t keep pace with him today and he gets bored?
Our “marriage” is also in the best of times and the worst of times. In this generation, we are all cyber-noisy and lonely in the world.
Everyone wants to be loved, which makes it easy for us to fall in love, or to start loving, in both genders, even in same-sex relationships, but how to keep loving once we start is all about responsibility, giving, and commitment, and this “keeping going” is not something everyone is interested in doing. “Not everyone is interested in finding out. The love that everyone is looking for has its own shape, of course, and there is no need for anything to be long-lasting, a moment of pleasure is also a revolutionary gesture to a short life.
Seven, it’s fun to keep to yourself and not get married
If it were anyone else Anyone who could satisfy this husband’s request for a heart-to-heart would be able to get him to betray his marriage. It is not out of love, but simply a refuge from the incongruous pace of his life with his wife. In short, the only reason the woman outside attracts him is because “I’m not his wife”.
As a woman of Asian descent, in a world of gender inequality, we can fall down and learn to listen and improve, but we must not lose a piece of our life, a piece of our dreams, in any case. We must not lose a piece of our own life, and we must not lose a piece of our own dream. We can’t lose a piece of our own life, a piece of our own dream, because losing a piece of ourselves will make us disconnected in different relationships, and will make us lost in the “standards” of a society full of distortions.
“Keeping a piece of yourself” doesn’t mean being self-centered or selfish to the end, but it is a prerequisite for building equality in a relationship, and it is a prerequisite for our future “love” because of what we love. It is a prerequisite for “becoming a better” person in the future because of what we love. Equality” allows us to support and care for each other, and “becoming a better” person allows us to progress together and at the same pace.
So in a reversal of what your parents want, if you want to find a family partner who has a property and a stable income, then it is recommended that you choose to work on becoming a person who has the financial means to buy property for your family of origin first; if you want your future lover to be insightful and thoughtful, then it is recommended that you work on becoming a person who has the financial means to buy property for your family of origin first. If you want your future lover to be insightful and thoughtful, then you should first become a person who is broad-minded and brave enough to try to accept and try new things.