Love at first sight between two people is a very romantic beginning. Because women are naturally more sensitive to emotions, many people believe that love at first sight is more common for women. But did you know? Men are more likely to fall in love at first sight than women.
Unexpected, right? This is probably because men are more likely to express their feelings directly. Many men have the desire to go on with a relationship because they meet for the first time and find the other person very pleasant and nice. And for women, as long as they are not averse to this man, they can continue the relationship. Thus, we will find that the man is easy to take intimate action on the woman next to him, it is because he has long acknowledged her. Women, on the other hand, are more reserved and need to be further identified before they can accept intimate actions. This can also be interpreted as the woman not acknowledging the male partner the first time, but only on many subsequent dates.
Men are always more aggressive than women in relationships, not simply because of the inertia of “men chasing women,” but also because men’s feelings come faster than women’s. In fact, men are more likely to be aggressive than women. In fact, men are more likely to be moved than women. To determine whether they like this choice, men are always quick to make a choice. Women’s love, there is always a moderate amount of hidden, seven points of love, the face can show three points is more than enough. But men’s love, relatively simple, there is love will love, no love will not love. It is the most realistic view of love.
But the strange thing is that women who love someone can often last a lifetime. If they don’t love someone, they may not go into marriage. For men, it’s just the opposite. While he is easily heartbroken, he can and will live his life with a woman he doesn’t love and keep the person he loves permanently buried in his heart.
Men are more likely to have their hearts moved than women. A man who has moved his heart, the initiative is at your disposal. If you are really interested in him, seize the time to strike and get his heart in as short a time as possible. The longer the battle line is dragged out, the less conducive to your victory. The more time you have, the less likely you are to win. Don’t say “sorry” or “not easy to do.
Why are men and women so different?
Analyzed from a personality and emotional perspective, it stems from an internal personality deficit.
Falling in love with someone at first sight is not an accident; the emotion of being shocked by someone instantly and then having your heart pound, is often accompanied by a feeling of déjà vu. The dream girl of all people comes from their parents, and if they are not satisfied at their parents, they will move to their surroundings to get it. A boy who lacks maternal love in his childhood, such as the early death of his mother or the suppression or even forgetfulness of his mother’s emotions for some reason, is likely to interpret the love script of Yang Gu and Little Dragon Girl in “The Divine Couple” – Yang Gu will only fall in love at first sight with the more mature Little Dragon Girl and will remain faithful to her until death. It contains the redemption and love of a boy for his mother, and the support of a male personality for a female personality.
On the other hand, the female needs to be freed from her repression, and to see the male personality again, which is lucky and the envy of the world.
So, a person is often attracted to a love at first sight because they have been “deeply in love” for a long time, deeply rooted in childhood emotional memories. In psychotherapy, not only can we trace this emotion back to the scripts of previous generations, but even those old episodes have been buried deep in the individual’s subconscious, having been dusted off in the family information field for decades, or even centuries. This latent gene is wonderfully triggered when the bellwether appears, and the burst of energy is hard to contain.
Love at first sight stems from the continuation of family education
Family education style and the environment in which individuals grow up also have an important influence on love at first sight. For example, Duan Yu, Murong Fu, and Wang Yuyan in The Eight Dragons of Heaven are a clear example.
Although all three of them come from large families, Duan Yu places more importance on returning to the basics of emotion while continuing the family mission. And Murong Fu is precisely the extreme opposite of Duan Yu, he attaches more importance to how to grow his family business. And Wang Yuyan happens to be a combination of the two of them, that is, thirsty for innocent love, but also shoulders the continuation of the noble family mission, and she happens to be able to meet Duan Yu and Murong Fu for the missing emotional supplement. The first time I saw a woman, I was able to see her.
In reality, a person with an unrequited love script tends to fall in love cyclically with someone who could not possibly fall in love with him or her, and such love at first sight has the characteristics of crush and self-hypnosis, imagining that the other person will definitely fall in love with him or her.
There are many kinds of love-at-first-sight scripts, just as complex as human nature is. One of them is harmful in the sense that one side is in a scripted relationship with lust and carnal desire as the main theme, while the other side is in it to gain permanent love. Only those who understand their emotional drama with their beloved and direct it to the good are the ones who have the love and wisdom to be lucky and happy.
What to do when you meet a man whose heart flutters, to make him flutter too?
Especially at a blind date, such a special time when it’s easy to put marriage in the front and our feelings in the back. At this exact moment, you meet your heartthrob at a blind date, what should you do? He seems indifferent to me, what should I do? What should I do when he doesn’t contact me after meeting?
First of all, don’t look at blind dates as too heavy, don’t throw your weight around, and especially don’t use them as a test of your self-worth, like do I have anyone else either? Am I not good enough? A man who has a good feeling about you will definitely take the initiative to contact you, and if not, adjust your mind in time to welcome someone who is more compatible with you in your life.
How can you keep a man’s “love at first sight” feeling alive?
If the love-at-first-sight script is mutual and has an uplifting momentum, I would congratulate you, you just need to create more time and space for you to go deeper, and be careful not to rush into a deeper relationship, but to progress gradually, nourishing each other on a more practical level. The more realistic level of nourishing love for each other, blending the two worlds, building trust, the more love at first sight must be moving toward something beautiful.
We must know that there is still a lot of harm script and harm potential lurking in a love at first sight relationship, which often stems from the role of lust, and women on a blind date must have a pair of wise eyes to make love at first sight land, and lust at first sight must take The first need for lust, this kind of love script built on lust is generally not more than six months, is short-lived, when you once you find the possibility of harm to say no in time to wake up from the wishful thinking of love.
If you meet a man and want to catch him, then let him have his heart too. Stalking is not for men, and his habit of your presence does not necessarily equal his love for you. If he accepts you for the first time, then that means you have succeeded. It’s that simple.