The older generation often said that the door is right for the family. In modern social marriage, whether you admit it or not, door-to-door love is always easier to go. Because, a love that is not reciprocal does not go far, a door-to-door match means that two people may communicate more easily in terms of ideas.
External conditions create unequal love
The older generation often says
I think that’s why most of the people in the world, when they were young, would do “a poor boy like Xue Rengui ended up marrying the three ladies of the palace”. Cinderella such an ordinary girl finally married a prince who combines wealth and power” dream. The story is presented with the focus on getting men to be upright and brave, and women to be hardworking and kind, and then there will be a prime minister who will marry you or a prince who will marry you, and then we will unconsciously set on ourselves, I am upright and brave, I am hardworking and kind, so I will definitely marry the goddess of my heart, or marry the man of my heart.
Of course, when we grow up, we realize that we have been cheated, that being brave and courageous doesn’t necessarily mean that you will marry a lady of the house, because you don’t even get to meet her, and that being hardworking and kind doesn’t necessarily mean that a prince will come to marry you, because you can’t even touch him.
Then we obeyed the idea that only two people with the same family background, education, ability, status and other external factors can be happy together, and we put away our initial unrealistic fantasies and settled down to find someone to live with, of course. Finally, I don’t forget to lament that true love is like a ghost, who has heard of it and never seen it. The actual fact is that the actual people who are in a position to get a good deal of money are not going to be able to get a good deal of money.
Matchmaking is also about spirituality
Some people say that Many two people with vastly different families are happy together. Can you be right for each other in other ways than being right for each other on the outside?
This story has probably happened many times in many places. A poor boy gets together with a girl whose family is in a modest condition. The friends around are not optimistic, the woman’s family strongly opposed. Even the man’s heart is apprehensive. Only the girl, firmly said to him, I think you are very good, I think we can be together, I believe you. Eventually, just when everyone decided that they were impossible, they got together.
What touches me most about this story is not that the two people were so different but ended up together, but that there was one person who believed in the boy when everyone else didn’t, the girl’s parents, his friends, even himself, didn’t believe in him. That was the girl.
And as we friends watched them along the way, the girl never put herself on a pedestal, never felt like the man did what he should because he was better off than the other guy, and felt like she was losing out by marrying the boy.
Love needs to be based on equality
We always want reciprocal love, you have the look, then I have to have enough wealth to match your look, or I have to treat you well enough to offer you up to heaven to make up for the part of me that is lacking.
So many poor boys and princesses don’t forget to make up a chapter after they get married, and he later soars through his own efforts and finally makes a good life for his woman.
In fact, when two people get together, there is no need to explain to others how the material conditions of the two people end up or must meet the requirements of the world. Why is there a final chapter? That is to show that the poor boy is a white swan in a flock of ugly ducklings, the rich girl has a unique vision and picked him at once. Isn’t that a very worldly way of putting it? Yes, in the end, none of us can get away from it, evaluating the love of two people by virtue of the external conditions of two people or two families.
Many people fall in love with a person, will automatically become humble, the other party somehow was held up to the sky, was held up to enjoy this feeling, forget about it, feel taken for granted, hold people for a short time to enjoy the thrill of being abused, but also beautiful name that I am in love. The first thing you need to do is to get rid of the problem.
In fact, it’s the result of a long-term status disparity.
The right family can also be a spiritual match
Liang Shanbo
Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai, Xue Rengui and Wang Baochu, Sima Xiangru and Zhuo Wenjun, Romeo and Juliet, Prince and Cinderella, whether ancient or modern, Chinese or foreign, these love stories are actually a pattern, only two people with vastly different family backgrounds, blocked by the eyes of the world, they either broke the rules of the world to achieve a good story, or were defeated by the rules of the world to achieve a poignant love.
See through a man’s heart and see his tricks in the details
Eileen Chang said: When I first met him, I became very low, very low, down to the dust, but my heart was full of joy, because flowers bloomed in the dust.
See through a man’s heart to see his little tricks in the details
I Never felt that love is humble, maybe I am not as good conditioned as you, not as good looking as you, not as learned as you, not as status as you, not as wealthy as you, many, many places, but since you chose to be with me, then we are equal. If one party keeps feeling that they are bestowing some kind of favor on the other party, this mentality will only wear out the relationship between the two in the end. If you’re not equal in love, you’re going to have a hidden danger in your relationship, and you don’t know when that danger will turn into a dynamite bomb.
Everyone’s feelings are sincere and priceless. There is no such thing as one person’s love being inferior to another. The basis for love is the love that arises, but if you want to sustain it for a long time, it must be built on the platform that everyone is equal.