Beautiful romantic love is always like a happy fairy tale to be envied. But “fairy tales”, are deceiving. You think you will wake up with a kiss from the prince after a century of sleep? You think that the leftover glass slipper can really pull the prince to you? You believe that if you stay by his side, one day he will shed his froggy skin and become a new man? Don’t be silly! Love is a big lie, it just depends on who is more powerful.
For example, when people are dating, they always talk about how it’s going to be. Before getting married, make an appointment and sign a good prenuptial agreement. This is to distribute the obligations after marriage, like housework, bringing up children, dealing with relatives and some financial matters. The original intention of doing this is to reduce disputes, but in practice, does it work?
Watching around, some people do have less friction because of this principle of agreement. In a relationship, unprovoked bickering can quickly wear down the relationship between two people. Feelings also have a shelf life, and if they wear out excessively, they will eventually wear out. If you have no more feelings, how long can a marriage be sustained by children and affection alone? This is a matter of opinion. However, instead of trying to salvage it after it’s worn out, it’s better to take preventive measures from the beginning. Make an agreement on what not to say during a quarrel; what you say when you are angry should not be taken seriously; respect each other’s families no matter what; and make up within three days of a quarrel …… These are all ways to reduce the wear and tear on your relationship. If you can really do it, it is undoubtedly a good thing.
Does every couple who agrees so do it?NO. If the other person can’t do it, then what? A cry and three hanged? This is not back to the old road of wear and tear feelings? We made the pact originally to reduce disputes.
There is a saying that one wants to fight and the other wants to suffer. There is nothing better for the situation than this, and no one is discontent. What if, instead of doing what was agreed upon, what happens? There is also a saying called to overcome strength with softness. The most important thing is to make sure that you have a good idea of what you are doing.
Women say: Give me a big, comfortable kitchen or I won’t cook. The man therefore knocked off a third of the back terrace to create a great kitchen space, imagining happy dishes on the table every day. In fact, feng shui master said, the larger the proportion of the kitchen, the more dominant the lady of the house. Although I don’t cook every day as he would like, I have at least gained an advantage in feng shui in my marriage.
Man says: I don’t go into the kitchen after marriage because I don’t know why I get dizzy when I go into the kitchen. (Can be like your father crossed legs waiting for dinner how good it is? The first thing I did was to get salad oil on my hands, so I asked him to help me open the fridge and get the soy sauce; then I had to make meatloaf and my hands were full of vegetables and meat, so I asked him to help me pour the powder; then I couldn’t open the lid of the sauce bottle, so I came over to help me open it; since people are coming over, I’ll help you wash the vegetables; women have sweaty hands and can’t hold the knife, so you can peel the potatoes better.
Later, men used to see what their wives were doing in the kitchen after work and ask if they needed help. After the cooking he would wash the pots and pans and clean the flow table, and after eating automatically go to wash the dishes and then peel the fruit and put it next to me who was indulging in Facebook games in front of the computer. Maybe it’s because the kitchen is spacious enough that I never see him dizzy…
The pre-marital agreement on the distribution of household chores was “fair” and laundry and drying was my job. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public, such as the Internet, the Internet, and the Internet.
Look, a big worry like doing housework is easily solved. Just like doing sales, to make customers happy to buy buy happy, so that he willingly pay money, we must let him feel satisfied. The company is also in need of coaxing, women in front of men unnecessarily every thing so calculating, sometimes take a roundabout approach, may achieve better results.
“Do you think I should wear this one? Or this one?” Women love to ask.” People are beautiful, wear anything good!” A very sincere expression with this standard answer.” Help me choose!” Sometimes women really want answers. This one is more casual, that one is more formal.” It’s really good to use objective and functional distinctions to answer, without beauty or ugliness or criticism.
After being stuck in a big lie for so long, occasionally men have a sudden return to light (mis)-sightedness.” Why do I have to do so much housework after I get married and help you massage your horse at night like a brute husband, I didn’t expect that before…” This is what the woman told him: “You should feel very lucky, if you hadn’t married me, you wouldn’t have had the opportunity to train such a variety of second expertise. Look at the last massage you gave Grandpa, did he feel great and comfortable?”
“Speaking as if I should be happy…” he cried, narrowing his eyes. The woman will fly over the whole person ba in his body not to let go: “You did not very happy? Have you been happy? Yes, no, yes?”” Yes…yes…yes…” while laughing.
Men often think of the breakout quiz arranged by the bridesmaids on their wedding day: “Please name five strengths of the bride, and for each one you can take a step forward.” Holding the bouquet wearing the last level of the quiz failed to be punished by the pig nose, the man responded seriously: “She … very filial” crossed a step. Kind-hearted “another step.” Beautiful and generous “A big step forward.” Very smart “One more step.” And…very good at getting lost” took the last step.
It is said that men conquer the world and women conquer men. There is always some truth in what older people say. Soft, gentle, pampered, this is a woman’s weapon against men. Every man has his weaknesses. He loves you, of course, willing to pay for you. Just, he does not want to love you and pay unlimited. This time, you have to show the right time to respond and love. Because you love him, too, you want to do something for him, even if it’s not in the way he wants, right?
This love is not a lie, because you have something to give in return. This love is not calculating because you are giving back in other ways in other ways. This kind of love is not having to be how he should be because he loves you, but it is taking a compromise approach to achieve a happy outcome for all.
Love, it’s a big lie, and the truth doesn’t always matter that much. You are in love, and I am in love.