Several of our friends have talked about their not-so-good relationship experiences in the past, and they are unanimous in saying that they felt their boyfriends were not the right people for them at the beginning of their relationship, but they didn’t call it quits right away, and that they were the ones who got hurt the most after a long time.
“Why didn’t you put the brakes on when you found out the other guy wasn’t good?” I asked. I asked. Matured Yan said, “Just to get along for a while and see if he would become better.”
She admits, “I was too young, and I thought giving the other person a chance was giving me a chance.”
Mature Jade admits, “I’m soft-hearted, I think I shouldn’t have handled things too badly.”
Matured Show said with chagrin, “Waiting for a miracle, I guess, when I had so much faith in myself that I thought God wouldn’t play tricks on me.”
This reminds me of a friend whose boyfriend was so involved in his work that he wouldn’t spend time with her. It took five years until they both felt uncomfortable with the relationship, and then they broke up. Although, a few days later, they got back together, but always feel that there is a gap between the two people more difficult to cross, she began to doubt herself: what exactly love him? Her “bun theory” is a wonderful metaphor. She once traveled to a scenic area and waited in line at a famous bun store, thinking that there were not many people in front of her and she would get the bun soon. But contrary to her wish, everyone bought a large number of buns, and she waited for two hours before she could taste the buns. She was very emotional: “I heard that if you don’t leave in the first ten minutes of the line, you won’t be able to leave, and that kind of reluctance is no longer distinguishable from reluctance, or really wanting to eat!”
Thankfully, she thought the buns were delicious, and I’ve seen other, more pathetic examples. I’ve seen other, poorer examples of people who waited in line for half a day, only to enjoy it and then feel it was not worth it. Human nature is sometimes subtle, and the resignation of wasting a long time waiting in line can mislead the person’s true outlook, and the reactions are very polarized – some people will convince themselves it was well worth it, and others will be more jaded and give negative reviews as a result.
But after all, a relationship is different from buying a bun, and no one should waste the other person’s time and leave them waiting around.
When you encounter a bottleneck in your relationship, you need to actively communicate and find a solution to find a mutually acceptable way to get along. The company’s main goal is to provide a solution to the problem, and to help the company find a solution to the problem. Don’t waste your youth.