If you find out your boyfriend or husband is cheating on you with someone else, you may feel confused and overwhelmed, and the number one question that comes to mind is: “Why is he cheating on me?”
Here are some confessions from men explaining why they cheat, and it’s worth looking at your own relationship with him to see if you’re in the same crisis so you can prevent it before it happens.
She buries herself in her work – MARTIN 48 years old
“My girlfriend is a brilliant painter whose talent I admire greatly. However, I found that she was too involved in her work and often neglected me. I couldn’t help but feel lonely, so I went to my ex-girlfriend to talk about it. She treated me with care and prepared a nice dinner for me. After watching the game, we showered together and then spent the night in bed.”
Loneliness and alcohol – STEVEN 20 years old
“Ming and I started dating in high school, and she was very pretty, warm and funny. Later, when she was going away to college, we said we would be faithful to each other and agreed to meet up during the holidays. However, one night I got drunk and had sex with a female classmate. The next morning, I felt very guilty. Then I told Amin about it and since then our relationship has changed and I will never fool around without my beloved again.”
Revenge psychology – TIM 38 years old
“It wasn’t my fault, she was the one who started the affair. She was on a business trip to Europe with her boss, and they were having a good time while I had to take care of the three kids after work. When she came back, she even showed off to me. I decided to take revenge and hooked up with a middle-aged woman next door, and we only slept together once, but slowly I started to have sex more often. I see now that it was revenge.”
She likes me – Zhang Ming, 35
“I started having an affair with Fen after living with her for five years. I didn’t do it on purpose. One day, a woman was careless and fell headlong into my arms, and I immediately held her up. She was tall, youthful and enthusiastic, and she fell in love with me at first sight. The affair lasted for two months, during which time it was very painful for me to have to keep lying to Fen.”
She suspects I’m fooling around – Wei is 31 years old
“I’ve been married for 10 years. Every time I played out of town with my band, my wife decided I must be fooling around. I got tired of her accusations. One night, I decided that nothing was going to change her mind anyway, so I might as well just actually have an affair.” “That night, I had sex with the singer in the band. We had been flirting a lot in the form of jokes and were both eager to be loved. Later, I started an affair with her because she was very confident and loving and made me feel comfortable and happy.
Sexually incompatible – Ah Mak 32 years old
“Mei Ling and I had known each other for about 6 months and seemed to have a good relationship with each other, however, we lacked common topics
“I met Mei-Ling for about six months, and we seemed to have a decent relationship, but we lacked common ground.
Later, I had a relationship with a colleague at work, and I don’t know exactly why it happened. This lightning contact made me realize what I really needed sexually, and Mei Ling couldn’t satisfy me.”