Modern young people are becoming more and more open, no longer as cautious and formal as their fathers were about love and marriage, just break up or divorce if it doesn’t work out, and cohabitation has become a very common social phenomenon.
Cohabitation, which is one layer deeper than dating and one layer shallower than marriage, is basically not protected by law and used to be considered even immoral. But now the younger generation thinks it’s silly not to live together for a while before getting married, and they don’t want to repeat the mistakes of previous generations, who rushed into marriage only to end up in divorce. As a result, many people think that cohabitation is just a useful means to avoid unhappy marriages and divorces. But the truth is not as it should be, many men and women do not enter into marriage after cohabitation, but end up with a breakup. People gradually believe that men choose cohabitation only to live with women more conveniently as a couple, and will choose to abandon after getting the woman. This is why cohabitation is considered to be an irresponsible approach to love and is rejected by many people.
A study recently showed that the earlier you cohabit before marriage, the faster you divorce afterwards. What is the inevitable connection? The study shows that the earlier you live together before marriage, the faster you get divorced.
Men’s playfulness is still intact
Remember that in “The Wonderful Age of the Daughter-in-Law” Mao Feng said after the wedding, “I don’t feel like I’ve had enough”, so he chose to evaporate and run away the day after the wedding, when he was 26 years old. He was 26 years old at the time. This is a very good case, proving that men have a heavy playfulness. The company’s main goal is to provide a solution to the problem of the problem.
The earlier a man can choose to live together before marriage, the more it proves that he is still an immature man with a playful heart. If he does not have a playful attitude, he will certainly think deeply before living together and will not easily choose to live together so early. And marriage is needed to a mature man to maintain a long time. Marriage is higher than love, because that represents a responsibility, the responsibility of the lover to the family, and an immature man, the focus of attention in their own, whether their own happiness is the most important. So, the earlier you live with a man before marriage, the more you will not change much after marriage, it is still my way, and it is not surprising that the earlier you divorce.
Tired of married life
Maybe you’re saying how can you get tired of married life when you’ve just been married? The reason is that cohabitation is a form of married life, and there is an argument that cohabitation and marriage are the same, only marriage has an additional certificate.
They say it’s easy to love and hard to get along, and cohabitation is not like falling in love. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. This is a lot of problems that can make cohabitation fall apart.
There is a novelty period when people treat something new, and when the novelty wears off, people get tired of it, not to mention living together, and there is a seven-year itch after marriage. The earlier the cohabitation, the sooner people live a married life, then naturally there will be nothing new to say after marriage, and naturally the sooner the divorce. The men and women who choose to live together have less traditional ideas about marriage and divorce, and do not feel that marriage is sacred. This means that after cohabiting men and women get married, it is easier to decide to divorce once the marriage becomes sick.
Marrying out of responsibility
Once a man and woman are living together, they will receive a lot of attention from friends and family. People around them will encourage them to get married: “When are you getting married?” At a friend’s wedding, people love to ask cohabitants, “When is it your turn?” These social pressures can make the lives of some cohabiting men and women even more tangled and reluctantly decide to get married, mostly out of guilt or fear, rather than out of true love.
After living with a woman for several years, many men who are indecisive about whether to marry each other feel guilty about living with their girlfriend because he is taking up too much of her time — If she doesn’t marry her, she will only become a leftover woman who is difficult to marry and it will be more difficult to find a partner again. And while the woman lacks control over the process of cohabitation, she will take it for granted that the two of them are moving step by step toward marriage, but all the man wants may be to save on rent and enjoy having someone to keep him company, so among cohabiting men and women, the chances of marriage are only better if the man wants to get married, but not if the woman wants to get married.
Marriages that marry the woman out of this responsibility and guilt obviously don’t last and will divorce sooner.
Cohabitation can be very harmful to girls because many are unaware of their role in cohabitation, and if knowledge of contraception is also lacking, an unplanned pregnancy will increase the damage of cohabitation. So it is important to think twice before choosing to cohabit.