Emotional expert Xiaolongnu replies:
You listed one, two, three, four, five, six, seven conflicts with your wife, and in my opinion, your fundamental problem is actually number six – you said “there is really not much heartfelt, emotional impulse love for her. “
I think the fundamental problem is the sixth one.
If you love her, then “I found out after the wedding that she was generous outside but disappointing at home” would become “She’s a little lazy, but she’s generous outside and makes me look good.
If you love her, then “habitually checks my phone and twitter without my permission and doesn’t give me any privacy” becomes “she cares about me a lot and she’s being careful because she loves me”.
If you love her, then “I’m only home a few days a month, and I want to make out at night, and it’s very upsetting if she’s tired.
If you love her, then “I only come home a few days a month and want to make out at night.
If you love her, then “constantly fighting about the little things in life” becomes “the little things, just let her decide”.
If you love her, “don’t dress up even after marriage” will become “an old married couple, do you want to look so pretty to attract butterflies?” “
If you love her, you’ll be able to see how she’s been doing.
If you love her, you will be patient when it comes to having children. It’s not a big deal now that women over 30 are having babies. If you have a good gynecological infection, it shouldn’t have too much of an impact on fertility.
In fact, after reading the whole letter, I think your wife is a pretty normal woman, except for being a little lazy, there is nothing wrong with her. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. People are not perfect, you married if not her but other women, no these problems will also have other problems. The key to the problem is that you do not love her. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
You ask, “But do I have to sacrifice the rest of my life’s happiness for this word responsibility?” I think that a marriage without love is also unfair to your wife, and you certainly don’t have to maintain it. But if you want a divorce, you need to pay the price and make up for it financially. Because you do have a major responsibility. You married her when you knew you didn’t love her, and you are responsible for that decision. It’s not right to marry her when you see her good qualities, and then want to dump her when you find out you can’t stand her flaws, no matter what.