Falling in love is a woman from the emotional world out, into the world of two people a process. Because having a relationship gives women more opportunities to learn about men, romance, and marriage, it also prepares women for life after entering marriage.
But many women don’t go about it this way, but quite simply go into marriage unprepared in the compliments of men, which is seriously detrimental to women. For a woman to live freely and happily after marriage, she must make rational preparations for the problems she may encounter in the future, which means she must make rational choices.
1. How to choose a man
Choosing a man is what opens the floodgates of marriage, and women must go through this process.
Meeting and understanding men is the first step in marriage. In this process, women should not easily invest their emotions, but completely let go of understanding men, so that they can not only expand their exposure to men, but also, through comparison, understand what kind of man they really need.
A real man is not something that can be seen from his appearance. In addition to choosing a man’s appearance, women need to understand a man’s upbringing, stories about growing up, types of friends, hobbies, attitudes about dealing with problems, and a man’s future dreams to fully judge a man’s character, will, and potential. A man with will character and at the same time hard work, even though the conditions at the moment are not very good, such a man is very potential, just like a potential stock, such a man should become a woman’s first.
Choosing a man who loves you is more important than choosing a man you love. Men are naturally inclined to be hunters, and making a man an emotional captive is something men will resist from the bottom of their hearts. There is no need for women to do such a silly thing, but many women just do it, and there are many sad stories. It’s not necessarily the man’s fault, but the woman’s foolishness.
2. How to accept a man’s family
It is an iron law that the world of in-laws and daughters-in-law is a world full of conflicts from ancient times to the present. Some women may say that they have a good relationship with their mother-in-law or something like that, but statistically speaking, mother-in-law-daughter-in-law fights are common and normal. Women learn to deal with men’s elders while getting other people’s sons. The kind of accusation of how others can only make women fall into the mud pit of emotions, and in the end, it is always the women themselves who get hurt.
Wise women should learn to put an end to such mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflicts, because they may become mothers-in-law themselves one day. Learning to respect your mother-in-law can also eliminate conflicts like aunts and sisters-in-law. In short, learning to respect a man’s family members actually creates a good environment for the woman herself. Of course there will be women who say: why should women be required to accept a man’s family? Because the reality is that many men are pleasing women and their families, and men rarely do this.
3. How to handle the relationship between marriage and work
Love is beautiful, marriage is boring. When the wedding is over, love comes from heaven to earth, and romance is gradually replaced by reality.
A realistic marriage requires the pillars of reality to maintain emotional stability. In the face of women’s insurmountable pregnancy, child-rearing and housekeeping, women devote more of their love and energy to their families and men. Men are more likely to seek and practice development.
Then a contradiction arises between the development of men and the stagnation of women, between the boring life and the seductive world men face. In the face of such contradictions, many women are always victims of the reality of marriage, perhaps women will scold men’s conscience to the dogs, but such a compassionate emotional outburst is not able to call back the hearts of men cheating.
4. Facing the collapse or already collapsed love, what do women use to support themselves?
When in love, if a woman can consider this question, I think many of them will choose to work to support their possible miserable life. This is sensible and what women should do. Work is not only the backbone of a man but of a woman. Of course, many women expect to realize their dreams of wealth and prosperity through a rich husband, which is not wrong. It’s just that women need to bear the consequences of this choice.
5. How to give up one’s own personality
As with the above question, this question is only about how to make the couple’s life more harmonious from the woman’s point of view. Everyone has their own personality or characteristics, but women should learn to modify their own personalities in the process of interacting and living with men.
Imagine if men and women ask each other to adapt to themselves, it is impossible for such men and women to live together. In fact, marriage is to some extent a matter of men and women giving up their own characteristics to find common intersection, the more intersection, the more harmonious the marriage. However, this is not to say that women completely abandon themselves to cater to men, but women need to amend themselves to win a stable and harmonious marriage. This is true for women, and certainly for men.
Reminder: Marriage is realistic and in many cases cruel. Have women thought about this when they are in love? The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not able to get a good deal on a lot of things.