For cold violence, many people should not be unfamiliar with it, perhaps personally experienced, perhaps heard from people around them, perhaps they are a person who has been coldly violent to others …… Here are the The eight stages of cold violence, if you can recognize early that is cold violence, you can avoid being more hurt or more hurt others.
Cold Violence Breakup Stage 1: He’s Suddenly Busy
He Suddenly very busy, when you are still in the joy of a hot relationship. Your reaction is: I need to behave / or how he is so busy, you restrain yourself to reduce the frequency of contact. And he will not ignore you at all, and occasionally send you text messages and make phone calls. Unfortunately, there are no more phonetic words, such as “I’m home!” becomes “I’m home”. Also, there are fewer hugs and kisses between you.
Cold breakup phase 2: You start questioning
When The first phase lasts for a while, you feel that you are not as enthusiastic as before, and finally you start questioning him, why are you all like this lately? This time, this kind of person will not tell you straightforwardly “I actually do not love you that much” or “I have fallen in love with someone else”, they usually say: “No, I’m tired lately” or “stressed out” and then also They usually say: “No, I’m tired lately” or “I’m under a lot of pressure” and then they tell you “don’t think about it”. The first thing that happens is that the person is not in love with someone else.
Cold violence breakup stage 3: You don’t reach out, he doesn’t reach out
When there are some signs of improvement in stage 2, the coldness between you may not go beyond stage 1. But it is absolutely impossible to revert to the time before the cold violence, when he suddenly did not initiate contact with you. This is known as the third stage of the emergence of signs. This time, you send over the text message, he also back, you call over the phone, he also answer, but if not necessary, will not take the initiative to contact you. Your freak-out begins again endlessly: What the hell is he thinking? Does he not love me anymore? How did we get to this point? A series of question marks make you gradually lose yourself, you will ask friends around, will ask yourself, emotional ups and downs, the focus is all shifted to the relationship up. But when he doesn’t say anything, you don’t want to break up.
Cold violence breakup stage 4: When you start to say let’s break up
This is the time when women usually say, I can’t take it anymore, let’s break up. In fact, the mindset at this time is to try to salvage, not really to break up. Usually, this time the use of cold violence will be very tangled to a: do not ah; or give me another chance. In short, to retain you, do not let you leave. This time your mood a little better, think the other party still care about you. However, this good mood is also mixed with a lot of unease. The cold-violent person is just hanging on to your mood.
Cold violent breakup stage 5: de-escalation
This stage. Because with the previous stage 4, they will treat you slightly better. You will feel that the other person comes back, and this one is with too many apologetic feelings. It won’t last very long, it’s very short.
Cold violent breakup stage 6: When you start to believe that love is lost and found
When you start to believe that love is lost and found, they start to reply to the third stage, not contacting you, and becoming more aggressive. For example, a text you sent may be stone-cold, a phone you called may be turned off.
Cold violence breakup stage 7: You’ve gone crazy and completely lost yourself
When going through the first six stages, basically your human mind is already in a very bad state. The mood repeatedly too strong, you move to cry, waiting for his message can not wait to cry, walking through the place where you once had good memories to drop tears. You are torn back and forth between breaking up and not breaking up, can’t sleep, can’t eat, but unfortunately he doesn’t know any of this.
Cold violence breakup stage 8: You break up, he’s silent
It takes a long, long time to go through the seventh stage, the painful back and forth, friends persuading and scolding, before you enter the eighth stage of mourning. You sent a text message about the breakup, and the other side responded with a blanket of silence.