Flash marriage is like a ripe fruit, forcing the ripening period of the fruit to shorten, reducing the quality of the fruit, more importantly, so that the fruit produced simply can not withstand the preservation of time, far more than the natural ripening of the fruit rotten many. The 5 major consequences of getting married first and then falling in love are summarized below for you.
1. Marriage without true love cannot stand the test of time
How many of the people in flash marriages will have true love? The company’s main goal is to provide a better understanding of the market, and to provide a better understanding of the market. The actual fact is that you will need time to test any real thing, not to mention the need to go through years and years and decades, but at the very least, there should be a period of mutual understanding necessary before getting married. Perhaps you will say, first married after falling in love as well as can improve understanding, but know that marriage is not a dating party, and not just by virtue of a good feeling and can continue to tolerate each other with, or even attracted to the whole game done. Marriage means more responsibility, if not a little true love to support, any one of the smallest changes can destroy the original is not strong marriage. The aftermath of such a marriage before love is a congenital deformity.
2. Two families with completely unknown backgrounds and cultural clashes with each other
Marriage before love is far from being as simple as you think, marriage is not as simple as you want it to be, it’s more about the lining, competition and friction between two families behind it. The Chinese have been saying since ancient times that the door is right for the family, there is no shortage of beautiful love stories that break through the traditional confines of marriage, but after all, few and far between, the foresight of the ancients and universal or not difficult to understand. Two people have different life circles, habits, and even class interests can be different, values, outlook on life, etc. may not be able to fully identify with each other. A man and a woman, two people want to love each other in a short period of time or relatively easy, but both families to really integrate together or take a longer time.
3. After the passion, the responsibility has nowhere to rest
With the passion of the moment, two people flash marriage, the impulse of the moment combined together, but many of them are still young, can not withstand the temptation of a time, two people accidentally because of physical collision and sexual sparks and provoked the stupidity of talking about marriage. This kind of marriage which has the word responsibility to speak, since the beginning may not have thought about each other once, let alone after marriage to fulfill the responsibilities of marriage. The reason for this is that they can’t tell the difference between marriage and love, and they always think that if they have a good feeling, they can get married.
4. There are too many things to know and explain yet, which can easily cause a crisis of trust between the couple
Marrying first and then falling in love can easily bring about a crisis of trust between the couple, because there are still many things to know and explain to each other, and they come together before they even figure out everything about each other, and they may regret it after marriage because No time to understand each other, because of the changes after marriage, often easy to lead to the breakup of this marriage. The ripple effects of marriage are in every aspect of life, and if there is no relationship as a foundation, it is even harder to fall in love again after marriage.
5. Lack of pre-marital love “character experience” can easily lead to constant friction after marriage
Whether two people can be happy in marriage together sometimes does not depend on how much they love each other, but on the complementarity and compatibility of their personalities. The first to get married and then fall in love less pre-marital love experience, the other’s character is not enough to understand, the lack of a bonding period, only after the wedding to begin to understand and adapt, inevitably found that the two sides do not really understand and integrate with each other, resulting in a breakup.