Do you know how men choose marriage? Marriage is just as important to men as it is to women, and today we look at the criteria men use to choose marriage, and what they think about it.
Everyone has their own reasons for going into marriage. Some do it for their children, some for their parents, and some to quell social opinion. Here, we are going to discuss just how to choose and run a quality marriage of your own from a personal perspective.
What is a quality marriage? Everyone understands it differently. There are many different states of marriage, but the marriage that makes people comfortable must all be loving. So, if you want to have a happy marriage, you must believe in love.
I. Distinguish between passion and love; to fall in love with passion, marriage needs love.
What is passion? When you don’t see her when you teared up, it’s passion. Always want to see her, want to play with her, together with the bed, together with daydreaming, is passionate. The daily text messages and phone calls are endless, is the passion. It is passionate to think of romantic ideas for birthdays and holidays. When you are with her brain unconsciously planning a realistic future, is love. When you quarrel to very fierce, the fire is very big, also can not bear to say a word to hurt her, is love. The first thing you need to do is to know exactly what she is thinking when you have a disagreement, and to understand her initial thoughts.
Some people say that love has a shelf life. No, what has a shelf life is passion, after satisfaction comes endless emptiness, only love can fill the heart.
When picking up a MM, passion is the best tool. However when faced with the choice to get married, it is important to clear your head and get rid of the passion component.
II. Choose a woman you love and fight against the biological nature of men Men are a male.
Males in the natural world are all about chasing the best female possible and having the best offspring. The “best” also includes the number, not one, but as many as possible, while maintaining excellence. For example, as many women as possible to sleep with, beautiful, excellent women are again the choice of the most. Marriage, on the contrary, a man can only choose one woman, men always sleep with the same woman, is tired of. Therefore, marriage without love is dangerous. Because there is no belief in overcoming physical desire.
Tethering a man to sex is foolish, because men have very little resistance to sex, and if one woman can tempt him, so can other women. The reason love seeps into marriage is because love enables a man to overcome his nature and be faithful to the marriage so that the two can last.
Love can’t solve all problems, but it can give a man the motivation to solve them. A marriage that is not motivated to run is in a lot of trouble. Because there are many problems in marriage.
Selecting a marriage partner, there are a few things you must think carefully about:
1. Whether the two sides can communicate in a way that is acceptable to each other.
This is the most important point, not whether there is usually a common language, but the communication of differences and problems. To put it bluntly, if the man is a reasonable person, the woman must also be a person who understands reason, if the man is a person who likes to talk with his fists, the woman must also be a person who is willing to take a punch. If a woman likes to nag, the man has to be used to listening. In short, the two people must have a procedure to come up with a unified opinion, and both sides can accept. Better yet, both are happy to accept it.
This one is not a problem for people who really love each other; two people who really love each other are always thinking from each other’s standpoint.
The unity of opinion between husband and wife is the cornerstone of family harmony.
2. The manageability of the stress that comes with the union of two people.
There is love to drink water, but unfortunately only a full meal. The man is not married, is dashing, once married, the burden comes. The combination of two people with the pressure is certainly huge, must consider the ability of both sides to bear, they are not able to afford, do not harm others to harm themselves. Girlfriend if you like money, money to marry, no money do not smash the pot to marry home. There are some burdens that are carried for life.
For marriage, a woman who is willing to struggle with herself should really be cherished. The process of improving the lives of two people together alone is already a valuable asset for marriage. Don’t say that now such women are few and far between. Always stare at the flowery young woman who wants to change her fate by marrying someone, don’t blame women for being realistic. The woman who has never planned her own future, don’t blame the woman for refusing to accompany her struggle.
3. Whether both sides are a help to each other.
Marriage is not the whole of life, two people working together for a lifetime, helping each other is beneficial, blocking each other is detrimental. Complementary personality or, like-minded or, each other to become each other’s help, is really important. If you feel tired before marriage with a woman, trust me, don’t pick it up.
Home is the harbor, a place where a man will unconsciously pick up his pace when he is almost home. It is a place where one will completely relax and remove all pretensions once he gets home. It is a place where all the smiles come from the heart.
When you get married, make sure you marry a woman who makes you feel at ease.
All this is actually to say that the attitude towards marriage should be rational and cautious. After the attitude is correct, the skills also have a lot to pay attention to. For example, when arguing, to control themselves not to speak the language that they know the other party is very concerned about but only care about the moment, to know that the water is difficult to close. For example, when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel, the man should not take nothing to happen, and do not add fuel to the fire. They should be coaxed at both ends, but forbid them to say bad things about each other. Mediate the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the man as the only connection between the two, which is the man’s obligation and responsibility. Again, a common mistake is often to throw cold water on each other. Don’t think you are straightforward, or hold yourself in front of your dear other half is to be straightforward. Words hurt like snow in June. There are too many things that two people who clearly love each other hurt each other. If you make a mistake, you must also actively find ways to remedy the fight.
These are just a small part of the nitty-gritty of marriage, and there are many more things like this. The examples are just to show that when two people work together, they should always remember to love and care for each other in order to make their feelings like wine grow stronger as the years go by.
Lover’s moments are only sweet and romantic, while marriage is more of a responsibility and dull, a transformation process that requires both parties to be well prepared. The fact is that as long as two people are willing to face it together, the happiness in the dullness of married life is not inferior to the romance in the heat of love.
Are you ready to step into marriage? Are you ready to take care of your significant other by your side? Whether male or female, marriage is equally sacred. Choosing and managing your marriage well is also the fulfillment of a promise to spend at least fifty years happily ever after.