It is said that this is the age of faces, and brushing up on your face works better than anything else. So what role does face value play in a gender relationship? In addition to attracting attention at the beginning, can you also brush your face in a long-term relationship? Let’s break it down.
Not long ago, the term “face value” became popular, and the phrase “it’s a time for faces” even circulated on the Internet. The theory is that beautiful women match handsome men and ugly men match ugly women.
Does face swiping work in relationships
A new study from the University of Texas A new study from the University of Texas shows that couples who fall in love at first sight are closer in face value than those who fall in love as friends-turned-couples. People often choose partners with similar looks, behaviors, and psychological traits, a phenomenon known as “mate matching,” and time can break that match, allowing people to be with people who are less similar to them, the researchers said.
So “face” plays an important role in the beginning of an intimate relationship, but The marginal effect of face value on intimacy decreases as we spend more time together. In psychology, Robert Stenberg of Yale University has proposed a love triangle theory, which suggests that complete love is composed of three elements: passion, intimacy and commitment. Passion, which refers to an emotional fascination or sexual arousal, is an important component of love and is primarily influenced by an individual’s appearance and inner attractiveness. At the stage of just getting to know each other, the first thing we come into contact with when we first meet is looks, or face value, and only after the sexual element is aroused does it facilitate the further establishment of intimacy and commitment levels of affection. It can be said that passion, or face value, is a critical precondition in a relationship.
But as time passes, passion fades the fastest. “Usually we see paternal love in which they talk about everything (intimacy) and do not betray each other (commitment), but there is little passion left, and the relationship between them turns to internalized development, and the impression of each other has greatly surpassed the first impression. Thus, two people who may not be compatible in all aspects at the beginning are brought closer psychologically after spending more time together, and the evaluation of their partner’s level of external attractiveness changes.
Personality prevails in long-term gender relationships
Research shows that The “mate choice match” can break down over time, meaning that the longer we spend together, the less important face value becomes. When strangers decide whether to date, they base their decision on the other person’s appearance. But if two people know each other well, then they are less likely to consider appearance when they decide to date.
Because, as people begin to get to know each other, they see a lot of characteristics in each other. They may be attracted to each other by the passion in each other, or they may be attracted to each other by some common hobby, or they may be deeply attracted to ta by the sense of humor in each other. so the characteristics in each other go far beyond the influence of physical appearance.
The study also found that not only did looks play little role in the pairing, they also had little impact on future happiness in life. In other words, in the long run, whether the other half is beautiful or ugly doesn’t really matter as much as one might think.
Looking at faces is to ensure offspring evolution
When the object of admiration is a celebrity or a stranger, most people will openly evaluate them by their appearance, but in a relationship, people are always ashamed to admit it, thinking that “looking at faces” tends to make people appear superficial. Professor Chen Qishan believes that “looking at faces” is not just for visual enjoyment, it has a deeper meaning. From the perspective of evolutionary psychology, the emphasis on face value is to ensure safety in an evolutionary sense, and the act of ‘looking at faces’ is risk-averse and optimal for reproduction, regardless of gender.
Interestingly, a large body of research shows that while both men and women “look at faces,” men place a higher value on their partners’ looks. “We can see that mainstream groups praise women for nothing more than being young, healthy, and having visible secondary sexual characteristics, all of which releases a fertility message that suggests the person is more conducive to reproducing than others.” In the current cultural context, on the other hand, women view men in a more complex way, influenced by everything from social status to economic conditions, in addition to their face value. Reproduction is a human instinct, and if a partner has a higher face value, it suggests that the offspring may have more potential; a strong financial position means more social resources for the offspring.
This broad “face” conclusion is drawn from macro-community development, and if you look at the individual, the aesthetics are certainly diverse: some people like to be fit and full, some people like to be weak. But after a long period of evolution, the offspring of the former have a much better chance of thriving than the latter, in line with the human instinct to reproduce.
Couple looks?
In life, we always find an interesting phenomenon that many couples or lovers have some kind of similarity in looks and personality traits, which we call We call this phenomenon “husband and wife”. In science, this phenomenon is called “selective matching”.
An American scholar, Professor R. Bowe Steele, has suggested that the similarity of looks between couples or lovers is the result of “mutual learning. According to Prof. Bowe Steele’s explanation, our looks are not innate and unchanging, but are learned later in life. For example, when a newborn baby opens his eyes, he begins to “learn” the appearance of others, including how his “five senses” and even “eyebrows” are placed. Children look like their parents because they spend the longest time with their parents and “learn” the most from them. Similarly, when couples or lovers live together for a long time, they appreciate each other’s looks and learn each other’s looks more seriously. .
If you think you can love each other just because your faces are equal, you’re wrong. However, a little grooming of your appearance can really attract the opposite sex during the just-meeting stage. So, if you want to find a boyfriend, remember to make yourself look beautiful.