I am 39 years old, from Anhui province, the same place as my wife, who is 30. We got married in 2010. The relationship used to be very good. I bought a house in Fujian in 2016, in a very remote area, she and I are both from the countryside, neither have much money, and the family can not provide much help. 2017, I renovated the house in Fujian, she is in her hometown with small children, we have two children, a small one is now in kindergarten, the older one is in the third grade. We have two children, the younger one is now in kindergarten and the older one is in the third grade. We didn’t see each other for half a year.
Then she, the kids and my parents came to Fujian. After a while, she couldn’t get along with my parents and went to work in the city. After that, it was about half a year. After a month, she moved out of the house we rented and stopped living with me. I went downtown to look for her and she didn’t let me know where she lived. After more than half a year, she told me that she wanted me to find a lover. I was sad for a long time and didn’t know what to do.
Then I changed jobs and came to Shanghai, and my income was much higher than before. This year she gambled and owed a lot of money, and I gave her more than 100,000 RMB to pay off the debt. She was going to come over to be with me, but now she doesn’t come anymore. The good thing is that she doesn’t gamble anymore. I trust her.
We are both from the countryside and I don’t want to lose her. I don’t know if we’ll be together again next year. I’m not very good at expressing myself, and I’m quite a bit older than she is. I don’t know what to say. I can’t make up my mind to divorce her. It’s sad, the heartache of a poor old man.
