The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a focus of family conflict since ancient times, and two women often display two completely different positions based on different generations of upbringing, different role interests, and different life values.
They share a love for a man, and often have to live under the same roof in order to share more of that man’s love, or in order to allow that man to have more of his love.
Unknowingly, while hurting each other, but the one caught in the middle, the man they love most hurts the most.
And almost all mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law will say harsh words when they argue, and will bring out the most innocent man as a shield, as a savior, as a punching bag when they are hurt and in tears and at their wit’s end. In short, men say that nothing is right and no one is right.
As one gay man said: When they argue, my best option is to be a mute. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public, such as the Internet, the Internet, and the Internet.
So what are the words that men are most afraid to hear when their mother-in-law quarrels?
These are the 8 sentences below, and a simple analysis, I hope it will help the majority of female compatriots.
1. The wife can choose again, but the mother can not choose;
This sentence, a considerable part of the mother-in-law especially like to say. And it seems to me that this phrase is quite suspicious of instigation. It’s subtext is that wives don’t matter, wives can remarry after they leave.
Think about it, if a mother says this, how can her son feel? The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you want. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
On the surface, this statement makes sense, but on second thought, it is a total asshole.
The first time I saw the company, I was able to get a new one.
A truly wise mother should understand that a mother, no matter how good she is, no matter how deep and great her love is, will not be able to withstand the weight of marriage, which is a universal necessity and should be recognized and expected by a mother. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you want to do.
2. It’s me, not your mother, who will live with you for the rest of your life;
Not coincidentally, there are also many narrow-minded women who like to say this in front of their husbands: “It’s me, not your mother, who will live with you for the rest of your life!”
After all, the company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
In many previous articles, I have suggested that as a wife, you should never try to compare yourself with your husband’s mother, there is no comparison and no need to compare, if you really want to compare, it is indeed difficult to compare.
Ask yourself, can you really be as good as his mother, and promise to be generous and unprincipled to him for the rest of your life? The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
3. Our parents’ is not necessarily ours, it only counts when we get our hands on it;
I have to say that my daughter-in-law is extremely utilitarian when she says this, she is forcing people’s sons to ask their parents for their property and forcing their husbands to take care of the small family and not everyone.
They are theoretically and legally correct, but emotionally and ethically unacceptable.
And this will only produce a husband who will chew on his old man and not think about it.
The most puzzling thing is the tolerance of our society. People seem to be used to their children fighting for their parents’ property, and they don’t seem to be ashamed of it at all, just as today’s society “laughs at the poor but not at the prostitutes” is sad as hell!
4. You don’t treat me as a member of your own family at all;
The fact that a daughter-in-law is always a member of another family is a common problem in most Chinese families. Don’t look at the usual peace and quiet without mentioning it, but as soon as there is a little quarrel, this virus will kick in, making the mother-in-law allergic and the daughter-in-law hysterical.
In fact, I think the reason for this is twofold: on the one hand, the daughter-in-law does not consider herself as a member of the in-law family, and fails to really integrate into the new family, only to wait for the “daughter-in-law to become a mother-in-law” and then turn over as the master; on the other hand, the mother-in-law is really always difficult to treat the new woman as her own family, whether it is based on The two of them can never have a good conversation.
5. You choose, with me or without her;
Whenever there is an unbearable quarrel, both the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law unconsciously throw this phrase at the man in the middle: “You choose, with me or without her!” The man in the middle of the room is the one who has to choose.
Pardon me for saying so, but this is the man in the sandwich, as if people ask you if you want to die or not to live? The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem.
6. She is doing this for you, you are not at home when the original shape;
Mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law like to say this to prove their innocence, in order to let the middleman comment a reason, set a right and wrong. But since ancient times, it has been difficult for a clear judge to determine family matters.
It’s hard for you to have a big man, who loses his shift all day and then lurks around the house every now and then, listening to how you two women fight? Obviously, that’s not very feasible to operate.
And it’s detrimental to improving family relationships; it will undoubtedly only serve to encourage everyone to be more serious.
7. Your mother is in charge of everything, and I have no freedom in this family;
For this statement, I really think it’s time for the mother-in-law to think about it.
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The young people are obviously not as strict and serious as your previous generation, and this is something that I suggest that the mothers-in-law should be tolerant and take care of.
Think about it, if you can be so tolerant of your son, why can’t you be more tolerant of her wife? They are people who sleep under the same quilt, and so many things are the same. The daughter-in-law is also a person who is favored by her parents in her mother’s house, so there is no need to make life so formal.
As long as it’s not a big deal, it’s best to turn a blind eye.
8. Your daughter-in-law doesn’t care about anything and treats me, the old mother, as a nanny.
In fact, as far as I know, this phenomenon is quite common. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
Although the problems are inextricably intertwined, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law each have their own difficulties, one is difficult for the mother-in-law to really put down her heart, the second daughter-in-law dare not interfere too much, the third son will mostly be lazy in the face of the mother, the son did the mother’s heartache, not to do is the daughter-in-law taught.
At this point, it is also really a bit difficult to be a daughter-in-law.
The key to this is that the man himself has to take the initiative and learn to reconcile the contradictions here.