The two women who are mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have gone from having no relationship to now they love a man together and have become a family, and in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, they should be living in harmony. But
mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflict
the relationship has been long lasting and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have almost become “natural enemy”, so that the man who should have had the love of two women caught in the middle, suffering from the sandwich gas. So want to have both the deep love of a mother like the sea and the passionate love of a wife like fire, men take a good look at it!
Many husbands seem to have this idea and like to hang on to it as a sign of their respect and “filial piety” to their parents. The most important thing is that you have to be able to get a good idea of what you’re doing. The wives have nowhere to express their grievances, but to secretly shed tears. The women in this kind of family, because of the lack of protection from their husbands, the love for their husbands will gradually fade until they are disappointed in the marriage, some may flee the marriage, some may turn from tolerance to counterattack, and eventually let everyone in the relationship is scarred.
I don’t know where the phrase “there are no parents who are not right” comes from, but it is certain that it comes from the saying “when the king tells his subjects to die, the subjects have to die, and when the father tells the son to die, the son has to die. But it is certain that it comes from the society of monarchy and male authority, in which “when the king tells the subject to die, the subject has to die; when the father tells the son to die, the son has to die. However, in that society, this saying was not completely respected. In the Records of the Grand Historian, there is a story about a man named Goze (pronounced gu) who killed his son several times, but his son did not wait for death and escaped several times. This story alone shows that there are parents who are not, and that children do not have to be blindly obedient. Of course some men will say that the father was trying to kill his own son, his parents would not be so bad, and even because bad things are done by parents, bad things have become good things, and always hear men say: they did it for my own good! As if under the guise of doing what’s best for their children they can do whatever they want!
Husbands who are holding on to this idea should answer the following questions in order:
The first question question: There are no parents in the world who are not parents, right? — you must say yes!
Second question: Is there an asshole in the world? — you wouldn’t dare deny it, would you?
Third question: Is it possible for an asshole to have children? — you can’t deny that, can you?
Fourth question: Does that asshole have children and that makes him a parent? — Does that question even need to be asked?
The sixth question: There are no parents in the world who are not parents, right? — what is your answer?
Of course I’m not saying you’re an asshole if your parents made a mistake, but if your answer to the sixth question is still yes, it only means you’re an asshole! If you are not a jerk, you should know that the most influential traditional Chinese thought when Confucius, the old man left a lot of bad things, but there is a saying is the most famous: people are not sages, who can not be fault. I do not know always say “the world is not the parents” of the men, your parents are not people? If you think not, then I have nothing to say!
Every woman who gets married hopes that the man she has entrusted with her life will mature and take up the role of holding up the small family this day. But many men forget the role of the conversion, always think they are still parents of a good baby, one of the most obvious signs is unwilling to leave their parents alone to live their lives, his most grand reason is: I want to take care of my parents! The most obvious sign is that you don’t want to leave your parents alone.
Many mothers have the feudal idea that “marrying a daughter-in-law is to take over their own class and serve their own son”, so they instill this idea into their sons from a young age, and they practice it physically, taking care of all the household chores. They are always praising their sons in front of their daughters-in-law how lazy they are: my son grew up not even holding the oil bottle when it fell over! –Men, are you proud or ashamed to hear this? Are you a suckling baby who can’t even hold up an oil bottle? Or are you used to treating your mother as your own mother and allowing her to train your wife as your paid babysitter, so that she can take over her mother’s shift to serve you?
Many men who live separately from their parents are very conscious of the division of household chores with their wives. But if the parents to their own home after a small time away, he helped to do housework good habits will be destroyed clean, because the parents in that time, the mother did not let him do a little housework, the wife did not dare to assign him housework, he will be content to enjoy the services of his mother and wife, if once the parents left, back to the world of two, the wife asked to resume the previous division of labor, this husband will often come so A sentence: “My mother never let me do housework”! The implication is that his wife should treat him like his mother or follow her own mother’s life path! –The next thing you know, your wife married you to find herself someone to serve, to become someone else’s appendage, to be enslaved by someone else?
I once read an article written by a sister who said that her husband told her that my mother was still the best in the world to me because he was asked to share the household chores! In addition to feeling funny, I can only despise this kind of man who sings “only good mother in the world” every day! My only answer to this kind of man is: don’t get married, go home and live with your mother for the rest of your life!