A relationship suffers from insecurity, a phone call is not answered or a message is returned late, you will be wondering if he hates me? A tone of voice word will make you associate, a little suspicion plus a lot of association, the sweetness of love all washed away, this is a serious insecurity in the making. How to overcome this insecurity in a relationship? How to do it? I’m not sure how to do it.
One, know yourself correctly
If If you are super well conditioned and surrounded by a group of opposite sexes pursuing you, even if you are dumped by this short, ugly and frustrated one, a tall, handsome one will take over the next day, you are not going to lack security.
If you don’t have a choice, you only have this piece of chicken on your hands, and if it all runs away, you can’t even chew on the crumbs – you’re bound to be insecure.
You’re probably going to say that’s not the reason, you do have a lot of people chasing you, you’re still insecure – if you break up, are you sure the so-called backups are actually going to chase you instead of teasing you? you to pick you up?
Or maybe you want to say that your current TA is really inferior to you, that you’re better off in every way, so why don’t you feel secure? –You’re sure it’s not that you think your own conditions are superb? For example, you think you look good, in fact, a variety of personality wood; people are short and ugly, but super emotional intelligence? For example, you think you have a good family, in fact, no effort no future; people are poor, but work hard is obviously potential stocks? You know a lot of people feel good about themselves, online n many women claim to be in the upper middle young and lovely, the result of sending photos of all kinds of passers-by – visible – you have to be sure that you correctly assess yourself.
Second, believe in yourself and be strong
First of all, believe that You deserve to be loved, respected, and cherished, and then be strong based on an objective and relatively rational self-evaluation to sort out your strengths and weaknesses. The lack of security is based on one’s own body, not from the outside world, and the lack of security should be found in one’s own way of thinking and childhood experiences.
Three, learn to distract yourself
When we feel When we feel insecure, don’t just seek security. Asking for repeated reassurance from your partner will only bring more insecurity. Remember, these insecurities come from within ourselves, so only we can overcome them within ourselves. No matter how smart, sexy, love-worthy, or attractive our partner compliments us, none of that will drive away insecurities.
We need to seek our own inner satisfaction through various efforts, and distracting ourselves is the best way to do that. This means truly and wholeheartedly accepting the love and affection we receive from our partner, but not constantly asking our partner to affirm to us that “we’re okay,” which is a burden to place on our partner and a burden to keep us from ourselves.
Relationships aren’t all there is to life, there’s a lot of interesting things to focus on besides love.
4. Learn to mature and lower your expectations
Everyone is independent, and we shouldn’t expect our partner to read our minds all the time or know exactly what we should be doing. If things aren’t going well, we can be very clear about what we really want and have to reflect on ourselves first, never blame each other. Once the mutual blame game starts, we are more insecure because of the loss of mutual trust in each other.
In short, a relationship starts by identifying ourselves, knowing what we want and what we don’t want, and thinking about it before we start. If it is determined, trust each other, but also believe in themselves, security is their own to themselves, believe that they deserve to be loved and cherished. Be strong yourself and all is well with the world.