Gender relationships are probably the most elusive relationships in the world. How can we create the best relationship between the sexes? Both men and women want to know the answer to this question. It’s actually quite simple: tolerance, trust, and affection. Can you do it?
The relationship between a woman and a man may seem varied and wonderful, but the most important thing about being a woman is that you have to learn what to sing when and be able to adapt to multiple role changes.
Treatment of men: respect him and respect yourself
Men instinctively like beautiful women and need something else psychologically; women sometimes cater to men in order to win favor and in the end complain about not being respected. What should women do to solve this problem?
It’s because she doesn’t respect herself.
There are two kinds of pandering, one is charity, which is an excessive pity that actually contains contempt for superiority, and the other is sacrifice for others or repression of oneself, which is not devotion and actually contains desire within it — disguising oneself as a sheep to blend in with the flock, aiming to get the lamb, and in the end not getting it, getting angry.
Let’s say you have a wild personality, and to get him, you pretend to be a good girl. After getting together, he sends you a hair card, you actually want him to send leopard print lingerie …… but the hair card is what fits the image and preference of a good girl in his mind. You gained intimacy by pretending, yet you feel that he doesn’t respect the real you, which is clearly because you didn’t respect him or yourself in the beginning.
There’s a difference between catering and fitting in, just as there’s a difference between compromising and accommodating: accommodating is accepting after willingly understanding, while compromising is forcing yourself to accept that.
What you want from a man: someone who accepts you as you are
Women want men who are down-to-earth and romantic. Romantic, how to deal with this conflict?
There are two problems here. The first is that you can’t want to marry the suave Ximenqing and expect him to be faithful to only one person like Wu Dalang. You choose a man, it is impossible to choose only his strengths do not weaknesses, which is the basic of every person to accept another person. You have to understand what is the first in your own value sort? Can not meet the first and then feel the second most important. Women should learn to control and manage their desires. On the other hand is that we have to learn to appreciate the beauty of different. Love just started romantic intense; when the marriage three years later still so impossible; to 7 years is the aesthetics of conflict, to learn to understand each other; to 10 years, is mutual …… different emotional stage content is different, you have to learn to improve their aesthetic ability, rather than asking things around you to meet your inherent aesthetic standards.
Don’t some girls get tired of pretending to be naive and innocent, thinking that’s how they can win love?
Life is not a chapter, not the end of this chapter is the beginning of a new one, you will have to return to your own self one day sooner or later.
Faking it till you get married and fake it till you have kids? Now the family view is not the 60s and 70s, people think that divorce is an adult thing, children are not the bond, there is no less a father or mother because of divorce. So do you keep pretending until you’re old?
So a woman has to find someone who likes and accepts you for who you are, but being authentic doesn’t mean being a strong woman on the outside and at home, a woman can be in multiple roles. The company, in front of friends, in front of the husband, can have a different state.
Some girls can be playful and fun-loving, and men are happy when they first start dating them, but over time they can’t stand to be very broken …… This is why.
To each other: focus on yourself as well as on each other
At first To generate attraction, one must find the other person interesting, and this interest may contain a protective, challenging …… This is instinctive, but fun does not mean good, and this is the essential difference between love and marriage. Love is fun, but marriage has to work well, which is not the need for a playmate but a partner a partner, which is a concept of maturity.
Would you feel abrupt if you came across a case like this? The woman is very childish, her husband has been very good to her for seven years, but suddenly firmly proposed divorce, saying “I gave her seven years of time, with a very good environment to guide her to mature, but she did not change. Never pay attention to me, only focus on their own hobbies and fun, since she does not love me, why should we stay together?” The woman was completely shaken by this incident and found that she loved not him, but his conditions, and loved the environment he gave to live freely and have fun without thinking about the real worries. The important thing in marriage is to grow together and support each other. This case tells us to be tolerant of each other, to meet our own needs as well as to consider each other, so that we can work together for a long time.
For yourself: keep your independence
If a woman loves herself, she should never be a housewife. The housewife herself is not a role but a profession, she gives energy, emotion and time for the family like a job, but China does not treat this as a profession, do not get the salary, sense of achievement, social affirmation obtained in the work, so the heart is bound to lose. It may be satisfying to see your children grow up healthy and your home clean, but doing well is the right thing to do, not doing well is a sin. So if a woman truly loves herself, it is to establish the possibility of stable others to buy flowers for her to wear.
You have to understand men, they are childish at heart, they like exciting and new things, and they are fond of the old and afraid of trouble. That’s good to do, constantly have a little new to meet him, like playing a game to pass the kind of happy feeling is OK.
How else can a woman make him feel fresh and exciting besides changing her appearance or having a new suitor? Be thoughtful. You can be innocent and cute, but it doesn’t mean you’re an idiot, being cute is not being dumb, and being cute doesn’t mean your brain is empty. A good conversationalist when conversation is needed, and a simple woman when conversation is not needed.
Treating the relationship between two people: smoothing out bedroom disagreements
In Can a man be grasped through sex in a relationship between two people? Yes, many fights in the living room are due to discord in the bedroom.
Men love sex and they love a fresh challenge. If all he relies on is sex, you lose, but if he relies on the sex you bring, then you win. For example, you can dress up as Marilyn? Monroe or Aoi, but as long as he is doing it with someone else that you are playing, not really doing it with someone else on the line. The woman who can move is the most beautiful, and in modern times, moving is a change. A man’s sexual needs are lifelong, and you just have to change to move so that he can get all the new and exciting things he likes from you.
The book of men, which women have been reading all their lives, may not be finished. However, with people or with people around you, the principles are the same, love each other, tolerance and self-love. All we have to do is find the point where we both feel tolerable with each other so that we can talk about the rest.