Xiao said, “After the age of 23, I often hear people complain about not being able to find a date, and I feel numb listening to it. It’s not that you can’t find someone, it’s that the people you like don’t like you and the people who like you don’t want to do it.”
But have you ever thought about the underlying reason behind these pain points:
Why do you always attract men/scum who are not as good as you? Not as good as your girl has a boyfriend, but you’re single for 10,000 years?
Why do you interact a lot, but no guy confesses his love to you?
Why is it that you have been chased by many people, but your man loves to answer you?
Why does your blind date have nothing to say when he sees it?
Why is it that the guy you like is chasing you and not chasing you?
In fact, all these problems are because:
You don’t have the ability to make the person you like like yourself, and you don’t know how to avoid the “love minefield” and distinguish the scum.
When a person feels lonely and lacking inside, it is easy to unleash the wrong way of attracting people in and taking advantage of them.
Our inner lack makes us especially afraid of loss. When the inner negativity of emptiness, lack, loneliness, helplessness, and fear comes out, it only leads one into greater pain.
In fact, the kind of person we would like to be with and who we would eventually choose is already predicted in your personality.
For example, if you grew up smart and listened to your parents, you will be more eager to be free because of the repression hidden deep inside, and subconsciously expect to be with the “bad” man who is “unrestrained”.
This is why good girls and boys from good families are more likely to meet “scum” and “scum” men, because they have never had them, so they are especially eager.
That is to say, what we lack in our character, we look for, without exception.
This is just one of the reasons, there are three more, which will be explained in detail on air.