Losing love only to find out that you are just the backup is simply the biggest blow to women. Due to personality incompatibility, some conflicts, life trivial things dilute the passion of love, etc., resulting in a breakup of not a few. Many people think that the breakup is because they did not do well enough, bitter retention and entanglement, however, when learning that the other party has found a lover before the breakup, the other party is deeply devastated. They then realize that they are just a spare tire, just the object of the other party’s healing, he never really put his heart into the relationship. In other words, all the emotions they had invested in themselves had to go down the drain.
What is a spare tire?
There are actually two types of backups, the first being that there is a type of man and woman in the world who will have a “waiting” mentality, understanding that they don’t have a chance at this stage, but have the luxury of hoping that in the They are not tired of their duties and try to do everything a lover should do, and even more. The second is that they think they are in a relationship with each other, thinking they are the right child, but they are treated as a spare tire without knowing it.
One of the saddest things in the world is to be in a relationship where you are the other person’s spare tire and don’t know it. Not many people want to be a backup, because the majority of people want to be unique and special in the other person’s mind, not a pastime that comes and goes. However, there is no denying that many people will have some backups because everyone wants to make the best choice and find the best other half. Sometimes, when we are in a relationship, we do not know that we are the backup, we do not know that we are being played by the other party, and when he really finds the “right” child, he will kick himself away. To avoid such an outcome, you need to be able to recognize early on the characteristics of the other person who sees you as a spare tire, so that you can deal with it early and work your way up from the role of a spare tire to a “real” one.
How can you tell when someone is treating you like a spare tire?
One, does he think of you only when he needs you?
Think about it, is he hot and cold with you, not so fully committed, as if he has reservations? He is hot and cold to you because he has not yet thought about whether to be with you or not, when he has lost his confidence, disillusioned, in need of you, will show himself hurt, so that you feel heartbroken, difficult to refuse, so that you willingly pay for him. But when he does not need you, it will seem like he suddenly left you and disappeared from your world. It is only when he needs you in his life again that he will appear in front of you.
II. Is he unable to be honest?
Usually lovers have endless things to say together, you seem interested in everything about him, and he seems interested in everything about you. But after the two are together, the two seem to have nothing to say, he does not seem to be very interested in everything about you, mostly you are asking questions he is answering, and even reluctant to answer. At this point, you should pay attention, if you can’t be honest with each other, like a membrane between you, then you are probably in wishful thinking, the other person does not love you as much as you think, but just treats you as a spare tire.
Three, he’s a little mysterious
His whereabouts are a little mysterious, making you He’s a bit of a mystery, so you can’t figure it out. For example, he does not take you to see your parents or friends and relatives, you usually can not know his whereabouts exactly, he either said that business trips or overtime, or is social, he took you to places where most of the people are less, acquaintances can not see your place and so on. If you are with him after a long time, he still does not bring you into his social circle or friends and relatives group, all this is telling you that he does not love you enough, he is still looking for, he does not want to let more people know you, especially the people he knows familiar, because afraid you affect him to find a positive tire.
Four, never promise you anything, never mention marriage
And when you must ask for an answer, he may say to you that my parents don’t approve of me getting married yet, I’m too busy working to think about that, etc. They have a habit of leaving you with a ray of hope, only to shatter your illusions themselves when they lose patience.
For men and women who truly love each other, it is very natural to talk about marriage after falling in love. However, if the other party never promise you any commitment, in mentioning marriage is always about him, find ways to pull away from the topic, or to throw you off; when you mention the number of times to get married, he will completely lose patience, and even play disappear. This is a series of abnormal behavior, are enough to show that this person just take you as his spare tire only.