Men like to feel like they are in charge, so sometimes they don’t just make decisions about their own lives, they make decisions for you. Such a man is very scary, how can you deal with such a man? This is what smart women usually do.
The nature of men
A man knows he’s not right to make the decisions. Why does he insist? When you point out his mistakes, why will he stiffen his neck and not bow his head? Many women don’t understand this.
It’s in a man’s nature to love to save face. If you constantly accuse him of being wrong or force him to do what you want, it will damage his self-esteem and he will gradually move away from you. The most important thing is to create an atmosphere of “let him do the talking” and lead him to do what you want willingly, so he will love you more and be more considerate of you.
Men are creatures who are keen to be in control and prefer to dominate. There is no man who does not love face and pride. The first thing you need to do is to deny a man’s face and pride, and deny his ideas and values, rather than declaring war on men and tearing them apart.
What men fear and hate most is the aggressive, wrong-headed, restraining river lion (swearing is an absolute no-no, most swearing is based on the premise of insulting women/sexual organs, and women who swear are annoying and frightening). ).
If women are used to saying to men, “You’re still a man,” or “You can’t even do this, are you still a man? ” “I told you a long time ago?” “This is clearly your fault”, “It’s better to do it my way”, “What do you want?” , “Why don’t you…?” The company’s main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services to the market.
The wording that corrects a man’s mistakes and strongly asserts his point of view (right) can cause serious damage to a man’s self-esteem. Even if you are absolutely right, men only feel their self-esteem is humiliated and trampled on, and they don’t listen to what you are trying to say, and they will also attract each other’s resentment and disgust.
Make him feel like he’s the one who has the last word
For example, if an appliance breaks at home, even if you know how to fix it, you should deliberately play dumb, stupid, or unintelligent, and give the man the opportunity to show you what he can do by letting him fix it. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
The feminist quest for gender equality over the past few decades has fallen prey to the myth that the only true equality is when women can act like men and do what men can do. Therefore, those women who can do what men can do are called strong women and are recognized by society as successful, even if the price is abandoning their femininity. In other words, feminism’s efforts over the years have been to turn women into men. It is no wonder that the more gender-egalitarian a society is, the lower the marriage rate.
Gender equality should not be based on the erasure of femininity and the masculinization of women, but on the full recognition that men and women are inherently different, and that each can develop their strengths under conditions of equality, reciprocity, and mutual respect, without oppressing or exploiting the other gender. The first is that the gender is not a gender, but rather a gender that is based on the full recognition of the innate differences between men and women.
A truly equal and reciprocal relationship between the sexes is one in which women respect men and men are considerate of women.
In fact, if you know how to “guide, not teach,” women can easily get men to do what you want willingly on their own. The fact that men like to feel in control of the overall situation, value face and self-esteem, and don’t like to be contradicted, makes them hate being taught from above, but they can’t resist being guided by a good example.
Men show their affection for women by conquering and controlling the world, and then offering it to women. Therefore, as long as you know how to “follow the good example”, through subtle guidance, hints, so that men resonate with your ideas, views, and then agree. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of your needs/preferences and that they are your own.
For example, if you want Italian food on a date, instead of telling the guy directly that you want Italian food, talk more about the benefits of Italian food (healthy, delicious, romantic, etc.) on the date, talk about your favorite Italian restaurant, and get the guy’s approval The first thing you need to do is to tell the guy that you want to eat Italian food.
Get soft with soft
As mentioned earlier, men care a lot about face, especially in front of women. In fact, he does not mind letting you be the master, but, on the surface, you must show the feeling of being conquered by him and obeying him, so that he gets the satisfaction of his heart and does not mind letting you be the master. The name is also beautiful, I respect your feelings to do so. In reality, things are going in the direction you want them to go.
This is what we mean by “softness over strength. It is a very silly act to compete with men again and again. It may not achieve the purpose not to mention, will also get themselves bruised. The appropriate show of goodwill, and then the two step back, so that things have a margin of maneuver, but also for the skills of the world. On the other hand, this can also avoid a standoff with him. The first thing you should know is that when things get stagnant, the trends that follow may be out of our control.
In fact, men are very silly, only care about face and self-esteem, do not put the actual victory or defeat in the heart, as long as the face left to men, men are more than willing to obediently let women win the lining. Do not deny, refute the man to his face, when necessary, the surface concede defeat, preserve the man’s dignity, but can win more victories for you. The point is to get there, not the process. As long as the bones actually take the lead, it may not be necessary to fight for victory in form.
When two people are together, conflicts and arguments are inevitable. How about handling it better? How about letting him get the face and you get the heart, so that just about everyone can take what they need and be happy.