A woman who really likes a man is never willing to be just a “friend” to him. The more you talk, the happier you will be and the closer you will get. The more you talk, the happier you will be, and the closer you will get. Over time, the more “ambiguous” you will be, the more you will be able to control.
Letter from a reader:
Would you say that there is a real friendship between men and women?
He and I went to high school together, and it’s been fifteen years since we graduated. I had almost forgotten about him for so many years. A chance reunion of classmates, we left each other phone numbers and twitter, and also a chance one, we chatted online. Perhaps because of the little communication when studying, now suddenly found him funny and spontaneous, he also found me funny, intelligent, very talkative. We talked for four months, we are very sensible and calm, chatting content is also very measured, even joking, none of them have been serious, just feel very warm. In my heart, he is more than a friend kind of thing.
I care about him and I feel for him. I know he’s having a hard time and I want to do everything I can to help him and give him $30,000 to help him get through it. I genuinely want him to do well, but I still feel awkward if I have to have any skinship with him.
Two days ago I went back to my hometown and met with him, we met almost every day, just chatting and hanging out, getting along very well, but just the night before I was to leave my hometown, I drank too much wine at the classmates’ party, and it was very hard and I didn’t want to leave him very much, and I ended up saying the wrong thing, saying that I actually missed him very, very much, which is indeed how I felt at the time, and he said he was very grateful to me for that. He said he appreciated me and always treated me like a sister.
Now that I’ve calmed down, I think it’s normal and wonderful, but I was crying in front of him, and I really regret saying that now.
We are very awkward, maybe he is very busy, maybe he is avoiding me, in any case, the tacit understanding before is gone, I am very sad, want to redeem, really do not want to lose him as a friend. What should I do? Should I explain that what I said that night was just drunken talk, so that he does not take it seriously? Or should I communicate with him and not be pressured, we are still good friends? Or should we just let nature take its course and if he really wants to hide, let’s hide, will we make up after time? It is said that a soulmate is not to be found, am I asking too much?
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Reply:
If you really just wanted to be friends with him, you wouldn’t be in this tangle today.
I believe the kind of “friend” you want to be with him is a little more than a friend, a little less than a lover.
I think it’s a good idea to have a little bit of ambiguity, but not a lot of physical relations for now.
For women, it’s not unusual to meet a man of their choice and desire this kind of ambiguity.
It is important to remember that a woman who really likes a man is never willing to just be “friends” with him. The actual fact is that you will be able to get a good deal on your own, and you’ll be able to get a good deal on your own. The more you talk, the happier you will be, and the closer you will get.
You confess your love for him, and he flatly rejects it. The next time, he distanced himself from you. I can see that he really doesn’t want to make your friendship too complicated.
From the beginning to the end of this letter, you are deliberately avoiding the current state of your relationship. It is not necessarily the case that a man who has graduated for fifteen years and is in his thirties is unmarried and unmarried. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
His outright rejection is certainly not a bad thing. The best way to reduce the damage is to say no when a man can’t take responsibility for a woman’s love. It’s better to make a snap decision now than to turn it into an unmanageable situation later.
Now that he’s avoiding you, at least you know one thing: he doesn’t want to develop a relationship with you that has too much desire.
With that in mind, you should know how to handle your relationship.
What can you do to make up with him?
It’s easy. When you make him feel like he doesn’t “think” too much of him anymore, he’ll be able to be friends with you again. The premise is that there is no need to contact first for a while. The cold treatment period. The first thing you need to do is to find a reason to ease the relationship back up after this period of tension.
Only, if you really think that a soulmate can’t be found, and you want to keep it, then please really don’t develop it into a lover. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.