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Do you know why teenagers are not afraid of the world? Because they have the ability to “self-deify” and feel like they are the hero of the world, so they don’t die easily, so they dare to ignore all the dangers.
None of the teens felt like they were ordinary.
Add to that the fact that the frontal lobe (the part of the brain that can do complex thinking) is not fully developed in adolescence, and they can only see what is within five steps, and what is in front of them is too big to think about the consequences.
Who hasn’t been young? The company’s main goal is to provide a platform for the development of a new generation of companies that will be able to offer a wide range of products and services. Then one time I accidentally fell down, fortunately I didn’t die, I just had a concussion.
And nowjust is standing a little higher. place, I was scared, because of the understanding that danger is objective, and does not come with the < subjective imagination does not change. Even if I think I will not die, in the end death is still inevitable. strong>inevitable.
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The older you get, the more your ability to “self-deify” fades, and you probably accept that you’re not the center of the world, not the main character in the crowd.
Maybe you will never meet love in your life, maybe you will never achieve your dreams, maybe you will never be able to achieve wealth freedom in your lifetime, so you don’t want to live?
Of course not. Even if I play a game, even if I know that there is a 99.9% chance that I will lose, I will still be happy to play it. I don’t know why, I just want to create a reversal, even if the result is still irreversible, the process of fighting a backbreaking battle is a rare experience.
More than that, the real world is much larger than the game world and cannot be defined by just winning or losing. In the big world, maybe we don’t always live the way others expect us to live and make everyone happy. But you can still create your own little world, where the rules are entirely up to you. To play through it, a lifetime is obviously not enough.
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So isn’t it nice to be hot and steamy and just be normal?
But accepting one’s ordinariness doesn’t mean giving up or not working hard, nor is it an excuse for self-indulgence or laziness. The company’s main goal is to provide a better solution to the problem of the problem.
Accept your ordinary, hot and steamy, and Foot firmly, step by step towards your own heart’s desire. But no longer carrying other people’s expectations, or even your own, no longer dictating which point you have to get to at which time, you don’t have to squeeze the shortest straight line with everyone else and run for your life.
Some destinations can be bypassed by walking, and maybe enjoying the surrounding scenery.
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If one is overly influenced by the environment, overly confrontational, and overly mentally internalized, one becomes exhausted and slowly loses one’s inner vitality.
Finally, I’d like to share a definition of happiness that I really like.
In one interview, the host asked, “Mr. Hitchcock, what is your definition of happiness?
Hitchcock answered: a clear horizon, nothing to worry about, only creative and non-destructive matters. I can’t accept bickering, I can’t stand the emotional bonds between people, I think hate is a pure waste of energy and useless, I’m sensitive, and heavy words coming from an angry person can hurt me for days, and I know we’re only flesh and blood, and we get caught up in all kinds of emotions, call them negative emotions. But when those are discarded, then you can look forward and the path ahead is incredibly clear, and after that you can really create something, and I think those are the things I want to be happy about.
May you be happy, and if it’s too hard to be happy, may you be at peace.
“Don’t bully yourself”, a line from the Japanese drama We Are Made of Miracles, jerked my heart hard the first time I heard it.
This reminds me of my past self, when I gave up a major I really liked in order to get a good job in the future, and spent four years doing experiments in the lab, and memorized those heavenly chemical equations with my head, and finally graduated after four years of hard work.
Everyone else says that going to college is good, it’s free, it’s easy. The first time I went to college, I lost my freedom, I was more tired, more stressed than in my senior year of high school, and I studied longer. Because it’s not a subject that I’m good at, because it’s not my favorite major, it’s especially painful and confusing to learn.
At that time, I was on the verge of collapse and depression. If I hadn’t gone into the school library and looked for Schopenhauer, Nietzsche, Adler, Indian spiritual master Krishmutina and other great gods every night to discuss the origin of suffering, the meaning of living, the value of life, and finally become a little enlightened, I don’t know if I would have graduated mentally sound.
To this day, after many years of work, I still feel that the four years I went to college were the most painful four years of my life, and that working, working late, and staying up all night was not as painful. Because back then I was doing things I didn’t like to do, and had pushed myself for four years, and bullied myself too hard.
Because of this anti-human experience in college, I swore off college-related jobs after graduation, and instead went straight to my favorite job of coding, which has made my whole body and spirit much more comfortable.
The work I do is something I’m good at and I like, so it’s not a lot of work, and because I like it, I’m self-driven to keep learning, although there are difficulties in the middle, but it’s not the same as when I was in college and I wasn’t good at itI’m not sure what I’m doing. strong>small compared to.
Contrary to those who chose to go on to graduate school because they didn’t want to enter society to avoid work, I can say that I escaped from campus into society so quickly that I was happy to finally end up doing something that was the exact opposite of my talent, to the point where I wanted to raise a glass and cheer.
In retrospect, of course, I still regret choosing the wrong major and pushing myself for four years, because those four years could have been so enjoyable. If I had studied what I liked, all the contradictions would not have existed, and all the process of studying and taking exams would not have become coping, but challenging and testing.
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In the book Mindstream, there is a passage that says, “People who know what they want and work in that direction feel, think, and act in tandem, and inner harmony springs up naturally. Those who live in harmony do not waste their mental energy on doubts, regrets, guilt and fears, no matter what they do or what happens to them, and their energy is always used for good. The inner strength and serenity of the person who has a clear view of life is the highest level of inner coherence.”
In “We Are Made of Miracles,” the professor says, “Although a wooden spoon is just a wooden spoon, it doesn’t have to bother to become something else, and it can shine in different situations; don’t try to compare a wooden spoon to something else, to compare what it can and can’t do, just simply play its own utility. ”
So, don’t bully yourself. Just do what you like to do, what you’re good at doing, and go with your nature so you can live a natural and happy life.
In “Quartet,” Maki says, “I don’t think it’s necessary for everyone to have upward mobility, it’s not like everyone wants to be rich, there’s not competition between everyone, I think everyone will have just the right place for themselves.”
So please don’t bully yourself into giving up what you really like, giving up the life you want to live and living a life that is too stifling just because your family expects it, or because the world looks at you, or because of a momentary high salary.
If you’ve done the best you can, almost to the limit, and it didn’t turn out the way you wanted it to, please stop bullying yourself too. Accept failure, accept imperfection, accept that you’re just an average person and there’s no shame in that.
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