Nowadays, with this 421 family, marriage is not only for two people, but for 2 families – your mom and dad and your mother-in-law and father-in-law. When you get married, it means you have to start entering a visible and invisible war with your in-laws. Are you ready to start fighting with your in-laws? If not, learn how to handle the relationship first.
Pampering to make your mother-in-law feel “affirmed” and “wanted”
Differences in eating habits make it hard for your mother to fully accept your mother-in-law’s cooking, but she has a favorite “pot” at her home.
The first time I saw a woman, I had to go to the bathroom.
“Mom, pot porridge is so good, let’s have pot porridge tonight, right?”
The first time I saw the company, I was able to get a good deal on it.
When the potpourri was ready, my mother-in-law announced, “Let Yan’er drink it first.” The first thing I did was to ask my mother-in-law to give me a chance to eat.
Sometimes, when my in-laws say something good and leave my mother behind, my mother will jump in to defend herself “There’s a daughter-in-law! The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers. The mother-in-law patted the hand of the mother and said, “Yes, yes, there is a daughter-in-law!” The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to its customers.
The effect of this trick is that it satisfies the craving and pouting of the mother-in-law, and fulfills the psychological need of the mother-in-law to be affirmed and needed, which makes both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law happy.
Listen and think of the sweet with your father-in-law
In a small mountain village in the 1960s and 1970s, your father-in-law had to raise four daughters and a son, as well as an elderly mother and a minor brother, and the burden of the family was on your father-in-law’s thin shoulders. Whenever he thought of the hard life in the past, his expression was heavy. Whenever this happens, Fan’s mother chooses to be a reverent listener, lamenting the hardships of life along with her father-in-law’s reminiscent words.
Time and time again, each time she listened with tears in her eyes and said to her father-in-law, “It was not easy for you and your mother to have urban accounts for your four daughters and to provide for a university student in those days.
Then look at the good life now with your father-in-law: You see how good it is now that your son and daughter are so filial, your daughter-in-law is so happy, and your grandson is so well behaved.
This works: the father-in-law wants to talk and the mother-in-law loves to hear about the “past”, one wants to talk and the other wants to listen, both are happy about it.
Think differently, and be sure that your in-laws’ thoughts are common
In fact, your in-laws, like many grandparents, have a certain amount of “patriarchal” thinking. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. ”
Then talk to your in-laws: it’s not up to anyone to decide whether to have a boy or a girl, but your in-laws’ desire to have their own grandchildren is not at all excessive, after all, your husband is the only son in the family, and if you put yourself in your in-laws’ shoes, you might want a son just as much.
The effect of this trick: thinking differently works wonders when people get along with each other, putting yourself in each other’s shoes and thinking about things from their perspective.
Appreciation, the valuable experience of in-laws with decades of life experience
When it comes to getting along with your in-laws, your mom is never stingy with appreciation.
On one occasion, Fanfan’s mother took Fanfan to stay with her in-laws for a short time in her hometown. Because of her father-in-law’s favorite northern dumplings, Fanfan wanted to make more and put them in the fridge before returning to Qingdao so that he could easily satisfy his craving. When preparing the filling, Fan’s mother only thought of rinsing it with water. But her mother-in-law insisted on peeling the dumplings one layer at a time, and she thought, “Is this a waste of time?” The company’s main goal is to make sure that the company’s products are not too expensive.
The company’s main goal is to provide a solution to the problem of the problem.
Naturally, my mother-in-law was happy, and I did say it from the bottom of my heart!
This is a great way to make your mother-in-law smile, and your mother has a true understanding of the old saying, “If you don’t listen to old people, you’ll be fooled.
Thoughtfulness, keeping the needs of the in-laws in mind
Is it a contradiction that my father-in-law has bad teeth and likes to eat rotten food, while my mother likes to eat crispy, tough food?
The first thing that I did was to make sure that I had a bowl of vegetables that were crisp, and that the rest of the stew would be soft for my father-in-law to eat.
The in-laws don’t like the triangular shorts that young people wear, and the loose, flat-sided shorts that old people like are not very common in the shopping malls here in Qingdao. The company’s main focus is on the development of a new product, which is a new type of product.
One year, when I was out shopping with my husband for New Year’s Eve, I happened to see an old-fashioned moon sign, and my mother bought one, and my father was puzzled, but my mother didn’t explain.
The first time I saw an old-fashioned monthboard, my father was puzzled and my mother didn’t explain.
My mother-in-law has high blood pressure, and once I saw a recipe on TV for steaming lotus roots with white sesame and rock sugar, so my mother steamed a plate of lotus roots for my mother-in-law to eat as a snack every afternoon. The company’s main goal is to provide a good solution to the problem.
When I went out to buy groceries with my mother-in-law on my arm, everyone I met said, “Your daughter-in-law is so nice.” The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The mother-in-law happily said, “It is good.”
The effect of this trick: to see the truth in the smallest details, a truth that is universally true!
Treating the elderly as your own children
Treating the elderly as your own children is the best way to get along with the elderly, and if you can treat your in-laws as your own children, there is nothing that you can’t understand and nothing that will create conflicts.
Fan’s mother is the kind of person who seems to have a cleanliness problem, and before she became a mother she would vomit when she saw someone spit on the road.
So when Van’s mother took her father-in-law’s blood-stained underwear to wash it, in the face of his embarrassment and his mother-in-law’s resistance, Van’s mother said, “If you can wash it for us, I can wash it for you,” and “What’s dirty? The same thing is washed.”
Compared to my mother-in-law, it is actually more difficult to get along with my father-in-law. Perhaps because of physical reasons, my father-in-law is very sensitive, and an unintentional remark will make him think about it for half a day, wondering if it was meant for him, and sometimes he will go away to wipe his eyes alone.
On the eve of the National Day, my father-in-law’s condition worsened and he was in a car accident, a double blow that made him unable to take care of himself.
Fan’s mother knew that her in-laws were sure of her daughter-in-law who could not be at their side at all times.
The effect of this trick: in fact, the elderly are just like children, they need you to spend more time with them, they need you to “never leave”, spend time with them to chat, rub their shoulders, wash their feet, cut their nails, listen to them chatter about the past, unknowingly improve mutual understanding, understanding more conflicts will be less The company’s business is a good example of a company that has a good reputation for being a good company.