Men, who are complex thinkers and simple doers, are the opposite of women.
In the case of gifts alone, in a man’s subconscious, the most effective trick to please a woman is to give her a gift.
In ancient times, when the emperor favored a concubine, he would give her all kinds of rare treasures, and then ennoble her and reward her family. The company’s main business is to provide a wide range of products and services to the public.
“A ride on the red dust, the concubine smiles, no one knows it’s a lychee”, although no one knew why Yang Guifei was smiling at the time, but it should be clear to all mentally: it must be the emperor’s son sending her something good again! The first time I saw it, I had to go to the bathroom.
That’s right, the way men try to impress women by giving them gifts has never changed.
As a man, I know best in my heart that we did want to use some special ways to pursue in the beginning, but after these ways turned in our minds for I don’t know how many times, we finally chose to send gifts to women, one is to please her, to enhance the relationship, and two is to test the reality. The second is to test the fiction by the way, to see if she has feelings for her.
But unfortunately, most women think in a simple way, and they have always simply thought: if I accept it, it means I’m interested in him, so I’m not going to accept his gift until I’m ready to decide.
See the problem? A man doesn’t give a girl a gift because he wants her to make a decision, it’s just a way to please her, a way to improve our relationship; and a woman thinks he’s forcing her to make a decision by doing so.
On one occasion, a female colleague at work received flowers from another male colleague, who was obviously very attentive and thoughtful, and instead of just sending a bouquet, he put all kinds of flowers in a nice vase and placed them on her desk.
This scene happened to be caught by us, so we all made jokes about her, asking her when she was going to accept the proposal, when she was going to get her license, and so on. The fact is that we all knew at the time that they had not known each other for long, the man had not confessed his love, and the woman had not made a statement, and although there was a lot of “scandal”, the two of them were at best in the ambiguous stage.
I thought they would find a romantic place to have a candlelit dinner together after work, but who knew that at lunchtime she would send the flowers back, “I’m sorry, I can’t take the flowers! ” “Why? It’s not like it’s a rose.” “I just feel bad, you’d better take it back!” Male colleagues at this time very embarrassed, stammered: “Well, I …… really …… thought too much ……” Then, only after the female colleague walked away, he made a strong knock on the table, and then threw the flowers and vase into the trash can. After that, the two barely spoke, and within a month, the male colleague left his job.
This kind of misunderstanding over gifts happens every now and then. When sending a gift to a woman, men are doing a lot of homework, a lot of determination, maybe sometimes make women feel embarrassed, but not the fault of the man. Because before sending a gift, men are not likely to women to seek “OK” “to where” “when to send” these questions. It is clear that the problem lies in the way the woman accepts and rejects the gift.
First of all, women should remember that a man who gives you a gift is more interested in bringing you closer together, and he really wants your favor, but he has no choice but to give you a gift. The man does not know how many times he has read “On the Lasting War” in order to fall in love, he is not naive enough to think that a gift will fix you.
Second, don’t just take the gift and leave without a word, you must give the man a feedback: “Thank you, I love the gift, but next time don’t break the bank so much” “The flowers are beautiful and I love them; but it does seem a little embarrassing to receive a gift in a crowded place”. You can also incorporate your meaning if you are still unsure of his intentions: “It did surprise me that you gave me a gift so soon after we met. But I’m happy!”
Of course, if the gift is too expensive, it is necessary for you to decline, but when you do To clarify, you are not rejecting him as a person, but the gift is too expensive for you to afford. If he does not move to give you a gift, you must also refuse the gift offensive, otherwise the more time, the gift becomes a burden. If necessary, you may want to explain to him, “Sorry, the amount of the gift does not determine how I feel about you.”
Lastly, I’d like to emphasize that there is no explicit rule that says a woman can’t offer to give something to a man. If you want to take your relationship a step further, put some thought into it and offer to give him something chic for his birthday, or for the first few days after he expresses that he likes something in particular.
A gift is like the catalyst in a chemical equation; without it, the relationship reaction can certainly proceed, but the process will be slow. Accept his gift with integrity, he’s happy, you’re happy, no big deal.