Relationship is an important stage in the maturation process of a person, and an important stage in learning about love and sex, which, if handled well, makes a person’s lifelong happiness secure; if not, it not only turns both sides against each other, but also brings permanent physical and mental trauma.
I. Sexual contact cannot be avoided
A young woman in counseling talked about how she felt she had nothing to say to the other person in her many relationships and blew it off after a few months of dating, she was quite anxious and so was her family.
After six months of conversation, the man was not allowed to hold her hand.
She always had her mother’s advice in her head: never let a man take advantage of you. “The company’s main focus is on the development of a new product that will be available to the public. Although she has a great job and is quite attractive in body and appearance, her sexuality has caused her many setbacks, and she has entered middle age without noticing.
In fact, as a relationship develops, lovers are bound to have varying degrees of sexual contact. The first thing you need to do is to get a good idea of what you are getting into. The two people are instantly brought closer together by sex.
The development from love to sex will give people unlimited pleasure and motivation in life, and enhance their physical and mental health. The point is that in the process of love, sexual contact should neither be avoided nor taken lightly. How do you get this right?
II. The learning of ABCD
Some people abroad have divided the degree of premarital sexual contact into 4 levels: ① embrace and kiss; ② caress the upper body; ③ caress the genital area; ④ sexual intercourse. Among them, ③ is the warning line, must not break through, ④ is the forbidden area, as long as this can protect themselves. It is important to grasp these 4 articles. The concept of sex and sexual contact is a broad concept that includes kissing, hugging, caressing, etc., and never refers to the narrow concept of sexual intercourse alone.
Among the sex counseling letters I receive, there are many such letters from young women, some as long as a dozen pages, with dense, beautiful small print recording their painful experiences. It turns out that they were all abandoned after having sex with their boyfriends. As many young people now no longer see having sex during a relationship as anything transgressive.
They often can’t control their passion and sexual impulses. Some have not met a few times before going to bed, the speed of progress is mind-boggling; some rashly offer their chastity to prove their love for each other. The difference between the sexual psychology of men and women is not known, men’s possessiveness is strong, really possessed will no longer cherish. The result is that some women have several abortions in a year; some have contracted sexually transmitted diseases; and many are in pain after being abandoned.
Some even take the path of life. The first thing you need to do is to get a good handle on the level of sexual contact during a relationship. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. A well-mannered man will stop acting recklessly; a woman who plays with women sexually or morally is often stubborn.
It’s better to break up early when you meet such a person. This is a necessary means of self-protection. Some girls are obsessed with each other’s body, manners, status, power or money, and often fail to grasp themselves and wake up only when the man abandons them. The male partner’s reasoning is simple: “Since you said yes to me so quickly, you will certainly say yes to others just as quickly.”
Some people even call the girls who are still attached to them “sluts”. Some women are so angry that they go back to toying with men, going down the road of self-destruction and self-deprecation. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Three, the dangers of premature sex for the male partner
Many men believe that they will not be harmed in premarital sex because the male partner lacks the mark of a validated child male. Little do they know that premarital sex can also cause them embarrassment and regret. Because premarital sex often happens in sneaky and unsafe situations, it makes men who are already prone to be nervous and fearful about whether their sexuality is normal even more nervous and fearful, so they often have problems with not being able to get an erection or ejaculate too early.
Failing to have sex for the first time can cause them to fall off the wagon, but it can also exacerbate further tension and lead to a vicious cycle of repeated failure.
Sometimes the lack of psychological preparation and knowledge of the female partner, instead of understanding and encouraging, blames and belittles the male partner, which adds to the problem and further demoralizes the male partner. This situation is common in counseling work. It can be seen that premarital sex is harmful not only to the woman but also to the man, especially after repeated abortions caused by improper contraception, the man’s self-blame and guilt in addition to the psychological burden, but also affect the normal exercise of sexual function.